To ask if you have a favourite child?

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Just that really...

Yes, whichever one I happen to be spending time with tends to get that status, for a minute or 2 anyway. I have 4,(all adults) they are all different, and I love them all, even if they do drive me to distraction sometimes.

I have two girls who are so different from each other but I love them both the same. I don't have a favourite. There is a 7 year age gap so completely at different stages and I try and spend time with both of them on their own as well as together whenever DD1 is home from uni. They also irritate me equally so all good.

I grew up knowing my sister was the favourite child and I swore I'd never fuck up my own kids like that.

I don't have a favourite as I don't have kids haha. I just don't have a good relationship with my mum and I am convinced she does have a favourite, just wanted to see if it was common amongst other mums. Thanks for all your replies guys!!

Buxton. Same here. I am not my mother's favourite. Quite the opposite. Narcissist btw. I am her scapegoat and she projects all of her negative traits onto me. I love her but it is a love of biology because she is my parent.

I only have one child so she's my favourite. I don't go in for favourites. I think it's very damaging to the children.

I'm second born and was the invisible child until my teens.

My mother thinks we don't know that she favours my brother. My father told us all quite happily and calmly that he favoured my sister.

My family now complains that I don't make enough effort with them.

Yes. It changes hourly.

Thing is, there isn't just one way of feeling love for someone. It's a mixture, an alchemy of emotions that turns out differently for each child and at each stage of their life.

I love them both unreservedly. That's enough for me.

One of my children is my buddy, she is desperate to be with me all the time the other one I adore for his independence and just understand him and he was my rainbow baby . I'll count that as the same level of love, expressed different ways.

I have only one of my own....so clearly my fave BUT.....nieces, nephews...gawd yes.

Asked my parents, they said me by far but don't tell anyone.

DS1. He settled off to sleep much quicker tonight, although late afternoon/ early evening when it was DS2 having a nap... hence his late night and thus balance is restored

Seriously, I love them equally and admire different things about them. They are different but complimentary to each other. Both have their moments, funnily when one is playing up, the sibling plays at "golden boy". Most of the time they are a joy.

No, but there is one that give me a whole lot more grief than the others.

No I really don't. I love my 2 boys equally. Cant imagine having a favourite. My parents didn't either AFAIK

If I include the pets, Then yes, its the dog. The cats are arseholes and DS hasn't grasped the concept of lie in

I maybe joking

The children asked me the same question. I replied, 'Yes, the cat'. When the cat comes up in conversation it is usually in the style of 'She woke me up by meowing, you know, YOUR FAVORITE'.

No. I really don't have a favourite. They are (all 3) very different, and sometimes they need different things from me, but I really do have equal (and infinite) love for them all.

I have a favourite sister though.

I have 5. I am often told by each of them that I favour 1,2,3,4,5.... the truth is I don't like any of them 😉

Before i had dd 2 i was convinced that everyone must have a favourite.
Even when pregnant I was convinced that I could never love anyone as much as I loved dd1.
I know it's cliche but I really love them the same. My relationship with them is different. Mainly because of the 10 year age gap between them.
Dd1 and I will always have a very special bond because I brought her up on my own. So it was just me and her for a very long time. Dd2 has me, her dad, sister, grandma, aunt's all there for her. Sometimes I go days without seeing her because of her relationship with other family members. Always been that way.
It was never like that with me dd1. Plus I didn't work for the 1st 5 years of her life (college)
But as far as love and even liking them. Definitely equal

No favourites here.

I grew up with my brother being the favourite. It really wasn't nice.

No. I love them all differently but equally.

I don't have a favourite son but I do have a son I get on better with. He's like me, so I have more in common.

But if you where to ask one of my 5 sons they would all say anyone but them. It's hard going.

No.

I have one that is totally the conventional golden child type - good at everything and a lovely personality, just naturally lovable.

I have another that has Asperger's and is almost exactly like me at her age, so I identify strongly with her.

They are very different but I could never make 'Sophie's choice'.

No, they have different things I love about each of them but I love and treat them equally I don't favour one over the other at all.

Plain and obvious who was the favourite child amongst me and my siblings, not me. Only my parents refuse to admit it, despite daily evidence continuing to this very day.

The one that isn't asking for money,lifts or favours!
So it changes on a daily, but more often than not an hourly basis!