AIBU?
12yo wet the bed
Thealbatross · 09/07/2017 12:45
I've posted here too, as not sure how busy the teens board is...
He's never been a big bed wetter and last time was probably at least 18 months ago.
Has anyone else's child wet the bed at this age?
He assures me he's not worried about anything and didn't seem upset about the actual bed wetting. I've not made a thing if it, just asked if everything is okay as there's been no Xbox live last night or this morning. He says that's just because no one has been online. He was out all day with friends yesterday.
His entire bed has escaped unscathed . Purely just the boxers which are wet.
Should I be concerned about this??
Thealbatross · 09/07/2017 12:54
The wet boxers where in his wash basket when I went to do some washing.
He did have a cup of tea a little while before bed, but that's not unusual.
He was awake really early (for him) this morning, so I guess that's what woke him.
I'll mention to his dad to keep an eye out this week as he's staying there.
DSHathawayGivesMeFannyGallops · 09/07/2017 12:54
Not having teenage boys, I can't say with authority but it sounds more of a wet dream?
If not that is he poorly or had he possibly had a big drink before bed in the heat? That coupled with a dream involving water would see most people involuntarily weeing or waking up as they started to pee!
Thealbatross · 09/07/2017 12:59
I should say, he has done this bizarre kind of bedwetting in the past, by which I mean the bed hasn't actually got wet. Not the last time, 18 months ago, but it has happened.
I hadn't considered it to be anything other than urine. 
They were rather wet though.
NormaNameChange · 09/07/2017 13:12
A 12 year old wetting the bed would release a considerable amount of urine. My eldest DD did this once at about 14 after a long delayed flight back from the states. Even my six year old needs a complete change of bedding if he has an accident. Are you sure thats what happened. I'd say, given the bed wasnt wet this was most likely something else. Please dont press him about this... just keep an eye and maybe (if you haven't already) have a discussion at an appropriate time about puberty.
MrsOverTheRoad · 09/07/2017 13:24
Agree with Norma my DD"s 9 year old pal wet the bed here just last night and it seemed like PINTS! You'd know about it if a 12 year old boy urinated in his bed OP.
I'm surprised you didn't think about wet dreams! Don't mention it to him....unless he asks of course.
NaiceToMeetYou · 09/07/2017 13:25
Did you find his wet underwear then go and ask him about it? Bloody hell op, leave the kid alone. Maybe it was a bit of wee and he didn't get up in time or maybe it was a wet dream. Either way I wouldn't even give it a second thought unless you were going in to a sodden bed every morning
BigDamnHero · 09/07/2017 13:30
Yeah, my first thought was a wet dream. If my three year old's pull-up leaks at night the entire bed can be soaked so that little liquid for a 12 year old really doesn't seem like urine to me.
Did it smell like wee? With the heat at the moment any accidents here reek pretty badly of piss within an hour or two (didn't realise DS2 had had a pull-up leak since he doesn't wear pyjamas until I looked in his bed for something a little later and the smell hit me).
Joffmognum · 09/07/2017 13:30
Stale urine and semen smell very different. If you haven't already washed them, give them a sniff. If it's semen, don't bring it up again. Give him a book on puberty or have a wider puberty discussion if you haven't already. Wet dreams are covered at school in Yr5 (sometimes), Yr7 and Yr8 (yr8 is in more detail though). He already knows what it is.
If it becomes common it's possible he is masturbating into his pants, in which case a box of tissues could find their way on his bedside table. But it's only been the once so far
Thealbatross · 09/07/2017 13:32
He doesn't seem at all embarrassed, no. And Naice, don't tell me to leave my kid alone. I was worried there was something bothering him so I mentioned it. Who else is going to?? He was totally fine with that, and it was him who pointed out it hadn't got on his bed.
Thanks for all the more enlightening posts. No, I hadn't considered it to be anything other than urine, but will now. As I said, it has happened a long time ago that he's had an accident and it didn't hit the bed. Well before puberty.
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