12yo wet the bed

[Thealbatross]

I've posted here too, as not sure how busy the teens board is...

He's never been a big bed wetter and last time was probably at least 18 months ago.
Has anyone else's child wet the bed at this age?

He assures me he's not worried about anything and didn't seem upset about the actual bed wetting. I've not made a thing if it, just asked if everything is okay as there's been no Xbox live last night or this morning. He says that's just because no one has been online. He was out all day with friends yesterday.

His entire bed has escaped unscathed . Purely just the boxers which are wet.

Should I be concerned about this??

[TenForward82]

If it was happening regularly I understand asking him about it, but quizzing a 12 year old boy about wet underwear is embarrassing for him.

[Coffeetasteslikeshit]

I found a pair of wet boxers on my DS'S floor the other day, gave them the sniff test, it came back positive for urine. No wet bed though. I think he'd started to wee, woken up, gone to the loo and then taken off the wet pants. My other DS has also done this a few times. I mention it to them only to point out that leaving urine soaked pants on the floor leads to a smelly carpet.

Basically OP, don't worry about it.

[MrsOverTheRoad]

Nike no. As I said, I know the child very well indeed. She's already planned her next visit! She's quite thick skinned. No need to blush for her.

[Booboobooboo84]

Oh crikey poor kid. Can't even sneak his wet dream pants in the laundry basket without his mum having a sniff and a quiz. He's going to be creating a lot of grim boxers in his time that just how it goes. Just keep the rule that he puts them
In laundry basket and say no more about it.

[kaytee87]

Wet dream. Sorry op but it's a bit weird to sniff your almost teenagers underwear.

[BarbarianMum]

When ds2 was growing out of wetting the bed he had a phase of starting to wee then waking up and stopping - so wet pj bottoms but not a wet bed. Maybe something like this?

[Mammylamb]

Um sounds like a wet dream. Awkward

[Nikephorus]

But Mrs Imagine that child gets home, opens her bag and discovers the little secret she thought she had kept to herself had been found out. She doesn't know of her friends know or anything!
Guess which child won't be visiting again! The embarrassment

[HurtleTheTurtle]

"He was totally fine with that, and it was him who pointed out it hadn't got on his bed. "

OP I am just wondering if he pointed out it hadn't got onto his bed as a way of suggesting, politely, to you that it was actually a wet dream? He probably, and rather awesomely, attempted to give his boxers a quick wash before you touched them thinking it was the the appropriate, responsible, or, hygienic thing for him to do. I feel he may be aware he had a wet dream and was mature enough to deal with it.

As a parent, hopefully your concerns are a little alleviated now that people have pointed out, and perhaps even he has subtly pointed out it was a wet dream. Keep an eye on things and if there's any sudden middle of the night bed flooding, then yes, perhaps it's time to seek medical advice, but for now, I'd just brush it off as normal teenage development.

[StickThatInYourPipe]

Mrs I'm not going to argue your relationship with the other girl as you know her and I don't. All I will add is if I was that child, I would have said that so you didn't think I wet the bed, not as a hint to go through my stuff. Even as a child I was terribly embarrassed by that and would have been mortified to find my stuff clean when I got home.

[FloatyCat]

FGS stop sniffing your 12 yr olds undies. Give the boy some privacy. He must be mortified.
It is not normal to be sniffing his underwear OP.

[IloveBanff]

This seems such an extremely trivial thing to have happened and I don't think most people would have given it another thought, let alone put 2 threads on Mumsnet (Teenagers and here) headed "12 yr old wet the bed" when he didn't wet the bed at all. It's a massive overreaction. I'm a terrible worrier, and yet even I wouldn't have reacted like that.

[Weebo]

I think you did a kind things, Mrs.

I would be much more awkward trying to explain the smell when they are getting packed up to leave.

[Groupie123]

Your reaction was inappropriate whether it was bedwetting or a wet dream. You should never make such a big deal about things like this - just makes them worse. You must take his lead as he's old enough now & let things go if he says things are ok. What would you have done if your 12 yo had been a girl and bled all over her sheets?

[MrsOverTheRoad]

Pipe She actually hinted something about it to me before I'd taken the PJ's. Something along the lines of "I think the bed got wet somehow...we had a drink"

She was trying to tell me without taking the blame so I said something like "Not to worry, I'll do some laundry"

She knows me well. She wont' give it a second thought. Better to do what I did than let her go home with stinky bag.

[IloveBanff]

StickThatInYourPipe Yes, the poor child wanted to keep that between herself and her own mother. As you say, she will now wonder who else knows.

[StickThatInYourPipe]

But Mrs Imagine that child gets home, opens her bag and discovers the little secret she thought she had kept to herself had been found out. She doesn't know of her friends know or anything!

[StickThatInYourPipe]

Pink but it's not about being nice or not nice, I generally feel quite sorry for the poor lad. Even if he's not showing it he is probably mortified! This sort of questioning teaches children to hide things from their parents.

I chucked away every pair of nickers that got even a single splotch of period on them as a child as I was so embarrassed and didnt want my mother asking me about it or mentioning it

[MrsOverTheRoad]

I sniffed DD"s sheet this morning when I found a big wet patch! Her friend had stayed...I thought one of them might have spilled water...or peed the bed.

It was wee. I didn't bury my nose in it! No need for people to judge OP for checking!

It's normal! I wanted to know if it was pee so I could hunt down the pjs of whoever had done it.

I found DD"s pal's soaking pj's stuffed in her bag. So I "stole" them and gave them a wash and then dried them...and put them back.

I wouldnt' have done that if I'd not sniffed! And I wasn't going to bloody quiz the kids and embarass them!

[MoonfaceAndSilky]

I was worried there was something bothering him so I mentioned it. Who else is going to?? He was totally fine with that, and it was him who pointed out it hadn't got on his bed.

Does he know about wet dreams? Seems he was either going along with you about wetting the bed, so as not to be embarrassed or he doesn't know about them. If the pants were soaking surely the bed would be too (if he had wet the bed)?

[dollydaydream114]

My ex's son genuinely did wet the bed at that age and the mattress was soaked. This was definitely a wet dream and he rinsed the boxers afterwards. Just leave him to it in future and maybe put a box of tissues or a loo roll in his bedside cabinet.

[pink1173]

I really wish people would be kinder with their words. OP you came on here looking for advice. I would have probably had the same idea thoughts as you. All you were doing is trying to ensure your son is ok and not concerned with anything. Just keep an eye out over the next few weeks.
And a 12 year old is still a child and a parent should be looking out for them..not leaving them to get on with life by themselves.

[StickThatInYourPipe]

I wouldn't think to sniff them because I can't see a reason why you would, if they required a soak they would be obviously soiled, and if wet there's loads of reasons why that could be - floor of the bathroom whilst showering, spilled something, sweat, wee, seamen etc all of which could be chucked in the washing machine without a second thought.

[Floralnomad]

Believe me if I found damp / wet undies in our laundry bin the last thing I would think of doing would be to sniff them , that's really very odd .