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AIBU?

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To think I'm not weird?

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peppep · 15/07/2017 23:45

My favourite comic is performing locally next year and I don't know anyone else who likes them. DH is very much NOT a fan and when we went previously to see said comic he sat stony faced throughout. Therefore I want to buy one ticket and just go by myself.

As I see it, I am an adult and frankly I am quite happy with my own company and quite content to go by myself and laugh my socks off without worrying the person accompanying me is not enjoying it.

DH however has said this is very very weird and that therefore 'he will come if he has to'.

Seriously?! AIBU to be happy going on my own? I get this isn't up everyone's street but I don't get why it makes me weird??!!

OP posts:
BagelGoesWalking · 17/07/2017 00:05

Actually, it's comforting that so many other people do the same! There is still often a Hmm face when you say you're going to do stuff on your own.

Hudson10 · 17/07/2017 00:12

Mumsnet won't find it weird but I must admit I do a bit.

Why? Genuine question. I may be a randomer on MN, but I'm still a real female person who loves going out by themselves.
Why is it weird?

WinnieTheWitch50 · 17/07/2017 00:15

I go to cinema and theatre alone, I prefer to go alone.

Hudson10 · 17/07/2017 00:16

I think it would be sadder and weirder not to have the confidence to go alone to an event you want to see.

Totally this. I find it really sad to not have the confidence to go by yourself anywhere, and always have to rely on other people else you miss out.

Hudson10 · 17/07/2017 00:31

It seems lots of people can't differentiate between the notion of loneliness and just enjoying your own company
Agree. Sometimes wonder whether those who think it's sad, think it's a lonely thing.
There's definitely a difference between the two though. Loneliness is feeling lonely. Wanting time just by yourself is a separate thing though! Smile
I want to and do things by myself as much as I can, but I have a family with two young kids and a DH as well. I'm still me. I still want to go out occasionally by myself.
I think it's a lot more healthier to be just as comfortable with your own company as well as with others. As opposed to only being able to go anywhere with someone else holding your hand.

yourerubberimglue · 17/07/2017 01:06

It's not weird ... I do stuff alone all the time - drink at bars, eat at restaurants, go to the cinema ....have fun

yourerubberimglue · 17/07/2017 01:07

One I love Sarah Millican!

BagelGoesWalking · 17/07/2017 16:53

I also end up doing stuff on my own as I don't really like to commit to things. If I'm having a down day, it doesn't matter but it's more complicated if you've committed to doing things with other people.

Fl0ellafunbags · 17/07/2017 17:02

I'm a big snooker fan. DH is bewildered by my love of sticks and balls but fully supports my choice to bugger off and watch a match.

OverTheHammer · 17/07/2017 17:05

If you were to say you were going to see Ricky Gervais, I was going to beg you to let me keep you company 😁

I don't think you're weird going alone at all! Although I'm not a fan of Sarah ... it's all a bit scripted for me

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