Not to buy my daughter a Jojo Bow

[Luckymummy22]

She keeps asking for one and they're hideous lol.
She's only 5 years old but got some money from a relative and now is going on about buying one.

She also wants a belly top- I've told her to ask her dad

My dd is desperate for one. Personally, I don't like them but I don't mind if she wears one and it makes her happy. The only reason I haven't got her one is because I think they are too expensive.

I bought my daughter a black one. Not hideous.

They're crap quality, you can get much nicer ones but I think they're on their way out fashion wise as I keep seeing them reduced!

I'm glad you've decided to buy one. Your daughter will be so happy :)

I'm glad you've seen sense. My mum based all of her decisions on whether or not she personally liked something, and it resulted in me not being allowed pretty much anything I wanted until I was 17.

A bow does no harm to anyone and it doesn't affect you.

YABU they are cute

Since when has little girls showing their tummy been classed as "sexual" ?

@mummyoflittledragon
If you read my post you will see that I have bought her a smaller one.

YANBU to either. I think the fact that they are horrible and tacky is a plenty good enough reason. My 11 year-old is old enough to choose her own clothes and accessories (within reason). When she was 5 I chose.

@Giraffeski

I did read your post. I was referring to the refusal to buy a Jojo bow. There are so many things to have battles about with our children and this isn't one, I choose to have.

Cropped top, NFW.

The bow, I'd prob allow, although it would seeing her wearing it would make me wince. (And I do wonder if they can be worn in a different way from that hair-scraped-back way Google is showing me).
When I was 7 or 8 we all had Fergie bows. I had two and loved them. OK, they were smaller, if not more tasteful.

I think these bows look very silly, but dd wanted one when they arrived in school. She saved her pocket money for several weeks and bought one which she loved. If she is spending her own money it seems a harmless thing for her to buy.

I don't like them, I told DD2 (8) it makes her look like a present, but I still bought her one. Hopefully she'll get over it soon.

CrochetBelle, tbh I'd prefer my daughter to wear a swimsuit when swimming (or a long tankini that reaches the bottoms) and a rash vest/shorts at the beach etc. The latter as much for sun protection as anything else. I wear a rash vest and short shorts myself.

Cropped tops, bikinis etc. are based on adult clothing which does sexualise.

Ffs she is 5 years old and it is her own money; let her buy the bow

Dd saved up and bought her own x 2. She wore them few times. Now they're knocking around doing nothing. Good lesson in wasting money. Let her buy it.

My 5 yo hasn't got a JoJo bow but has got several which were made for her by a friend's mum. She loves them. I have so many battles with her at the moment that what she wears is not one I'm prepared to fight. I don't necessarily buy her everything she asks for but I will allow her to choose styles and colours when she needs new things. Some of her outfits are eclectic to say the least but I like that she has an opinion and enjoys expressing herself.

I wouldn't buy her a crop top though, I just think they look a bit odd on young children. I know this is just my opinion, I think it mainly comes from constantly telling her to pull her trousers up as they are all constantly falling down, a crop top would make it even more apparent!

Claire's have got some Jojo bows for £5 at the moment.

I think they're a bit of fun, and I wore similar as a young age in the 80's with lacy fingerless gloves.

As for the crop top, I used to have one of these too. My Mum was against it, but I wouldn't stop banging on about it. She allowed me to have one, but I was only allowed to wear it in our house and garden.

I think it's fabulous that your daughter has developed her own style already, and if you give her rules on where/how she wears the items, then she'll feel freedom and security.

It'll be a great lesson in money management too.

Let her have the bow - I think it's nice to let her choose little things like this for herself (but take a picture and show it to her first boyfriend )

I agree on the crop top though - inappropriate for such a young girl!!

@mummyoflittledragon
Where did I say I had had a battle about it or that I had refused to buy a bow that had been requested? I said she would wear them if I bought them- I don't like them so I would never suggest it to her and luckily she has not asked me. I was merely pointing out that I had bought a slightly more acceptable (to me) version of a hairband with a quite big bow on it so there are smaller versions out there.
Ffs.

When I was a kid we all had a dress up box. My favourite boxes were those of the catholic girls because they had lace communion dresses in theirs. Let her have one of those hideous bows for dress up but do not let her leave the house in it.

She is now the proud owner of 2 Jojo bows. Thanks Claire's!!!! £16 bloody quid ffs. Tried to steer her to the little ones but no she wanted the biggest ones going. She had £20 to spend so it's a lesson for her 😂

Late to this thread but read whole thing as I had a conversation about Jojo bows with my now grown up DD the other day... me: "you're so lucky you're not little now, I would definitely have bought you a Jojo bow" ... DD "oh God"

Very glad your DD got her bows OP - hope one of them is shocking pink I remember how it feels to want something v badly as a child and not get it - simple pleasures and they're young for such a short time.

However hideous they may be I think kids look cute in them and they're not THAT dissimilar to the huge floppy bows some little girls wore in their hair in the Victorian era when you think about it