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12yo wet the bed

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Thealbatross · 09/07/2017 12:45

I've posted here too, as not sure how busy the teens board is...

He's never been a big bed wetter and last time was probably at least 18 months ago.
Has anyone else's child wet the bed at this age?

He assures me he's not worried about anything and didn't seem upset about the actual bed wetting. I've not made a thing if it, just asked if everything is okay as there's been no Xbox live last night or this morning. He says that's just because no one has been online. He was out all day with friends yesterday.

His entire bed has escaped unscathed . Purely just the boxers which are wet.

Should I be concerned about this??

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SoyUnPerdedor2 · 09/07/2017 12:49

Was it a "wet dream" rather than urine?

Had he drunk lots before bed?

Coming down with a cold/hay fever and sleeping deeply?

If it was a one off, let it go.

See if it happens again in the next couple of weeks?

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Floralnomad · 09/07/2017 12:52

If he'd actually wet the bed surely the bed would be wet , if the bed wasn't wet how do you even know , did he tell you ?

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GreenHillsOfHome · 09/07/2017 12:54

That's not a 'wet bed' that's a leak.

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Thealbatross · 09/07/2017 12:54

The wet boxers where in his wash basket when I went to do some washing.

He did have a cup of tea a little while before bed, but that's not unusual.

He was awake really early (for him) this morning, so I guess that's what woke him.

I'll mention to his dad to keep an eye out this week as he's staying there.

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DSHathawayGivesMeFannyGallops · 09/07/2017 12:54

Not having teenage boys, I can't say with authority but it sounds more of a wet dream?

If not that is he poorly or had he possibly had a big drink before bed in the heat? That coupled with a dream involving water would see most people involuntarily weeing or waking up as they started to pee!

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Thealbatross · 09/07/2017 12:59

I should say, he has done this bizarre kind of bedwetting in the past, by which I mean the bed hasn't actually got wet. Not the last time, 18 months ago, but it has happened.

I hadn't considered it to be anything other than urine. Confused They were rather wet though.

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IloveBanff · 09/07/2017 13:04

It doesn't sound like bedwetting to me, not least because the bed doesn't get wet, only his boxers.

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peachgreen · 09/07/2017 13:06

Sounds like a wet dream to me. Poor kid must be so embarrassed!

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DSHathawayGivesMeFannyGallops · 09/07/2017 13:08

If he sleeps in boxers and has a wet dream, they'd take most of the damage, surely? Hence it being contained. Either that or he's sprung a leak as mentioned above...

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NormaNameChange · 09/07/2017 13:12

A 12 year old wetting the bed would release a considerable amount of urine. My eldest DD did this once at about 14 after a long delayed flight back from the states. Even my six year old needs a complete change of bedding if he has an accident. Are you sure thats what happened. I'd say, given the bed wasnt wet this was most likely something else. Please dont press him about this... just keep an eye and maybe (if you haven't already) have a discussion at an appropriate time about puberty.

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Ghostofasmile · 09/07/2017 13:23

Does he know about wet dreams?

Before seaman is properly produced the liquid is clear, it could be this.

It could also be due to constipation, where the mass in his bowel is pressing against his bladder so he's leaking little and oftern.

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MrsOverTheRoad · 09/07/2017 13:24

Agree with Norma my DD"s 9 year old pal wet the bed here just last night and it seemed like PINTS! You'd know about it if a 12 year old boy urinated in his bed OP.

I'm surprised you didn't think about wet dreams! Don't mention it to him....unless he asks of course.

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NaiceToMeetYou · 09/07/2017 13:25

Did you find his wet underwear then go and ask him about it? Bloody hell op, leave the kid alone. Maybe it was a bit of wee and he didn't get up in time or maybe it was a wet dream. Either way I wouldn't even give it a second thought unless you were going in to a sodden bed every morning Confused

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FleagleBingoDrooperSnork · 09/07/2017 13:26

I wonder if he's had a wet dream, felt embarrassed and tried to wash the stained area in his pants? This would explain both things - damp pants but no wet bed.

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StickThatInYourPipe · 09/07/2017 13:28

I wonder if he's had a wet dream, felt embarrassed and tried to wash the stained area in his pants? This would explain both things - damp pants but no wet bed

This ^^

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PotteringAlong · 09/07/2017 13:29

That's a wet dream! Leave the boy to grow up in peace.

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OhFuds · 09/07/2017 13:30

Maybe he started to pee then woke up, when I was a teenager a long long time ago I would sometimes dream I was sitting on a toilet and pee a little before waking.

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BigDamnHero · 09/07/2017 13:30

Yeah, my first thought was a wet dream. If my three year old's pull-up leaks at night the entire bed can be soaked so that little liquid for a 12 year old really doesn't seem like urine to me.

Did it smell like wee? With the heat at the moment any accidents here reek pretty badly of piss within an hour or two (didn't realise DS2 had had a pull-up leak since he doesn't wear pyjamas until I looked in his bed for something a little later and the smell hit me).

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Joffmognum · 09/07/2017 13:30

Stale urine and semen smell very different. If you haven't already washed them, give them a sniff. If it's semen, don't bring it up again. Give him a book on puberty or have a wider puberty discussion if you haven't already. Wet dreams are covered at school in Yr5 (sometimes), Yr7 and Yr8 (yr8 is in more detail though). He already knows what it is.

If it becomes common it's possible he is masturbating into his pants, in which case a box of tissues could find their way on his bedside table. But it's only been the once so far

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Joffmognum · 09/07/2017 13:31

If the smell of soap or just water, he's washed them. Poor lamb

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Thealbatross · 09/07/2017 13:32

He doesn't seem at all embarrassed, no. And Naice, don't tell me to leave my kid alone. I was worried there was something bothering him so I mentioned it. Who else is going to?? He was totally fine with that, and it was him who pointed out it hadn't got on his bed.

Thanks for all the more enlightening posts. No, I hadn't considered it to be anything other than urine, but will now. As I said, it has happened a long time ago that he's had an accident and it didn't hit the bed. Well before puberty.

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smackbangwhollop · 09/07/2017 13:34

Maybe hi dad could casually raise a humorous discussion about puberty and we dreams based on his own experience without relating it to him. Grin

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Thealbatross · 09/07/2017 13:34

And it smelt more like urine, definitely not soapy.

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chestnut199 · 09/07/2017 13:39

Why are you smelling your sons underpants.

I mean you go into a wash basket and grab a load of clothes and throw them in the machine. Why are you examining each item of clothing

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DameDiazepamTheDramaQueen · 09/07/2017 13:41

Poor boy,he probably has a wet dream and he's rinsed his pants. If he'd wet the bed the bed would be soaking!

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