First time posting as I don't know what to do with my MIL
Firstly some background: I'm from abroad, married to a lovely English man that is an amazing father and husband. We have a 1 year old baby.
We had my mother helping us at the beginning and then she went back home. My MIL has been helping us for just over a month. She's fine with that but she'll need to stop coming for various reasons - her relationship with my husband is very bad and her other son often wants her to look after his dogs and his children (even though he's got his own mother in law very near by him and his wife doesn't work, but not my place to judge or say anything about their arrangements and priorities).
My mother is coming to stay with me for a while and also to help us (we really need as we are totally alone in the place we live, I'm working etc plus my husband adores my mum and he is looking forward to have her extra pair of hands around). Besides, the last time she saw our child was last year as she lives in another continent.
My MIL hates the idea that she's coming. She's doesn't agree that we should have my mother around because she'll go away to my home country, doesn't like that she would feed our child with fruits from my country (we just buy from Tesco) and that she would cook meals from my country to my child, doesn't agree that she learns my language and says that we are in England so as English we should live (I'm not sure what she means by that). I know it sounds silly but I had enough.
She says that we should put our child in a nursery and calls me a lady sheep because her daughter is alone in another country and doesn't have any help (she adopted two children over 5 years old).
I just cannot stand my MIL anymore. Every single day she says something unpleasant. Her favourite words are "ridiculous" and "rubbish". Once she snapped at me because I "don't chat" with her. But all she wants is to talk bad things about people that I don't know or say how much better her country/culture is compared to mine.
Honestly I don't know how to deal with that! We are in a situation that we need some help right now (I won't get into many details). My husband doesnt want to have any contact with her and he's not speaking to her even when they're in the same room.
What should I do with her? This week she's coming and honestly I'm about to explode. Advices?
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Whoooooooho · 15/07/2017 23:24
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