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To think I'm not weird?

60 replies

peppep · 15/07/2017 23:45

My favourite comic is performing locally next year and I don't know anyone else who likes them. DH is very much NOT a fan and when we went previously to see said comic he sat stony faced throughout. Therefore I want to buy one ticket and just go by myself.

As I see it, I am an adult and frankly I am quite happy with my own company and quite content to go by myself and laugh my socks off without worrying the person accompanying me is not enjoying it.

DH however has said this is very very weird and that therefore 'he will come if he has to'.

Seriously?! AIBU to be happy going on my own? I get this isn't up everyone's street but I don't get why it makes me weird??!!

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Judydreamsofhorses · 16/07/2017 00:48

Going to the cinema by myself is one of my very favourite things. I'm a teacher, and in the summer holidays often go for lunch then the cinema alone. My partner often goes to the football by himself. Definitely not weird.

indigox · 16/07/2017 00:52

I once went to a concert with ex-h, he sat there with the stroppy face on the entire evening, I went to the concert again a few years later on my own, far more enjoyable.

BagelGoesWalking · 16/07/2017 00:59

Nope, not weird. I love going to the cinema in my own.
I've got my one ticket bought for a concert in November. It's for a singer called Eivør, my OH would hate it, don't know any friends who would like it, so I prefer to go on my own. I don't want to go with someone and then worry all evening that they're not having a good time.

Foslady · 16/07/2017 01:02

Went and saw Al Murray on my own, only decided the week before but as I only wanted 1 ticket got row D! I'm on my own so I don't think about it now - I've booked my single seat to see Marc Almond later this year!

OuttingNameChange · 16/07/2017 01:09

Saw her live not long ago. Very funny! Enjoy!

OverthinkingSpartacus · 16/07/2017 01:15

You're dh would be spending money on a ticket he doesn't want and spending time at a show he doesn't want to be at because he thinks it's odd when a grown adult goes to events on their own?

And he says you are weird? :). He's the weird one, he almost sounds like he thinks he's doing you a favour LOL I totally get why having someone who doesn't want to be there, being there would ruin the show a little for you too. Hope you have a great time if you go.

MorbidBibliomancy · 16/07/2017 01:48

Not weird in the slightest. I go and do stuff on my own all the time! Particularly gigs. I know my taste isn't the same as my partner's or my friends', and that's totally fine. I go and have a perfectly lovely time on my own. My friends do the same.

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peppep · 16/07/2017 08:49

Just booked and as I'm flying solo I got a blimmin' front row seat!!! Woohoo!! Will book DM for the day so I can make a day trip of it! X

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Trb17 · 16/07/2017 08:52

Not weird at all. Enjoying an event solo is far better than having miserable company. Glad you've booked. Enjoy!

ConstanceCraving · 16/07/2017 09:02

Your DH is weird.

shortsaint · 16/07/2017 09:11

If you are a solo you can always get better seats as so many people go in pairs there's always single seats available and box office are happy to fill them so they're not wasted.

Also, often the whole point of performance is that it is a 'shared experience' - and that's not sitting with 1 other person, it's the collective in the venue (which is why it's better to go out to see something rather than at home with a screen).

Yes, I do work in a theatre! Sarah M is fab live. You'll love it.

islandsandshores · 16/07/2017 09:13

Mumsnet won't find it weird but I must admit I do a bit.

SerfTerf · 16/07/2017 09:31

Why @islandsandshores ?

steff13 · 16/07/2017 09:35

I'm going to Comic-Con by myself in August, and staying in a hotel for the weekend. I'm going to meet David Tennant. And potentially touch him in an inappropriate manner - I haven't decided yet. 😁

I don't think you're weird, OP.

islandsandshores · 16/07/2017 09:35

Just go to anything like that and skim your eyes around.

See how many people are alone.

If the weather is nice today where you are, go to a country park and look for people on their own.

user1494187262 · 16/07/2017 09:58

Get 2 tickets and I bet a friend will come with you

laurelstar · 16/07/2017 10:03

YANBU or weird. Go and have a great time! How patronising of DH Smile

InThisTogether · 16/07/2017 10:17

Not at all wierd.
I do it all the time if there's something on at the theatre/ cinema I fancy.
The entertainment is in front of you with no accompanying people needed.
Would he think it's wierd to watch a film alone?

InThisTogether · 16/07/2017 10:17

Not at all wierd.
I do it all the time if there's something on at the theatre/ cinema I fancy.
The entertainment is in front of you with no accompanying people needed.
Would he think it's wierd to watch a film alone?

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peppep · 16/07/2017 11:02

Thanks all, can't wait! I think it's one of those things that lots of people can't understand: I remember a few years ago a colleague asked me what I'd done on the weekend (this was before we had DCs) and I said I'd gone to the park for a few hours and read a book. Not only did they look at me like I had two heads, but they also then publicly declared I was 'a little bit sad' for doing so! It seems lots of people can't differentiate between the notion of loneliness and just enjoying your own company.

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HipsterHunter · 16/07/2017 11:15

Not weird

It's nice you have the confidence to keep seeing things you like that DH doesn't on your own.

EggysMom · 16/07/2017 11:30

I'm only just getting brave enough to do this - bought a solo ticket for a concert last year, but ended up not 'quite' on my own as my boss & his wife were sat three rows behind me! I've also gone to a couple of matinees of musicals on my own, it means I can sing along and only annoy complete strangers.

LurkingHusband · 16/07/2017 11:39

Before my DM passed, she'd often go to concerts on her own ... 65 year old rocking up to Bruce Springsteen at Wembley Smile

chips4teaplease · 16/07/2017 11:40

I'm not into comedy, but I go to music and/or poetry events alone very often. Other people are a pita! Just enjoy the show.

DramaQueenofHighCs · 16/07/2017 23:23

Well I regularly go to The Comedy Store in London on my own! I flipping love it there and if DH and I went together then we'd need child sitters all the time.
I suppose I could go with friends, but I often decide to go 'on a whim' so never think to ask anyone. Also often go to the theatre alone as does SIL.
Go for it!