Friend insulting my interior design (lack of) skills

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In need of a vent, hot weather and bitches don't mix :P

I've recently done my DS bedroom bright and colourful marvel themed bedroom, and he absolutely LOVES it, which is the only thing I care about, as it's HIS room.

Without boasting its what I imagine is many little boys dream room & looks great. Plus we saved bloody hard to make it extra special for him.

My friend takes one foot into his new room (with her son, who is my sons friend) and honestly looks disgusted and does not try to hide her anguish.

"Why have you ruined your house"
"you should have painted it grey with stars like my kids, so it looks classy

Her son on the other hand said it was the coolest room he had ever seen, which is a big thing when you have just heard your mother slag it off!!

I searched Pinterest etc a lot when designing his room & noticed a grey/monochrome trend for kids rooms, yes they look lovely, but I'm sure if you gave most kids a choice they would not pick the scandi themed room! And you are not giving them any choice, and just giving them what you want. I'm not saying this is he case for all kids, of course some children actually want beautiful modern bedrooms.

Aibu to hate the trend, just let little kids have actual children's colourful rooms :(

Picture from Pinterest of what I mean x

If someone was that rude to me, I'd have replied, "I decorated "John's" room in a way that John loves because it's John's space. To decorate John's room in my taste would be weirdly self-absorbed and actually kind of shit parenting. And by the way, grey paint isn't classy, it's just currently fashionable. It's no more classy than rag-rolling and two different wallpapers with a brash border in the middle were in the 90s. Avoiding trends and styling your house to your own tastes is classy, following the herd is just following the herd.

Oh and while we're on the subject of what's classy, insulting a child's bedroom in front of him is about as far from classy as you can get. It's actually made me wonder what must be going on in your life to make you do something so awful. Are you ok? Is everything all right at home? I'm worried about you."

We've just redone our kids rooms, the boys wanted stars and pale blue walls with grey and white furniture so that's what they got. DD wanted an explosion of colour with cupcakes on the wall a headache in a room so that's what she got. The point is OP, you've done your DS' room to suit HIM, which is great, it's his room, nobody else's. Your friend was rude, and people who do their kids rooms based on trends and their taste without considering the child/children are selfish twats imo.

I'd prefer the Marvel one for myself over the boring grey one.

It makes me think of these parents who are really precious and boring about Christmas decorations and won't let their kids put homemade stuff on the tree etc.

Room decor school-decor!

Does she have form for criticising your taste? I've had a few "friends" like this - bolstering their own self-esteem by constantly having little digs. WTAF would anyone actually care what someone else has in their kid's bedroom?!

Yours sounds perfect for a kid.

Oh Jesus wept! Schoom decor!! DYFAC

Those with reasonable social skills know you gush about something someone is pleased with. She either had a lapse of her usual skills or she's the sort that wants to pull people down to make herself feel better. Only you can say which one.

Need a pic because I'm nosey

Bottom line is, your Ds loves it, her Ds loves it, so she she can STFU

Your friend is incredibly rude to criticise your choices for your son's room and downright nasty to do it when your son was there too.

FWIW, I've got no kids and just bought a house from a family who had decorated their boys' room in super bright colours to match their favourite football team and had loads of bright, football-themed accessories. It didn't bother us in the least when we viewed the house and it will be perfectly easy to paint over when we come to decorate that room. Your friend is talking bollocks and I guarantee you that your son's friends will all think his room is awesome.

I hate the weird trend for greyscale and monochrome rooms for little kids. I came across a woman's Instagram with loads of photos of her toddlers room and EVERYTHING was a different shade of grey. Even his bloody toys. So depressing. Fine if you want to live like the Addams family I suppose.
Multi coloured Marvel themed sounds brilliant.

Hehe I love you girls :D

So last night I had a little heated discussion with said "friend" about her inappropriate comments, and she apologized & basically said, she knew her son would want his room decorated again, so tried to put him off? She knew she screwed up and was actually quite apologetic.

Any way this didn't go down well with me, as you can imagine, but kept borderline civil as our boys had a swim date which my son has been looking forward too, booked for this morning
Her husband (who I honestly have not seen in a year) turned up instead of her, apparently she's feeling under the weather

FFS little kids don't want classy rooms. They want fun, colourful and quirky, and colourful.

Even if I say so myself, I'm pretty good with the whole interior design thang (and get lots of help from a cousin who was an interiors stylist for the glossy mags). Soooooo, our home is decorated in 50 shades of grey and off-white

But, when our DDs were little they had chalk pink, ballet/butterfly themed rooms with sparkly fairly lights because that's what they wanted.

Now they're teens they have very different tastes - so far DD1 has had a teal green, blue and cream country-style bedroom with patchwork quilt - but now has a grey/white shabby chic style room. DD2 had a powder blue and white room, but now has an art deco style, blush pink, black and grey room.

I'm not thrilled with either, but it's their choice (within reason).

Go on yourself for calling her out OP! She bloody deserved it, and sounds like a massive shitebag for sending her DH instead.

And, yes...yes...yes...regardless of your private thoughts on the matter, when someone shows you the room they have redecorated you always exclaim at how lovely it is, and that you really, really like what they have done.

Always.

Can't believe how many people don't read the first post!

His room sounds perfect and fun! Exactly what kids want.

unhappyhipsters.com/page/4
Scroll down to the fourth picture, and the sixth..

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Some good ones here too.

I love the neutral grey rooms that are 'classy' looking, but most children honestly do not want that.
I did my 2YO DS's room recently and it's bright stripes on one wall and the rest are white with colourful spots all over, basically I unintentionally decorated him a Mr Tumble room, which is what he shouted in excitement when I'd finished it; clearly I've got Mr Tumble stuck in my subconscious.

Good for you though OP for calling her out on her rude behaviour though, and then her saying it was to discourage her son from asking for the same style, well that's not an excuse to be so rude to someone and in front of her child too, so it's teaching him that it's fine to be so rude

Ok... but we still need to see a picture of your DS's room...

I know what style you mean (Marvel themed) but Pinterest is very different from real life. So we can't have an opinion whether it's a bit crap or not.

But your friend was out of line to say you've "ruined" your house!

she knew her son would want his room decorated again, so tried to put him off

She only has herself to blame for not decorating to her child's taste.

Sorry for the lack of pictures :P

Once it's 100% finished I will post a picture, I feel it has to now be perfect to show off to you lot (so much pressure!)

I'd be upset too I think, if I'd saved and worked hard to achieve something.

Good on her for wanting g to be cool. My older sons are close to adulthood now and the memories aren't of when things were cool, the most precious ones are of when we managed to get THAT birthday gift, take them somewhere special for the day, build treasured moments.

Don't let yourself be upset, be proud of what you've done.

Whats the point of having a classy room that your kid hates? My neice wants a black room with glow in the dark stars and you bet your ass I'll do that for her when the weather cools down a bit. Your friend can go f her self lol