Just feeling so fucking forgotten

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Sorry this is a self pitying whinge.

I moved to this area two years ago for dh's work. I knew no one at all and family hundreds of miles away. I'm quite shy and quiet but really made an effort to get to know people - went to play groups, joined a local women's group etc. Two years on I still do t really have any proper friends as such but lots of people chat and are friendly to me. At a birthday party a few weeks back one of the mums I know said she was arranging a night out and did I want to go. Told her I'd love to and she said she'd add me on WhatsApp group. Then at the weekend I see pics of them all on FB having a great time. Fair enough maybe I should have chased her up on it.

Today (again on fb) a new lady in the village put a post up saying she'd moved to the area was looking for toddler groups etc. I told her I have a 1 year old too and listed all the places and times of local groups. Then another one of the women from the village posted saying 'don't worry about going to groups, all the mums with 1 year olds come to mine on Wednesday mornings.' I have never been included in this and have organised loads of stuff for this woman's charity.

And now I'm sat in hospital. I'm severely anaemic and waiting for a blood transfusion. I've been here all day. Everyone else has come and gone. At 6pm some of the nurses finished their shift and turned the lights out. Now I'm sat in a waiting room on my own, crying.

I'm probably overreacting because I'm feeling poorly. I just feel like no one would even notice if I disappeared. I just want to go home.

Invite the woman who hosts Wednesdays to something with you on a Wednesday- she will then say she can't because of the meet up and will then ask you if you want to come to that instead

Gnomedeplume's idea is perfect. If she doesn't invite you after that, then it's time to find new people! Also, the OP who said 'I'm going or a coffee, anyone want to come?'

I had anemia. I was a wreck, so glad I'm past that now. You will be too. Then you will remember that although you need friends, you might not need these friends.

I just wanted to say what a lovely bunch you all are . I've had some really kind pm's from people and have arranged to meet up with s few people and feeling really positive today.

I'm eagerly awaiting threads about the best way to get rid of a weird new friend .

Hope it goes well and you feel better soon OP XX

OP I feel your pain.
We moved into a new area a year ago. I'm a SAHM with a 2yo, and I went to all the toddler groups. Tried really hard to make friends for me and DS, but no one was interested. I am a little shy, with new people, but doesn't take me long to come out my shell after having a chat.
We're also in a village (wonder if it's the same one), and I found they had their little 'click' and didn't want any newbies. Whenever new mothers come into the area I always make an effort of letting them no about local groups and activities for babies and toddlers and try to arrange play dates, but it never pans out.
It is very lonely, and isolating. I tend to drive out of the area everyday to do other things.
I'm sorry to hear your unwell OP. You may have a fresh perspective when you're discharged from hospital, and feeling better. Try groups in areas next to where you live (that's my next plan after birth of currently cooking baby).
Fingers crossed for you OP, and do try some online meeting websites (such as mummy social).

I think Weds mornings ladies message was to you as well

I wish I was the arse end of Kent, I'd love to be friends! I'm a complete loner atm :(