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Irrational Judgy Pants thread.

987 replies

FretYeNotAllIsShiny · 15/07/2017 13:57

I've got new neighbours. I really doubt they are my kind of people. They've got a glittery toilet seat.

What makes you hoik up your Irrational Judgy Pants?

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ppeatfruit · 16/07/2017 15:09

Oh and they complain about immigration in Britain! of course!!!

KatharinaRosalie · 16/07/2017 15:13

ppea I have a friend who was a brexiteer and happily declaring that we can now make Britain great again!

His parents live in Spain and he only dates Easter Europeans. Did not see a hint of irony there.

formerbabe · 16/07/2017 15:21

I'd also hate to take money off my DH if I wasn't working. Maternity leave, involuntary unemployment - sure, lazing about - nope

I never specified that the mother should be the one to stay at home. Nor do I think raising children full time is lazing about. I'm talking about couples who both work long hours ie. More than just 9-5 when there is no financial necessity to do so thus leaving the vast majority of childcare to someone else..I silently judge and wonder why you would have children if you spend vast amounts of time away from them?

BabychamSocialist · 16/07/2017 15:35

MikeUniformMike

I still remember the JayCub fiasco on Nethuns years ago. At this stage, I think there need to be rules about just making up names - it's getting ridiculous!

ZaraW · 16/07/2017 15:38

I judge people who read the right wing press and then get on Facebook putting the world to rights quoting the DM but can't accept an alternative view.....

user1473069303 · 16/07/2017 16:19

Variations on the standard "Baby on Board" signs (in France - maybe isn't applicable to the UK):

"Family on board" - what do you want, a medal?

"Sandra/Lorenzo/Anais/Thomas on board" - apart from your friends, family and the local Peter Files, who do you think gives a shite? And if you care that much about your kids, don't obliterate the view out of your rear window with that sentimental nonsense.

Also:
cars that are covered with flower and butterfly stickers
grown women with stuffed animal keyrings hanging off their bags
hipsters
cyclists who don't respect the highway code

ppeatfruit · 16/07/2017 16:31

Katherine Strange bloke! When does he think Britain was 'great' when we were walking into other people's countries and telling them that we were superior and forcing them to do what we said? I don't think that sort of behaviour is accepted nowadays, especially from other countries!

MikeUniformMike · 16/07/2017 16:37

I am not familiar with the JayCub fiasco. That's brilliant!

peachgreen · 16/07/2017 16:39

I used to hate those 'baby on board' signs too but then a paramedic friend said that despite the fact that everyone thinks it's an urban legend, they actually DO alert emergency services to look for a baby in the event of an accident. So now I judge people who don't take them out when the baby isn't in the car instead. Grin

LikeAFish · 16/07/2017 17:20

People that name their car. It's a car.

LovelyBath77 · 16/07/2017 17:22

Oh God, DH's family and him do that- names for cars, haha. Also pet names for the other half of a couple. Boak. And using them in public Hmm

Craigie · 16/07/2017 17:32

Terrible shoes and an inability to use a knife & fork properly. Oh, and people who let their kids down from tables at restaurants.

theoldtrout01876 · 16/07/2017 17:38

Im wondering if maybe I should resign from mumsnet before I get thrown out Grin
I smoke, I swear,I have tattoos and piercings. My 3 big kids have tattoos and piercings, including those stretchy holes in their ears. They swear too. My littlest (12) is a goth moth who is desperate for tattoos and piercings. She swears too.
I had both my girls ears pierced soon after birth and when my boys were little I often dressed them alike ( 17 months between them )
Oh and Im lusting after a glittery toilet seat now but cant justify $75 from amazon on one. I didnt know you got such marvelous things.

Queenofthedrivensnow · 16/07/2017 17:42

Theoldtrout - my loo seat in silver glitter was £25 in Homebase :-)

ConstanceCraving · 16/07/2017 17:43

These threads always baffle me because whenever any of these subjects come up on a thread hardly anyone will admit to judging them!

Maireadplastic · 16/07/2017 17:49

I judge people with over-clean houses and children particularly if there are no books or pictures on the wall.
And I cannot abide the phrase 'play date'.

Jivebunny89 · 16/07/2017 18:02

Anyone who takes astrology or healing crystals seriously.

Jivebunny89 · 16/07/2017 18:03

Also the term 'mumpreneur'. Start calling male business owners who have offspring dadpreneurs and we can talk.

OhWhatFuckeryIsThisNow · 16/07/2017 18:03

People who are proud that they don't read, their kids don't read and they have no books in their houses. (Disclaimer - I don't mean those people who have missed out on education for any reason-just those who see it as a badge of honour)

AceholeRimmer · 16/07/2017 18:14

When I can hear rough sounding loud people in their gardens 10 houses down.. drunk on the weekends and singing loudly and swearing, then in the week just shouting stuff like "GERRIN RIGHT NOW" at the kids. I don't judge much as I just can't be bothered (lazy) Grinbut my judgy pants are giving me a wedgie with this!

PlinkyTheFairyWitch · 16/07/2017 18:15

@Ginlinessisnexttogodliness it means what it says, good for you! How other people arrange their finances is no business of mine and I'm happy you're happy.

I would feel awful letting DH finance me if I wasn't doing anything else constructive, such as raising children or charity work or something, even if we could afford it. The only two occasions this has happened in our lives is when I was on maternity leave or involuntarily unemployed. I obviously didn't make the connection clear there!

I would also have gone quietly insane if I had to be SAHM for much longer than I did, so I have nothing but respect for those who can not only do it, but seem to completely enjoy it.

@formerbabe I silently judge and wonder why you would have children if you spend vast amounts of time away from them

Surely this only applies to ages 0-4(ish) cos they go to school then anyway. And I think some people are cut out for babies and toddlers, and some really aren't (I'm one of them). People also have personal work ethics, want to secure their futures, ensure their independence, provide nicer things for their kids etc.

I think there's enough bloody guilt around for mothers to suck up, especially as we're supposed to do it all and still can't win whatever we do, I wouldn't judge any mother for working or not.

Persephone70 · 16/07/2017 18:16
  • The constant use of 'Hun' as an address.
  • Children being called kids (pretty sure I will get flamed for that, but can't help it).
  • People smoking cigarettes whilst pushing
prams/buggies.
  • Current obsession with eyebrows!
  • Parents speaking loudly (for the benefit of
others to hear) in a pretentious manner, to make others think they are holier than thou i.e. "Oh Darling, did you have a fantastic day at school? Here, wash your hands with this antibacterial gel and have some fresh mango. We must get home super quick today, Laura Ashley are coming to talk to Mummy about the decor" - This conversation (or thereabouts) actually happened in the school playground - the child looked at the Mother like she was an alien 😂
MikeUniformMike · 16/07/2017 18:23

I was in a supermarket loo once and was washing my hands when a little girl and an older woman came out of the other cubicle.
The girl was about to wash her hands when the woman grabbed her hands and put antibac. gel on them. The little girl said "But mummy says I should wash my hands". The woman said "we use gel".
What a gross woman.
The gel is for killing bacteria not cleaning.

VelvetHeart · 16/07/2017 18:25

I judge faux sentimentality from useless parents about their kids. So lots of staged posts on social media with #blessed #perfect family #special times always, splashed over everything.

But you know the parent has a drink problem and that their child regularly arrives at school without the right PE kit or their lunch box because parent is too hung over to sort it.

The only people they're fooling with their faux sentimentality are themselves.

Really loving your children isn't about posting hashtags on FB. It's about really being there for them when they need you.

MafiaMoll · 16/07/2017 18:26

Er, people who say 'judgy pants'. Nearly as bad as 'big girl pants'.