WWYD MIL is crazy!

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First time posting as I don't know what to do with my MIL

Firstly some background: I'm from abroad, married to a lovely English man that is an amazing father and husband. We have a 1 year old baby.

We had my mother helping us at the beginning and then she went back home. My MIL has been helping us for just over a month. She's fine with that but she'll need to stop coming for various reasons - her relationship with my husband is very bad and her other son often wants her to look after his dogs and his children (even though he's got his own mother in law very near by him and his wife doesn't work, but not my place to judge or say anything about their arrangements and priorities).

My mother is coming to stay with me for a while and also to help us (we really need as we are totally alone in the place we live, I'm working etc plus my husband adores my mum and he is looking forward to have her extra pair of hands around). Besides, the last time she saw our child was last year as she lives in another continent.
My MIL hates the idea that she's coming. She's doesn't agree that we should have my mother around because she'll go away to my home country, doesn't like that she would feed our child with fruits from my country (we just buy from Tesco) and that she would cook meals from my country to my child, doesn't agree that she learns my language and says that we are in England so as English we should live (I'm not sure what she means by that). I know it sounds silly but I had enough.

She says that we should put our child in a nursery and calls me a lady sheep because her daughter is alone in another country and doesn't have any help (she adopted two children over 5 years old).
I just cannot stand my MIL anymore. Every single day she says something unpleasant. Her favourite words are "ridiculous" and "rubbish". Once she snapped at me because I "don't chat" with her. But all she wants is to talk bad things about people that I don't know or say how much better her country/culture is compared to mine.
Honestly I don't know how to deal with that! We are in a situation that we need some help right now (I won't get into many details). My husband doesnt want to have any contact with her and he's not speaking to her even when they're in the same room.
What should I do with her? This week she's coming and honestly I'm about to explode. Advices?

What would you suggest once the childcare provided by her is finnished? Should I send her some money or offer something in return?

Don't offer money - that would offend - but a nice framed photo of your child and some flowers would be suitable.

This does sound like cultural difference. Here, family who do this are doing a massive favour and you have to be mindful of it, and not take it for granted. Plenty of grandmothers don't. My MIL is not interested in our kids at all and refused offers to see the eldest when he was small. I don't fault her for that (she has behaved very badly since, especially to our eldest who is disabled, and I DO fault her for that).

Your MIL sounds flat-out racist, frankly. And you have every right to mind that.

I also think you should look into what tax credit help you could get, if you're both on lowish incomes and you have a child. You can possibly get some help with childcare costs.

sleeponeday that's a lovely idea. I'll sort out a photo with a nice frame and a card from dc.

When I got pregnant she asked if we were joking (she knew we were not but she was trying to be passive agressive) and not a simple "congratulations". Actually the next day she came to us in tears because her other DIL was trying IVF with no success and then I get pregnant instead of her.

If looking after her own grandchild is a massive help and maybe even a burden, I'll have no reasons to speak to her once it's done. Actually she's been so nasty towards us that I'll look at her free childcare" as my revenge

Now I'm really curious about what culture you come from, OP, but it's probably best you don't say