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I am being ignored

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muckypup73 · 16/07/2017 11:46

I have a friend, not a close friend and I give her lifts once a week, she has never offered petrol money and neither have I asked for it, this time she is coming on holiday and lastnight I asked her for petrol money via facebook, we are going very soon, she has totally ignored my post, yes Iam going that way,but it will cost me £60 in petrol, am I being tight?

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Grumpus21 · 16/07/2017 11:47

YANBU. If I am ever offered a lift, I'll offer petrol money as it's the polite thing to do, regardless of whether they were going that way or not!

DonaldStott · 16/07/2017 11:48

You're going on holiday with someone you don't consider a close friend?

Did you post this message publicly or private message?

Monkeypuzzle32 · 16/07/2017 11:48

no, shes taking the piss-stop offering. If she's ignored your messages just carry on your journey as normal as if you assume shes not coming.

Justhadmyhaircut · 16/07/2017 11:49

She isn't a friend of any sort. She is a car lodger!!

NotSuchASmugMarriedNow1 · 16/07/2017 11:50

Ring her and ask her if she got your message.

NellieFiveBellies · 16/07/2017 11:51

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muckypup73 · 16/07/2017 11:51

DonaldStott, private message.

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muckypup73 · 16/07/2017 11:52

It would cost her £90 to go on the train

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Allabitmuchisntit · 16/07/2017 11:52

You're going on holiday with her?

ilovesooty · 16/07/2017 11:52

I agree with NotSuch

Call her and clarify the situation.

muckypup73 · 16/07/2017 11:53

I sorted the holiday out, our children go school together they both have addiontal needs the children that is. we have seprate chalets.

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00100001 · 16/07/2017 11:55

Just message her and say "looking forward to holiday. See you At you at the chalet. We're aiming to get there for x time"

muckypup73 · 16/07/2017 11:56

Thats what my partner said Nellie.

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Ceto · 16/07/2017 12:01

Text "Take it you don't want a lift then. See you there."

FittonTower · 16/07/2017 12:02

It's only last night. Give her a chance then ask again.

muckypup73 · 16/07/2017 12:03

I have to say guys, i do not mind the weekly lifts as its only a few miles, and 8 at the most for around the last 10 weeks, so I am not moaning about that.

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muckypup73 · 16/07/2017 12:04

I will wait another day, I have noted that she has posted numerous times on facebook today.

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RunRabbitRunRabbit · 16/07/2017 12:11

Did your message include details of how to pay you?

If not, you can send a follow up message with your bank details saying oh silly me forgot to include the bank details.

Then you can follow up later with something along the lines of I guess you've changed your mind about driving and are taking the train, see you at the chalets.

Do you think she's the type to screw you over?

ilovesooty · 16/07/2017 12:13

Actually surely she'll have to contact you sooner or later if she's expecting a lift?

ShowMeWhatYouGot · 16/07/2017 12:15

What a cheeky lady, I think she's trying to get out of paying half, is she that hard up? Send her a gentle reminder, if she does respond again, assume she has made different travel plans & fill your car with extra holiday fun things :)

Have a great holiday x

ALittleMop · 16/07/2017 12:16

why facebook?

why not text her? or call?

didn't you discuss this when you planned the trip?

possibly she thinks you've sprung this £ request on her at last minute if usually you are not fussed.

if she can't afford it/hasn't budgeted it fb is not the space to discuss that

ALittleMop · 16/07/2017 12:18

none of this "see you at the chalets" keyboard warrior nonsense is going to cut it if you're on holiday together - could be very frosty and unpleasant.

SchadenfreudePersonified · 16/07/2017 12:22

She is a car lodger!!

Grin

Flowersandfootballs · 16/07/2017 12:25

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