I am being ignored

[muckypup73]

I have a friend, not a close friend and I give her lifts once a week, she has never offered petrol money and neither have I asked for it, this time she is coming on holiday and lastnight I asked her for petrol money via facebook, we are going very soon, she has totally ignored my post, yes Iam going that way,but it will cost me £60 in petrol, am I being tight?

YANBU. If I am ever offered a lift, I'll offer petrol money as it's the polite thing to do, regardless of whether they were going that way or not!

You're going on holiday with someone you don't consider a close friend?

Did you post this message publicly or private message?

no, shes taking the piss-stop offering. If she's ignored your messages just carry on your journey as normal as if you assume shes not coming.

She isn't a friend of any sort. She is a car lodger!!

Ring her and ask her if she got your message.

DonaldStott, private message.

You're going on holiday with her?

It would cost her £90 to go on the train

I agree with NotSuch

Call her and clarify the situation.

I sorted the holiday out, our children go school together they both have addiontal needs the children that is. we have seprate chalets.

Just message her and say "looking forward to holiday. See you At you at the chalet. We're aiming to get there for x time"

Thats what my partner said Nellie.

Text "Take it you don't want a lift then. See you there."

It's only last night. Give her a chance then ask again.

I have to say guys, i do not mind the weekly lifts as its only a few miles, and 8 at the most for around the last 10 weeks, so I am not moaning about that.

I will wait another day, I have noted that she has posted numerous times on facebook today.

Did your message include details of how to pay you?

If not, you can send a follow up message with your bank details saying oh silly me forgot to include the bank details.

Then you can follow up later with something along the lines of I guess you've changed your mind about driving and are taking the train, see you at the chalets.

Do you think she's the type to screw you over?

Actually surely she'll have to contact you sooner or later if she's expecting a lift?

What a cheeky lady, I think she's trying to get out of paying half, is she that hard up? Send her a gentle reminder, if she does respond again, assume she has made different travel plans & fill your car with extra holiday fun things :)

Have a great holiday x

why facebook?

why not text her? or call?

didn't you discuss this when you planned the trip?

possibly she thinks you've sprung this £ request on her at last minute if usually you are not fussed.

if she can't afford it/hasn't budgeted it fb is not the space to discuss that

none of this "see you at the chalets" keyboard warrior nonsense is going to cut it if you're on holiday together - could be very frosty and unpleasant.

She is a car lodger!!