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To ask if you have a favourite child?

121 replies

lollipop74 · 08/07/2017 21:48

Just that really...

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ZippyCameBack · 08/07/2017 23:52

My kids make a game out of trying to make me choose my favourite. The obviously really like it that I won't though.

GoldSpot · 08/07/2017 23:53

I don't but I have one child I find it easier to parent and to be with. It's the one who is more like dh. The one who is more like me I find harder to deal with.

This.

My DD drives me round the bend, probably because we are so similar. I am scared she will make the same mistakes as me - at the moment she is heading in that direction.

DS is focused, fun, hardworking and easy to talk to. He makes things easy and I am very grateful for that.

I don't love one more than the other, but parenting is fun with one of them and the other keeps me awake at night.

StillMedusa · 08/07/2017 23:55

4 kids... 4 very different personalities. I would take a bullet for any of them.
But on a day to day basis I may enjoy one more than another. During the teen years DS1 was definitely my least favourite child as he was, frankly, hideous...but at 24 he is now an absolutely lovely man, and as he is stllat home, we share a common love of music (we both play instruments sometimes together) so we have a lot more time together.
My girls are totally different, and I'd say one is more 'mine' and one is more her Daddy's girl... but they (and the youngest who is autistic and will always be with us) are all loved equally, and they know it.They need differing amounts of my time, and support depending on their own lives. But I could never love one more than another.

Funnyonion17 · 08/07/2017 23:55

No. Sometimes I'm more fond of one but ultimately i love them all equally. Loves love at the end of the day.

FuzzyCatinABox · 08/07/2017 23:55

I only have one child. My dh's parents have a very clear favourite and it definitely isn't him! Seeing the difference in the treatment of dh and his sibling, and how it is has badly effected both of them (the favoured one is completely dependent on her parents and very spoilt), is one of the (many) reasons that I want to stick at one dc.

arethereanyleftatall · 09/07/2017 00:27

Yes. Unfortunately yes. Trying very hard not to, but just so drawn to one of them.

arethereanyleftatall · 09/07/2017 00:30

RJ, that's an interesting point. The child I'm drawn to has my dhs personality, he's more with our other child who has mine. Interesting.

RJnomore1 · 09/07/2017 00:34

I think we find our own failings hardest to deal with.

I think the child I struggle with will go farthest in life. Im immensely proud of her (two dds). I just find her hardest to deal with.

The other one is sunny and lighthearted and everything I fell in love with her dad for being that I am not. I think it's commonly recognised.

CoffeeBreakIn5 · 09/07/2017 00:41

Nope.

Even when they're being difficult, even when I find it easier to be with one and not the other, nothing has a bearing long term and therefore has nothing to do with favouritism.

BlessYourCottonSocks · 09/07/2017 00:42

The one that's physically furthest away from me tends to annoy me the least. Absence makes the heart and all that...

Truthfully? No. I love them all equally, but am honest enough to realise that the different things that irritate me about each of them are all attributes they have inherited from me.

SukiPutTheEarlGreyOn · 09/07/2017 00:50

Yes, but it's not static. It depends on which is being the least twittish/stress inducing at that particular moment. My mum once said that she loved us all equally but that, at various times, one or other of us might be easier to be with. I kind of get it now (though still think she def had favourite/s, but that's ok)

elliejjtiny · 09/07/2017 00:55

Love them all equally but for different reasons. And of course I have bit of a soft spot for whoever is asleep!

JadziaSnax · 09/07/2017 00:57

I have a favourite son and a favourite daughter. I call DS my favourite son and he tells me I'm his favourite mum.

steff13 · 09/07/2017 01:26

Nope. But I will tell them that they are my favorite/not my favorite depending on how much they're annoying me at the time.

eeniemeenieminiemoe2014 · 09/07/2017 02:11

yes whichever one doesnt have me awake at 2am is my favourite at that time.

eeniemeenieminiemoe2014 · 09/07/2017 02:12

and dear son right now your sister is favourite because shes not the one wide awake right now. arghhhh

HeteronormativeHaybales · 09/07/2017 02:34

'Favourite child'? FFS. Children aren't ice-cream flavours.

dustarr73 · 09/07/2017 02:48

I find the easiest one to get on with is like me.I find the 2 more like my DP harder to get on with.

Sparrowlegs248 · 09/07/2017 02:51

The one that's asleep.

steff13 · 09/07/2017 02:51

'Favourite child'? FFS. Children aren't ice-cream flavours

I could NEVER choose a favorite ice cream flavor!

Jux · 09/07/2017 02:57

YES!!!! A very, very favourite child. But she is the only child I have so I'm allowed

Severalusernameslater · 09/07/2017 03:00

I've got 3 and 2 dogs, the German Shepherd is my favourite.

Italiangreyhound · 09/07/2017 03:28

I have two favorite children - mine.

Clandestino · 09/07/2017 05:01

Yes, I do. My own. Mind you, she's an only child.

MaidenMotherCrone · 09/07/2017 05:32

I have 3 favourites out of my 3 DC.

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