to use my DC's money for this?

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Posting mainly for advice and traffic!

DD(6) is not much of a spender (relevant) and gets £3 pocket money per week. We went to the shops today and she had £15 saved up! When she does spend she buys mostly cheap crap, maybe a magazine, some sweets or occasionally a bigger toy.

(1) Her dad gave her £30 in April for a holiday and she didn't spend it so with his agreement I bought her a new suitcase for her which was £39. He's now given her £20 for another holiday which she hasn't spent. WIBU to take £9 from it towards the rest of the suitcase and put the rest in her savings? She hasn't spent it as she's had her pocket money saved to spend.

(2) She's shortly going on holiday with her Dad and I was going to send her with her normal pocket money converted to local currency for the duration of the trip. Is that reasonable or a bit tight?

Before I get flamed for being tight having mentioned going on holiday twice so far this year, both have been cheap trips paid for by family members as I am on maternity leave and we wouldn't have gone otherwise!

Thanks!

I would not take any money from her. I would also separate her holiday and pocket money.

It's great that she is a saver. Let her save and encourage it. By taking her money you're teaching her that if she doesn't spend her money it will disappear. That doesn't happen in real life and it's not a good lesson to teach. You don't want her to start throwing her money away because she thinks if she doesn't spend it she'll lose it. Get her a savings account and show her that she's being sensible and how money grows when it's saved, not diminishes.

I don't think you're being unreasonable at all. If she's not spending her money, then there must be times that you are paying for her treats. If it's just sitting there, then I'd be tempted to take the £9 as well.
As for the holiday spending money, if you've got it spare then I'd send with £20 like dad did

Haven't rtft but couldn't you just give her the £20 back to take on the holiday with her dad? Then it hasn't cost you anything but you also don't look tight only sending her with £3.

My daughter got a suitcase from her nanny for her Xmas a year or two ago when she was ,7 and she was delighted (and still loves it). Big solid wheely one that's all glossy with a picture of a horse on it.

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I agree that the further £9 shouldnt be used

And of course the suitcase can be a present

RainbowsAndUnicorn please RTFT - she didn't need a suitcase I bought her one she'd wanted for ages with her unspent holiday money. She chose it. Her current suitcase would have done the job.

Thanks for the additional comments. I've decided to give her €10 from me for the three lots of pocket money between now and when she's back. I've let her Dad know the £20 he gave her has not been spent and it's coming with her. He can give her guidance to spend/save it as she wishes (he's her parent too!). Her leftover pocket money (£5) will be here in her room for when she gets back.