My mum and her partner are very heavy smokers. They smoke in every room in their house - kitchen, living room, bedroom. My brother lives there but doesn't smoke (I feel sorry for him, but I can't do much about that).
They have always smoked in the house whilst I've been visiting, but since pregnancy they've tried to sit next to the open back door or we sit outside (though still not great as they can both be smoking at the same time either side of me). However as the evening goes on they'll start to have a cheeky fag inside the house.
Even if they aren't smoking in the house, to a non-smoker it's incredibly obvious. Everything just smells and I always come home feeling really grimey.
I was round yesterday - I'm 39 weeks now. It felt a little like the pretense had been given up. Granted, my mum wasn't sitting on the sofa next to me, but instead standing at the living room door way. It's not my house, so I don't say anything.
However I do not want to expose my baby to that atmosphere. I can't make them stop smoking in their house, so the only thing I can think is that we don't go round. No Christmas, no weekend visits, no stay overs for baby, etc. They can of course visit us (though they very rarely bother - possibly because they have to go outside away from the doors to smoke).
I don't think I'm being precious, and I know lots of children survived in smoking households (me, for one), but I still don't want it for my child.
Am I being unreasonable to think it makes little difference to the smoke in the house by smoking outside for the few hours I might visit for? And am I being overly precious?