Not to buy my daughter a Jojo Bow

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She keeps asking for one and they're hideous lol.
She's only 5 years old but got some money from a relative and now is going on about buying one.

She also wants a belly top- I've told her to ask her dad

YANBU. I don't like them and think they look silly- I also see lots of kids wearing them for school and they really look ridiculous with school uniform. But at 5 maybe she could have a smaller now without looking silly- my 4year old would wear a Jojo bow happily if allowed but I have bought her a hairband with a slightly smaller bow on it- I still don't like it but it's a compromise.

Why don't boys wear crop tops then if they're so practical for summer?

Probably the same reason they don't wear skirts and dresses.

belly top would be a big no from me (I have a daughter around the same age). Jo jo bows are ugly but would allow. They are not a huge thing here so my daughter has not asked for one. She has got a smaller bow she picked out which looks very pretty, she gave a small glance to one of cheaper ones in b and m but was only as had unicorns on and she loves unicorns. My daughter is much happier spending all her pocket money on cheep blind bag rubbish and lol dolls

My 10 year old bought a couple of 'knock off' jojo bows on holiday with her pocket money. I thought they were a bit naff buy she looks quote sweet in them. Save the 'No's' for the things that matter

Giraffe. Seriously. Why would you prohibit your child from wearing a bow? You can buy smaller ones.

I'm all for letting a child wear what they want within reason. Especially so young. Children spend enough time being judged for not conforming to "social norms" by judgy adults without parents judging them as well.

The bow is hideous, but whatever. It's fine. And it's her money, so she should reasonably be able to spend it on whatever she likes.

The cropped top is a different matter and not something I'd be buying for a child.

Our local Claire's had them 3 for £5 yesterday!

I think they are very garish, however if my daughter wanted one I would have no problem..it will be a passing phase.

I've been to two school assemblies this week and noticed it was only the younger girls that had them, whereas a few months ago the older girls were all sporting them.

Let her get one while they are still the thing

What the hell is wrong with people showing skin? Suggesting that a child with their skin on show is in some way sexualised, is dangerously close to blaming rape on short skirts.

SaucyJack it is literally no concern of yours if people wish to wear short shorts or transparent leggings. How does it affect you? I presume it's because it's common or slutty.

At 5, yes of course let her have a bow. Ebay do good versions and you can get a good selection of colours for very little money. Your daughter will feel amazing and that is what it is about.

Crop top is where I'd be more uncomfortable but then I'm seeing it through adult eyes and the social conditioning from the media that showing a little round tummy is a sexual turn on for some sad gits.

My philosophy has been fairly lenient over clothing choices and how the daughters wanted to dress in their own time. Was quite fun going shopping with various princesses and the like. My youngest (12) has always loved ribbons and bows in the past and at primary school wore multiple hairbands and flowers. Her record was 7 at a time. Did she get teased? No, not really as she was only 6 but the dinner ladies all looked forward to seeing what she would be displaying each day. Actually she started a trend as the year 6 girls began to copy.

Let her enjoy being little and experimenting.

I'd say they were on the way out too. Most of the younger girls in dance classes were wearing them end of last year/beginning of this, but very few indeed now.

Glad you decided to buy one, and that you said no to the belly top!

I dislike the crop tops for the younger girls. I see them in dance/gym environment all the time but it's most of the older girls (well 10+) who wear them.

Probably the same reason they don't wear skirts and dresses.

Ah, some will if pushed A couple of examples of schools this summer where the boys opted for skirts in protest at being forced to wear trousers in the heat and not being allowed shorts.

Let her spend her money. They are horrible though.

They are a fab at DD's school but my DD fortunately doesn't like them.

Just because you don't like them doesn't mean you shouldn't get them for your DD. It's parenting not tyranny. What's the harm?

I understand OP, I also think they are twee, but DD really wanted one so I let her spend some pocket money on one. She hardly wears it though, once she owned one after all the begging, she lost interest somewhat!

I think they are cute and there are much less traditional fashions she could be hankering for! It's a great big hair bow..little girls have been wearing bows in their hair since ribbons were first made! Really don't see the problem or the distaste as them..I'd wear a ribbon in my hair if I could get away with it,dresses up a ponytail for sure

Bloody hideous aren't they! 😂

11 yo kept mentioning she'd like one for her birthday. Why for her Birthday I'm not sure, as it's the sort of thing (small & inexpensive) I'd buy for her if she wanted it (she really doesn't ever ask for much as she's not overly into 'stuff'). Anyway, the point of that, is I agreed that was a good idea 😊 It's not until September, so I was hoping she'd change her mind by then.

Smug in the fact that I don't have time appear in public with a huge bow with a child attached...😊

...until her best friends mum treat them to some on a day out 😖😖😖

THANKFULLY they're not allowed them for school or several hobbies/clubs so 'wear tme' is limited, but I'm VERY tempted to get a t-shirt that says 'I'm not with the BOW' 😂

[No child was harmed in the making of this evil thought, she thinks that I agree it looks great 😊 I could get a part on stage 😂]

It's amazing how infrequently you need to go into town isn't it 😁

I wouldn't let my DD have a crop top. If it's hot enough to have their tummy out, it's hot enough to need to cover up for sun protection. Same reason I don't allow sleeveless or strappy tops (party dresses are fine, anything goes!)

Jojo bows - YAB a bit U. My DD has 4 fake ones (including a hideous unicorn one made by a Facebook seller, so definitely not MN approved!) which she loves. Yes they're not a discreet, understated, tasteful or mature choice, but they are no worse than the velvet headbands with my name on that I had in the 90s. Bloody loved that headband. A bow in the hair is hardly offensive, especially on a 5 year old.

Let the bow go. I remember having birthday money and buying the white jeans dm refused to get me. (I was 11 and was/still am a muck magnet). Proviso was I had to wash them. Every time I wore them.
The crop top-mmm conflicted. If they are just short t shirts, then quite cute. Mini bralettes, not so much.

All of those aghast at crop tops, I suppose you'd never put your daughter in a tankini, or anything shorter than a longline vest top?

Dd's cropped top today is a long sleeved polo neck, loose and shows about 1 inch of skin. There is no way that she looks remotely sexualised. It is not ghastly or inappropriate or any of the other terms on here.

I used to let my DD wear crop tops if she wore long vest tops underneath. She got to wear the tops she wanted but the vest covered her stomach.

She didn't want to initially but it was that or nothing so it wasn't an issue after first few times.

I hate them, they look tacky and cheap but I still bought my daughter some small ones for her bday last week and her friend bought her a big one as a gift. She's on a mini holiday this weekend but when she's back Iv already promised her she can buy a big one with the bday money she has, if it makes her happy that's all that counts