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To find it funny when someone overtakes you?

165 replies

SydneyJones · 16/07/2017 09:20

Going at a ridiculous speed and then you end up at the traffic lights together?

Grin
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MsJuniper · 17/07/2017 18:22

All those complaining about cautious drivers are being disingenuous. We all know there are loads of drivers on the road who tailgate, intimidate and generally behave like arseholes. It is satisfying to see them fail to benefit from their behaviour.

I am a confident driver and I know it can be annoying to get stuck behind someone slow or indecisive (DH for example) but that's not the type of driver this thread is about.

Tinnie88 · 17/07/2017 18:28

TatterdemalionAspie You hit the nail on the head.

People who drive well below the speed limit or hog the wrong lane are my pet hate. They cause frustration and are dangerous. If you can't drive safely at 60 on a dual carriageway in normal driving conditions you shouldn't be on the road. Those drivers who are then obnoxious enough to think it's funny that they are at the same set of lights....well I'm laughing right back at you for having zero road awareness and bring a jumped up nob.

Unsafe overtaking just for the sake of spending however is a total different issue. Still wouldn't laugh though I'd just think hope they don't do anything else unsafe near me!

DagenhamRoundhouse · 17/07/2017 19:23

Or when they overtake at speed then turn off at the next junction. You just think: 'Why?'

coffeespoonslife · 17/07/2017 19:28

I agree with TatterdemalionAspie.

I admit though that I am probably less accommodating and do find people who drive at exactly the speed limit somewhat irritating (I do imagine them in their heads feeling very sanctimonious) and so often overtake in order to drive my own drive. I never understand anyone who wants to sit nose to tail to another car, seemingly watching the car in front and braking and accelerating as they do. I love driving and that is not driving well to me.

In town, when driving at 20 or e.g. 30 actually makes a difference if you are in an accident (i.e. with pedestrians) then I stick to 20.

sall74 · 17/07/2017 20:12

Nothing at all wrong with a well executed, clear sighted overtake, it's the idiots that do a constant 37mph regardless of whether they're on a NSL stretch of road or in 30mph limit village that cause the problems.

ArDali1 · 17/07/2017 22:02

Hehe what I like to do is when I see a car behind that looks like they want to overtake me (because I'm driving at speed limit and they think they have authority to drive over the speed limit)
I start driving faster so that I am lined up with the car beside me so that they can't overtake!! Makes me laugh.

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ShelaghTurner · 17/07/2017 22:17

Was going to say the same as Fergus. I used to laugh and wave but the last fellow I did that to was a nutter who stopped the car dead in the road and got out to make his feelings known. I was shit scared and don’t do it anymore, it’s not worth it.

coddiwomple · 17/07/2017 22:34

there is NO slow lane on the motorway, all the lanes have the same speed limits.

THANK YOU.

Sadly another example of drivers who feel like you have insulted their ancestors by overtaking them. Sorry, either you are too slow or too erratic, or people just enjoy driving and it's much easier to drive on a free road than following someone else.
Just don't be a dick and accelerate when they try to overtake. It's not clever.

As above, there are some horrendous drivers, but if you are frequently undertaken on the motorway, unless they drive on the hard shoulder, you ARE on the wrong lane! Middle lane is for overtaking, not cruising because you can't be bothered to change lane when you need! Slow drivers on the middle lane should be fined heavily, they are so bloody dangerous Angry

coddiwomple · 17/07/2017 22:36

'i' d like to find you wrapped around the tree at the next bend!

there are some really shitty people in this world.

eulmh · 17/07/2017 22:36

I make it my mission (within the realms of safety :)) if somebody overtakes me I'm like right I will see you at the next traffic lights etc. I drive safely within speed limits not too fast but neither too slow. If overtaking me saves you precious seconds go for it.... I'd rather not risk anybody's life for a few second or minutes or even an hour!

Strawberrybubblebath · 17/07/2017 22:43

What I really DONT like is people posting on social media where the speed cameras are.

cleanlaundry · 17/07/2017 22:44

That is funny. And I love it when that happens OP. However, I have also been stuck behind a ridiculously slow driver on a few occasions and I only overtake so that I don't have to follow their speed and go at the speed that's more acceptable (e.g. Not 40mph on a 50mph dual carriageway) but not to get anywhere faster than them. Same with walking, I don't like slow people walking in front of me so I overtake so I can carry on at my brisk speed, and it's that niggle that I'm being slowed down rather than trying to one up them iyswim

ReginaGeorgeinSheepsClothing · 17/07/2017 22:50

I live rurally and there have been 3 fatal accidents on my local b road this year all idiots over taking without due care or attention who did end up in a ditch/ in a tree and last week idiot in a 4x4 killed a 70 year old taxi driver. Yes overtake if it is safe and 'necessary' but don't do it to show off your superiority and be a dick.

DontTouchTheMoustache · 17/07/2017 22:56

ArDali you sound very immature, and potentially dangerous if you are doing that. Why not just let them overtake you?

Esspee · 18/07/2017 06:28

To the person who hates cars driving at exactly the speed limit you have to understand that getting points on your licence isn't an option for many people. If you need your car for work, if you can't afford a fine, or you just don't want to break the law.
I use cruise control in my car when out of town and OH's new toy has a variable cruise control which adjusts itself to maximum speed. If you want to overtake me while I'm doing the legal limit then you are the bad driver.

coddiwomple · 18/07/2017 08:45

What I really DONT like is people posting on social media where the speed cameras are.

In England (at least), they are clearly sign posted and sat nav warn you when you arrive onto one. "Hidden" speed cameras are extremely rare, whilst they are the norm in other countries. Not saying they don't exist, but you are very unlikely to be caught by one, as opposed to other countries.

Warning others about police, with or without speed cameras, is completely irresponsible and dangerous. You don't know who are they trying to catch, why would you try to stop them doing their job.

AceholeRimmer · 18/07/2017 09:09

I love it too. Some people just want to show how big or little their dick is. They are always speeding down our road at 60mph and then always always have to break suddenly for the tight corner.. I hear them move up the gears and launch off only to come straight back down again!

NoBetterName · 18/07/2017 09:46

I'd rather that someone makes a clean and well-planned overtake than sits tailgating for miles on end.

One of our cars is an old VW Beetle (one of the original ones with the engine in the back, not one of the modern ones). It can not maintain a speed more than 60 mph, which is fine on country roads etc, it can keep up with traffic doing the speed limit, but on dual carriageways etc, it can't maintain 70mph. However, you inevitably get Mr or Mrs 4x4 driver, who rather than overtaking, decides they should sit 2 inches from your back bumper as though that will suddenly make the car go faster. It won't, you numpty and all you are doing is now putting both of us in danger. Just get on with it and overtake if you want to drive faster. If you are not confident to make a clean, smooth overtake you shouldn't be on the road.

I also don't get why people would be "offended" at being overtaken, or would try to block another driver from overtaking. That's just dangerous behaviour. A well-planned and safe overtake is not an aggressive manoeuvre. Tailgating on the other hand, is.

Datun · 18/07/2017 10:29

Driving is irrational though. Whether you are overtaking, or being overtaken, you think you're right.

I will think I'm right, under both circumstances. Which I have noted and find daft. It's the nature of driving.

You get outliers going much too fast, or much too slow, but you can still bet your life they each think they're right.

You rarely hear someone say I'm a terrible driver, I make people uncomfortable when I overtake, or I'm a dreadful driver, people always have to overtake me.

There was a study about it, years ago which I don't recall much of, but the car being an extension of the person and the feeling of being a lot more invincible, than you really are was part of it.

But I agree, competitive driving, can be very dangerous.

Mulledwine1 · 18/07/2017 10:33

And again, if you're being undertaken then you are the dangerous driver.

Rubbish, some people come through ridiculously tiny gaps and make a sport of undertaking. In fact there seems to be a bit of an epidemic of it at the moment.

Despite what people say about so-called middle lane sitters, there are often good reasons not to be in the inside lane (it is going to disappear next junction, there's a lorry ahead and a queue behind, I've pulled out because there's a car merging ahead etc).

As for the OP - yes I think it's funny when this happens. Not so funny if I overtake someone and it happens though. I don't tend to overtake on the open road, I just put up with the slow moving car, but if eg I get the chance at a roundabout/where an extra lane appears then I will but they still sometimes catch me up at the next junction/traffic lights.

I don't mind people overtaking if I am going really slowly. But I don't and that's the point, I'm not one of your "do 30 in a 60 limit" or "40 whatever the speed limit" people, I drive to the road conditions. If I am doing 60 in a 60 limit they can have no earthly reason for getting past me. Even if I am doing 55 they are being a bit stupid. I am pretty impatient but my self-preservation instinct kicks in. But there seem to be a lot of people out there would would rather have an accident than give way. I do get fed up of constantly having to brake/give way/take diversionary action because someone is trying to bully me on the road.

Mulledwine1 · 18/07/2017 10:38

Slow drivers on the middle lane should be fined heavily, they are so bloody dangerous

Still fail to see how someone doing 70 in the middle lane is more dangerous than someone doing 90 in the inside.

There's an outside lane.

I do very little motorway driving and tend to sit in the inside wherever possible unless very slow lorries so am definitely not a middle lane sitter, but really don't get the middle lane superiority complex thing. Weaving in and out of lanes if not safe. Leaving it until the last minute to pull out to overtake something is just annoying. When I am in the middle lane, and I've seen a lorry ahead, with a car behind it, I think come on, get out, you're going to want to overtake and then they indicate and move at the last minute. How on earth is that safer than getting out in plenty of time? They're only lucky that I am predicting what they are going to do and hang back a bit. Good driving means watching the road and predicting what you are going to do next. Sitting in a(ny) lane until the last minute is not good driving and nobody will convince me otherwise.

wanderings · 18/07/2017 11:07

I live in a town that has instituted 20mph speed limits on all roads it controls. There are 20 signs at the side of the roads and painted on the actual road. It is blindingly obvious the speed limit is 20.
Yesterday I drove somewhere I used to live (south London), and it's the same. 20mph on all main roads, bar a few primary routes. If you obey it, you are beeped at, tailgated, overtaken dangerously. I was overtaken by buses. Was this one of Boris's bright ideas, in usual top-down management style by government?

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