To think 35 isn't that old?

[roseanya]

I have a friendship group that has spanned through school and uni - there are 6 of us. 3 have children, 1 is v recently pregnant and 1 doesn't have any. I don't have children and am not sure I want them.

Each to their own of course. However, I feel 35 (our age) is still young. Yet they all say things like oh it would be great to be 18 or 21 again and get dressed up for a night out in town. Can't you have a night out at 35 now and again and get dressed up? I do and they make me feel like I'm "hanging onto my youth" I use Instagram and blog and don't go to bed at 9pm...since when was 35 old?! I know I'm not a teenager but I think they may be in the minority surely? And yes I'm sure a big part of it is the children, but even those who don't have children say these types of things?!

I'm 35 and still young, so no, YANBU.

I feel old now I'm coming 34 and my DS will be going into year 9 in Sept and I can remember being in year 9 like it was yesterday . But yeah I read something on Facebook the other day , when you're 90 would you prefer the body or a mind of a 30 year old ... if you think of it in that sense we actually ain't old at all but getting old scares me!

It isn't old, but having kids can make you feel about a million whether you're 45 or 25!

YANBU

I have friends who say things to me like "Oh we can't do x like we used to... We aren't 18 anymore"

I'm 33
And for the record glad that I'm not 18 anymore. In fact, I've really enjoyed my 30s so far! I am a much more relaxed and confident person than I was 10 years ago!

I hope not. I'm 35, and I don't feel old (often). I had a bit of a panic about turning 35, things still not achieved - but actually, I'm probably physically fitter now (being heavily pregnant not withstanding), and successful enough at work - it feels like more a time to start stuff than giving in and being old.

I think once you have kids getting dressed up and going on nights out can feel like a thing of the past. I could not be bothered with a big night out anymore and I'm only 30 with one child and another on the way. It's just not as easy to go out and then there's having a hangover the next day and also having to care for children.

The more I think about it the more I think your friends are simply reminiscing about an age when their lifestyles and responsibilities allowed them to FEEL young and free; not that you can't actually BE young and free at their/your/my age!

I'm 31 and feel like getting dressed up and going out was a lifetime ago. I've got an 18m old. Children definitely age you

I'm 35 and definitely don't feel old (though dealing with a "lively" toddler and also being heavily pregnant has it's moments!)

I have loved my 30s so far, it feels as though I have enough life experience behind me finally beginning to understand what makes me happy and what I want to get out of life, and enough time ahead of me to enjoy it all. I have friends my age who moan about getting old and will tell people they are 31 etc, but I really don't feel that way at all.

Eurgh sorry my post didn't make much sense - trying to deal with said toddler while typing..!

I'm 33 and still get dressed up and go out and I'm never the oldest one there. I just do it less than I used to!

I'm 37 this year and feel old. Sorry. Not old as in 70 or 80 but certainly past my best. It may just be me personally though as this year I've developed a few irritating health issues (back and joint problems) and it makes me really sad to think I didn't have those ten years ago. I'd give anything to be 18 again.

Well if 35s old. That's brought me back to earth with a bang. I'm 41 and I still think I'm 18..

That said though. When I was 18 anyone over 25 was decrepit.

Its all about mindset isn't it? I was a bit shocked when people started saying similar, and as I approached 40 I wondered when I'd have to 'act my age' due to lack of energy, by I'm in my mid 50's now, and still enjoying everything I liked at 25 (in fact have a taken up new active hobbies, and have to work to be patient with my teenagers when they want to loaf around all day .
I'm fortunate to be in good health, but I'd say keep going, do everything you enjoy, and it will probably keep you feeling young.

I'm that age and I do feel a bit old but a lot of that is because I have arthritis now. I have a 10 and 6 year old and yes they've aged me a bit but also in a good way - I'm much more confident and self assured than I was 10 years ago for example. I'm also much more tolerant and open minded. I wouldn't want to go back to being properly young apart from to not be in pain.

Good grief, I'm a 46yo mother and I still enjoy very occasionally getting dressed up and going out. Although I generally prefer staying in (always have done, nothing to do with my age) I hate to think I'll ever be past putting on a dress that enhances my boobs and going out for a few drinks!!

I'm 35, have a 13yo but I still get dressed up and go out. To bars and even -shock horror- nightclubs. I go on holidays to party in Vegas, Ibiza, Miami. Maybe I'm clinging onto my youth but I don't care haha. Honestly I can say I feel more confident about my looks now than when I was 25!

I'm 35 and the way I see it, I'm younger now than I will ever be. If someone already thinks they're old at 35 then they have a pretty long "old age" to look forward to... I hate to think what they'll do when they turn 45... Check into a nursing home?

I'm 36 and feel young. My body is starting to reject high heels, though.

I'm mid thirties and still get IDed. I pretty much look the same as I did at 18, half a lifetime ago.

Several years of raising a young family have curtailed my nightlife quite substantially for a number of years. That doesn't mean I'm too old for it. I'm fit enough for a night of dancing, although I'm not particularly inclined to spend a night on a dance floor crammed up with a load of sweaty drunks with blaring music of dubious quality.

I'm hoping my social life picks up when I'm in my mid-forties when babysitting ceases to be an issue

I'm 57 and now that my daughter and stepchildren are grown up, going out is quite easy. I sometimes go dancing in the evening (swing dancing not clubbing). I don't really do alcohol any more, but honesty don't miss that. I don't look young obviously, but I'm in fairly good nick and am confident about wearing the clothes that suit me.

Perhaps there are people who had the time of their life in the twenties and are constantly looking back. But I think life is good now.

I'm 36, and my days of going out out are definitely behind me.

I don't enjoy it, and I don't particularly like the person I see in the toilet mirror stood next to the slim 18 year olds if I'm being completely honest.

Would much rather stick to house parties with friends who are my own age.

As a 40 year old, I definitely don't think 35 is old, but there are still things I can't do now that I could do even a few years ago like go out (for a few drinks, not clubbing) on a weeknight later than about 10 or go out two nights in a row. I am more tired and hangovers are worse. Not sure if that's my age or just an attitude or even something wrong with me because I also can't do extra hours at work.
A friend didn't come out one Saturday evening because he was still hungover from the Friday night and I did think that was pathetic at 42 tbh.

I don't think what your friends are saying is implying that 35 is old, more like it's a different stage of life to the comparatively very carefree days of being 18 or 21, when it's all about doing whatever you want, going out etc, not perhaps having to factor in responsibilities like kids, career etc.

I'm early 30s with one DC and certainly still feel young - but I have a lot more responsibility than I did 10 years ago, and can sometimes feel nostalgic for the days of being footloose and fancy free!