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WIBU to call in sick when I'm not sick?

89 replies

MusicalChairsOh · 17/07/2017 17:16

I work in a nursing home and I'm due in on Wednesday.

2 patients were sick today and one had diarrhoea.

It's not definite that It's a bug yet and we won't be able to know until a few days.

It's my wedding day on Saturday.

Would I be being unreasonable to call in sick on wednesday to prevent myself any chance of catching the possible illness before my wedding day (providing I haven't caught it already)?

OP posts:
VladmirsPoutine · 17/07/2017 18:52

I used to ring in sick when I was too hungover or just fancied a late breakfast and day time tv.

Do it.

DancesWithOtters · 17/07/2017 18:54

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CremeFresh · 17/07/2017 18:56

If you pull a sickie , don't say your children are ill , I hate saying someone else is ill when they're not.

coconuttella · 17/07/2017 18:57

If you catch things off patients it's down to you not doing something correctly

So if someone ever catches a virus and cold caught it's their fault!? How ridiculous... Just because you have a super immune system doesn't give you the right to judge others that don't!

As for the question... YANBU in these circumstances. Unprofessional? Possibly... but sometimes you need to look at the wider picture.

jenniuol · 17/07/2017 19:03

Yanbu. I would.

Berrybakecake1 · 17/07/2017 19:05

Yanbu.
I only have to hear of someone with d&v and I get sick.
I would say my kids are too sick for childcare.

AuroraBora · 17/07/2017 19:08

Do it. If you're not usually the type that pulls sickies then it's not the end of the world, you're not doing it regularly.

In fact if you were my colleague and I found out you'd done this I would still think you'd made the right choice, even if i had to pick up your slack!

From a money pov cancelling your wedding could cost you (and guests) thousands. If the worst happened and work found out AND then fired you rather than just disciplining you, you'd had a few missed pay packets before your loss was equivalent to the potential wedding cost.

beckieperk · 17/07/2017 19:10

Yanbu. You would regret it if you got sick.

pandarific · 17/07/2017 19:13

Yup, do it. That would be a disaster!

Bluerose27 · 17/07/2017 19:17

Don't go to work!! Stay at home!!! If I was your colleague I'd tell you the same.
You run the risk of catching something and ruining your whole wedding. The job will manage just fine without you - you're only a number to them.

Take the day!!!!

Amanduh · 17/07/2017 19:24

Yanbu. It's one day. Do it!

Crunchymum · 17/07/2017 19:26

I'm quite anti sickie too but in this instance I'd do it.

Will any colleagues be concerned to hear you are ill so close to your wedding tho?

Crunchymum · 17/07/2017 19:28

though not tho

bigsighall · 17/07/2017 19:32

I was coming on this thread to say don't pull a sickie! I'm really against it ... normally...
I this case however I think you should. Not worth the risk. Have a fab wedding day :)

faithinthesound · 17/07/2017 19:53

I would be honest, mention your wedding, and use annual leave. All but the most unreasonable of employers would be sympathetic to the situation, and if they're not, you'll know to start looking for new jobs after the honeymoon.

peachgreen · 17/07/2017 19:59

DO IT. I was ill on my wedding day and I'd do anything to be able to go back and prevent it. I'm not even a big white wedding type but it was horrible not being able to be fully present for what should have been the happiest day of my life.

LittleReindeerwithcloggson · 17/07/2017 20:14

If you get sick pay in your job I would say your children were ill. That way it would be unpaid as it seems wrong to take sick pay when you're not ill.
Otherwise I would probably say I was sick myself.
Never done it and wouldn't normally condone it but it's a wedding

Tiptoethr0ughthetulips · 17/07/2017 21:07

In this instance YANBU.

ilovesooty · 17/07/2017 21:16

I think you should ask for annual or unpaid leave given the circumstances. I can understand your being reluctant to risk sickness.
I don't think you should say you're sick when you aren't or claim your children are sick.

Fruitcorner123 · 17/07/2017 21:17

do it and then plan to secretly make it up to them when you are back by doing extra shifts or doing some favours for colleagues affected.

I don't get why people are saying you should say your kids are sick? Why is that better? Its still a lie!

mamalovesmojitos · 17/07/2017 22:06

YANBU and I have never pulled a sickie!

fannydaggerz · 17/07/2017 22:09

I wouldn't risk my wedding day.

Say the kids can't go to childcare or your childcare is ill so you need to be with them.

AngeloftheSouth84 · 17/07/2017 22:48

Every one pulls a sickie now and again!

You can commit fraud if you like. I wouldn't. The OP could tell the truth and say they don't want to risk their wedding day, so would like the day off

Frillyhorseyknickers · 17/07/2017 22:54

Every one pulls a sickie now and again!
It's for your wedding!!! So as long as you can afford to miss a days pay just do it

Hmm firstly, many employers pay sick pay "so pulling a sicky" is funded by your employer essentially.

Secondly, many of us have never skived a day off work - and if I found any of my work colleagues had lied to have a day off work I would just assume they were some work shy scrounge.

ilovesooty · 17/07/2017 23:02

I agree. I do find it depressing when people claim that everybody has pulled a sickie now and again