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To think I'm not weird?

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peppep · 15/07/2017 23:45

My favourite comic is performing locally next year and I don't know anyone else who likes them. DH is very much NOT a fan and when we went previously to see said comic he sat stony faced throughout. Therefore I want to buy one ticket and just go by myself.

As I see it, I am an adult and frankly I am quite happy with my own company and quite content to go by myself and laugh my socks off without worrying the person accompanying me is not enjoying it.

DH however has said this is very very weird and that therefore 'he will come if he has to'.

Seriously?! AIBU to be happy going on my own? I get this isn't up everyone's street but I don't get why it makes me weird??!!

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puzzledbyadream · 15/07/2017 23:46

Nope, not weird! Perfectly reasonable to go to anything on your own! In fact, it's got much easier since the advent of smartphones. I go to all sorts of things on my own, gigs, museums, and yes, comedy nights. Sometimes it's just much easier than getting someone to go with me!

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shortsaint · 15/07/2017 23:47

Not weird at all. Go to theatre, film, comedy, music on own often. Love it. Shows self-possession & confidence, being happy in your own company. Be proud of yourself!

StripySocks1 · 15/07/2017 23:48

If it's in a theatre I'd be ok going on my own but if it's a comedy club it might be a bit uncomfortable being alone but then it depends how you feel, that's all that matters Smile

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barbarann · 15/07/2017 23:50

I'd absolutely go by myself.

Have done for theatre, cinema and music gigs before now rather than miss out.

Enjoy!

ZippyCameBack · 15/07/2017 23:55

Going to a comedy show on your own definitely isn't weird. Going to a show you know you'll hate and spoiling your partner's enjoyment of it is a little odd though. What does he think will happen if he isn't there?

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peppep · 15/07/2017 23:56

Thanks all! Zzzz he doesn't get to choose, I think he just thinks it's some sort of oddity that any adult would want to venture out to any form of entertainment solo.... and I don't get it. You're right though, I think it's weird he doesn't get that him having a crap time will dampen my enjoyment of it.

And as for who it is, it is the utterly fabulous Sarah Millican who, frankly, I cannot believe anyone does not find hilarious.

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Ohyesiam · 15/07/2017 23:57

Not weird at all.

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peppep · 15/07/2017 23:58

Zippy, he seems to think I'll be all pathetically sad and lonely venturing out alone. After all, we've only been together a whole decade, and before that I travelled around the world solo but still, he thinks me simply having a cup of tea by myself makes me some sort of social anomaly .... bless him :)

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AtSea1979 · 16/07/2017 00:01

Not weird at all but if you did want company, I'd love to go too!

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 16/07/2017 00:05

Most people at the gig (apart from your DH) are they because they like the act so hopefully will be enjoying it too.
I'd rather be sitting next to a stranger who is laughing, instead of a husband who is not.

BearFoxBear · 16/07/2017 00:07

He's weird, you're not. I do this with the cinema, why do I need to go to the cinema with other people when I'm not going to talk to them anyway?!

Patriciathestripper1 · 16/07/2017 00:09

Not weird at all.
I frequently go to the pictures myself as I like horror films and Dh won't go anymore cause I make him jump when I scream 😂

TathitiPete · 16/07/2017 00:17

Nope. Not weird sorry not sorry PEPs dh.
I went to see Bill Bailey on my own. He was just as funny as of my dh had been there too.

Cavender · 16/07/2017 00:21

Not in the least weird.

Not even a little bit. No one will even notice let alone bat an eyelid.

Don't be held back by your DH's insecurities.

SerfTerf · 16/07/2017 00:21

No it's not weird.

But if it was weird, so what? You can do anything you like, weird or not. Why does he see it as his job to prevent you doing anything unusual?

Hudson10 · 16/07/2017 00:23

Not weird in the slightest, the only person being weird is your DH by saying it's weird! Smile
I never get the mindset of those who won't go anywhere if someone else won't go with them. (I know a few of them.)
Why would you rather miss out on something just because no-one else is available?
I happily go to the cinema by myself, theatres and restaurants so would have no problem going by myself!
Just go.

tangledup123 · 16/07/2017 00:24

I went to see Harry Hill's stand up show alone, it was really fun. I've also been to the cinema, theatre, TV recordings and lots of different concerts alone. And I've been on a few solo holidays. I'm quite a shy and anxious person, so I feel a bit uncomfortable in the queue and waiting for the show to start, but I always relax once the lights go down.

Maybe it is weird by some people's standards, but does that really matter? I don't have many people I can do these things with, so it's either go alone or miss out. I've never regretted going to a show alone, but I know I'd regret it if I stayed at home.

Ilovehamabeads · 16/07/2017 00:27

Showing my age a bit here, but I went to see the Mary Whitehouse experience on my own as a teen because not one of my friends thought they were funny. I was scared to death thinking people would be clocking Billy no mates on her own but nobody batted an eyelid.
I've also seen Sarah millican with DH and wish to god I'd left him at home because he also sat stony faced throughout while I rolled around laughing beside him. I'll leave him home next time and go with you OP Grin

MommaGee · 16/07/2017 00:28

Nah not weird. Sad that he wouldn't go out alone tbh.

If I go to the theater alone I always insist I need to eat out first so I go for dinner alone and then the show. I take a book. I don't have to share my food with my toddler. I see things DH hates. It's bliss.

LellyMcKelly · 16/07/2017 00:28

It doesn't matter if other people think it's weird. If you want to do it, do it.

SabineUndine · 16/07/2017 00:28

I think it would be sadder and weirder not to have the confidence to go alone to an event you want to see.

ethelfleda · 16/07/2017 00:31

Not weird at all. I have been to cinema, to lunch/dinner and museums and national trusts by myself. I think it's quite enjoyable.

I do not find Sarah Millican funny at all though Smile

BarryTheKestrel · 16/07/2017 00:34

OP, when I saw the Sarah Millican your announced I was adamant I was going, even on my own. However for some reason I am now going with my DM. At 29 I'm still not sure I can sit through some of her cruder jokes with my normally very prudish mum sat next to me! If you happen to be in Devon, I'll be happy to accompany you!