To want to shout 'It is blatantly obvious you're having an affair' to the couple opposite me on the train

[BoysofMelody]

And if I've figured it out within 20 minutes of sitting opposite you on a train, with all the furtive hand touching and stolen glances, your work colleagues will almost certainly know you're carrying on. Get better at being discrete or keep it in your pants.

On the plus side, I forgot to bring my book with me and watching this play out is terrific entertainment.

Yes, I am hoping the opportunity to use outraged arse twitchers will arise, too. Should be soon on AIBU, people do seek offence. I blame the weather.

Ah that does look Very Suspicious

What's "activewear"?

Maybe they dont care if colleagues know. I've known colleagues oprnly have affairs. Not like anyone is going to tell.

While you were checking to see if she was wearing a ring, did you see anything like eczema or psoriasis that might suggest that's why she was ringless?

I love people-watching on a train but just something else to consider...

I think at the point you start looking for skin conditions the magic of the idle daydream is officially lost.

You could just ask them.

When DH and I met we were both in fairly serious relationships with other people. We were part of a group of friends for two years, both of us silently fancying the other and trying really hard not to and definitely not flirting.

Everywhere we went, who ever we were with, other people assumed we were a couple. We were once in the pub and I was sitting on my then boyfriend's knee and DH had his arm around his girlfriend and this gipsy who was going around selling flowers said, "No you two are the couple, she's the girl for you".

So yes, I think you give off vibes or hormones or something when you have feelings for someone.

I don't wear a wedding ring because of work. DH wears his though.
Now I know why the guy in Waterstones cafe gives us a knowing look! (Only ordering coffee though, no furtive friskiness).

movingonup

Ooh and once, pre getting together, DH and I met for a friendly drink after work. Again zero flirting involved. As we were leaving I heard a girl saying to a guy she was with, "They're having an affair".

Imo, it's OK to wonder about people on a train as long as you don't interfere, what people do is up to them.

I was on a train, had forgotten my book and didn't want to get my phone out and I admit I did get a bit nosy. I glanced over the shoulder of a man messaging a man called something like "big dick John" and was intrigued. They were sexting whilst the man was sat on the train! In the middle of sexting, train man had a phone call from his partner (although I assume they were married because of his wedding ring) about mind numbing stuff (along the lines of what's for dinner, doing household chores). Once the conversation finished, him and big dick John arranged a threesome with another completely different man and messaged to say he'd try and get out and meet by 7pm for it. He had that obsession of locking his phone after every message which I could only put down to habit from cheating. I still wonder about it now sometimes but that was my scandal for the day.

Do you think she'll get anywhere with him?

He's wearing a wedding ring and she isn't? Well that hardly sounds like a new couple or anything does it as people are suggesting?

My DH wears a wedding ring, I don't. We are definitely married. (Don't like wearing rings.)

Meowstro I like how he was paranoid enough to always lock his phone, but still saved the man as 'big dick john' (or equivalent) Real discreet.

I was thinking that too, Sue, why not just call him John?

Perhaps they're a happily married couple playing Monogamy. Some of the cards in that game tell you have an evening out with your bona fide partner, but pretend you're having an affair, with furtive glances, checking nobody's looking before kissing, etc.

meow I once sat in a lecture behind somebody sexting their boyfriend. Full screen on their laptop!

SueMacartney, I never really thought about that at the time but it was some sort of messaging app (not normal texts) so maybe he wasn't actually a saved phone contact Or didn't want to confuse his messages with bog standard John down the road? Bloomin heck, I'll be mulling this over again now!

PolkadotsAndMoonbeams Surely there's a time and a place? Isn't sexting meant to be for pleasure for both parties?

Everyone knows lots of John's and they also seem to be middle aged. A system of distinguishing between John's is handy.

At one workplace there was three Johns all roughly of the same age. They were distinguished this:

Angry John
Dimwit John
Gay John

Gay John really won the battle of the prefixed Johns. Although Big Dick John runs him close.

On the train back. No licentiousness to report. Just a bloke in his 40s watching WWF wrestling on his phone.

The OP had a seat on a train at 0811 this morning? Cannot be Southern Trains then.

Other end of the country. Travelling long distance so reserved a seat.

I had the opposite years ago: my bf (at the time) and I were having a long distance relationship, so when we got together we couldn't keep our hands off each other. I'd gone to visit him, we were in the pub holding hands, smooching, intense gazes, all that lovey dovey stuff, when an elderly woman sitting at the next table leaned over with a "Aaaaw" expression on her face and asked if we were brother and sister!! .

I think it's all very entertaining but FFS!! Get a life!