To have allowed my 15yo a second ear piercing?

[pizzagal]

This won't change anything that's happened but just interested to hear a second opinion.

My DD is 15. She had her first ear piercing aged 13 and as an end of year treat I've allowed her a second one, which is just behind the regular piercing. IMO looks lovely and really suits her.

DD has been texting MIL this evening who is a stroppy interfering cow at the best of times and decided to send her a pic of her new piercing. MIL is disgusted and has been ranting on the phone to me about how 'unprofessional' it looks, how chavvy, how inappropriate it is for a girl of DD's age; the list goes on.

Of course I won't make DD remove the piercing now but just interested to hear the general opinion.

I had my second holes done at 16 much to my mother's disgust (my dad took me to get them done). I had the cartilage of one ear done at 18 and my mum told me she didn't think it was very "befitting of someone wanting to practise law"

I have managed to qualify as a solicitor and spend the last 9 years working as one despite have two piercings in each ear. I let the cartilage one close up when I was 20 as it got infected, but I suspect it wouldn't have affected my ability to be "professional" either.

Tbh I doubt most "professional" places would even notice...and if they did they wouldn't care.

Tell your MIL you've conducted a survey of all the "professionals" you know and no-one gives a shit about ear piercings

The worst thing is knowing that no matter how hard I try, I just know I'm going to do this old fashioned thing when I'm old and grumpy!

BoobieHolster no, just a second of pain as the ear is pierced. Looks fab!

My god - I'm in my 50s, was a very conventional teenager all those years ago and still had my second piercing when I was still at school! It was nothing even in the last century let alone now!

Tell her DD is pondering getting one of those lobe stretchers. That'll soon take her mind off the second piercing.

I have two in each earlobe and I still remember the battle I had to have with my dad to be allowed those second piercings! He was always telling me that people would judge me for them and that I wouldn't be able to get a job and blah blah.

I'm now 33 and I'm doing just fine!

MilleMoodle ah, fabulous idea re survey! Although MIL has strong negative opinions regarding surveys too.

Pizza sorry but that's hilarious! What are her negative feelings around surveys? Also, is she my mother?!

Nah, let her have her chance to experiment. I feel sorry for kids now. When I was her age, I was decked out full goth...wore New Rock boots to school, ground length skirt, badges on my tie, red and black hair in floofy glam-rock style. Obviously prior to super strict uniforms (but only 13 years ago)! I didn't have piercings cause I'm a wuss, but if I wasn't, I would have wanted to have them.
I was still a good worker, I got good grades, enjoyed my years of being able to do fun things with my appearance and my hair. In uni, I had a mohawk and it was the best hairstyle I've ever had. I felt so confident.

A year before graduating, I cut the long mohawk bit off, gradually grew my hair back in from being obviously super short...like an inch long...until it was a normal style again. And now I am a professional who dresses professionally.

Your youth should be when he have the chance to have fun. You're not having to be professional when you're 15!

MillieMoodle yes, we do have to laugh :) she believes that they're intrusive and that the things they ask is 'none of the surveyors business'. She also believes that they secretly take down your name and keep a record of the precise info you give. Hence never answers in surveys

I got my belly pierced on the first day of year 9. I had my lip pierced twice when I was 13, tongue pierced when I was 14 and first tattoo at 15.

My mum let me have all of them. No one said anything bad. I asked, she said yes.

When I was 15, I left school on the lunch break to get my lip pierced a third time!

I'm in my 40s, a very respectable professional with several ear piercings- lobes, daith and helix.

Rarely commented upon- why would they be??

None of your MILs business!

My mum had my ears pierced as a baby (I know it's not the done thing now but 25 years ago it wasn't so unusual!). Had my second piercings done at 9. By your dd's age I had done the 3rd and 4th ones myself with a needle at the back of a GCSE geography lesson

Ah what a load of shit. She'll look fine, and there is nothing wrong with second holes. I have five I had my second holes done at 15 when I sneakily had them done, no-one noticed for months

Crikey, I had 2nd piercings done as a teen, and had my first cartiledge piercing done this year at the ripe old age of 48.

DD had 2nd piercings done aged 15, but the piercer botched it (was done at a salon). She's since had a cartiledge piercing done at a tattooist, and plans to get other piercings done and she's still only 17.

OP, for any further piercings, I do recommend getting them done at a tattooist, their piercers are more skilled than the salon/Claire's types using a gun.

Purplemac I mean, I was a rebel and I understand that teens' brains are not rational... But seriously, a geography class! Why? Just why?

Isn't it your daughters chouce?

My 56yo mother has double ear piercings and she's as far from 'chavvy' as you can get!!. Also been in a professional job for the last 30!years.

Tell MIL to do one 🖕

My 12 year old got her second piercings at the start of the summer. My dad strangely enough who has never voiced any kind of opinion on anything of a clothes, style type started to roll his eyes and open his mouth. He got a look from me, a very pointed one. I wouldn't even have discussed it with him if he had made a comment. It's none of his business and God help him if the word chavvy escaped his lips in general conversation, never mind a conversation that my child was party to. My daughter's look fab as well, it has induced much ear piercing envy amongst me, my sister and my mum .

Pizza oh dear god she IS my mother!

Is she also suspicious of The Internet? I love my mum to bits but she thinks the flashing lights on the home hub means some is hacking into their computer.

I would love for her to visit my firm. We have no formal dress code, my assistant has lots of ear piercings, a tongue stud and tattoos. We're still professional though, although I doubt your MIL would agree!

By age 14 I had 3 holes in each ear, my tragus, the top of one ear and my belly button pierced.

Added a tongue and nipple piercing as an adult.

It's no big deal IMO, you can take the earrings out for work if need be.

Entire family is pierced and tattooed. Its either something you love or its not.

I snuck off age 16 to get my second piercings done, then spent a month covering my ears with my hairdo my mum wouldn't notice

I'm a senior manager, supplier facing, and no-one has ever commented on my (completely tame these days) piercings.

I have similar aged kids.

It's a piercing not a tattoo. If she doesn't like it she can make the hole heal. For conservative/serious situations she could wear something discreet like a stud (if she normally wears something very noticeable) or hide with hair.

I must have very old fashioned kids.

No piercings, no tattoos. They have never asked. ( I don't have piercings or tattoos either, neither does OH)