Friend insulting my interior design (lack of) skills

[ShowMeWhatYouGot]

In need of a vent, hot weather and bitches don't mix :P

I've recently done my DS bedroom bright and colourful marvel themed bedroom, and he absolutely LOVES it, which is the only thing I care about, as it's HIS room.

Without boasting its what I imagine is many little boys dream room & looks great. Plus we saved bloody hard to make it extra special for him.

My friend takes one foot into his new room (with her son, who is my sons friend) and honestly looks disgusted and does not try to hide her anguish.

"Why have you ruined your house"
"you should have painted it grey with stars like my kids, so it looks classy

Her son on the other hand said it was the coolest room he had ever seen, which is a big thing when you have just heard your mother slag it off!!

I searched Pinterest etc a lot when designing his room & noticed a grey/monochrome trend for kids rooms, yes they look lovely, but I'm sure if you gave most kids a choice they would not pick the scandi themed room! And you are not giving them any choice, and just giving them what you want. I'm not saying this is he case for all kids, of course some children actually want beautiful modern bedrooms.

Aibu to hate the trend, just let little kids have actual children's colourful rooms :(

Picture from Pinterest of what I mean x

X-post with Fenella there.

People haven't read the first post, let alone tbe thread.

I did.

My opinion is the same. His room. His opinion is the only one that counts.

You are his hero OP.

We'd love a marvel room but not brace enough! Gone for multicoloured bright football theme

Brave not brace!

I read the OP and like the picture of what the room is not

I suspect I wouldn't like the marvel themed room but would still like to see a photo

Did you get the lights?!

Grey for kids? Stuff that!

Actually just wondering OP, could you come and do my room? I love Marvel😀😀

Just painted dd's room iron man red and she has covered it with slender man notes they're a thing

You can re paint a room, let them have what they like.

That sounds like exactly the kind of room I would have loved as a kid, OP. You rock!

Picture in the op looks like the waiting area in a shit hairdressers.

Can we see your sons bedroom?

OP, picture of your room please.

My dd's room is bright pink, including the ceiling, with stickers and fairy lights and she loves it, which is what matters. It's her room, not mine. It's more important that your child likes it than your friend!

Fwiw, I don't like the black dots all over the wall in the pic. I imagine they would be hard to hide when it's time to paint over them and I wouldn't fancy a room that reminds me of dalmations.

Yeah I am not a fan of the monochrome room your friend favours.

A marvel themed one sounds fab! Can we see it?

I must admit op I don't like the heavily branded wallpaper etc. which I imagine you have on a feature wall.

My DS room is done in neutral greys and blues, but all the accessories are to a transport theme, and I got some amazing wall stickers of a road, with different cars, trees, road signs etc from Amazon. It goes all way round his room.

Could your friend just mean that it's a bit drastic, and when his interests change it will cost you a fortune to replace it all?

Most importantly your child loves it! But do know children are fickle beasts and might like something else next month 🙈

Neutral colours and wall stickers for me means I can tailor his room to his interests every year or so, with minimal effort and cost.

A child's bedroom is their space and sanctuary. It should reflect their taste and personality.

Plenty of time for naice, posh decorating when they have flown the nest.

That room is so dull.

My mum decoated my room to her tastes when I was your son's age. It was the eighties in suburbia, so all chintz and framed prints of teddy bears, and a rocking chair I never used. I never felt like I belonged in there and I was bollocked when I made a mess.

Fuck her grey rooms!

I know someone who is collecting all the stars etc. to do this grey room theme for her two year old. Now I do tend to go for neutral walls then jazz up with bedding murals posters, tastes do change. But this grey obsession is so depressing. Another friend has done her nursery in black and white, words fail me.

You can decorate your house however you like, she was rude. It's fine to have different tastes in things!
We have a sort of Thomas the tank/Marvel blend going on... Not classy in the slightest but we love it!

When DD1 was little we did her a teletubby room with teletubby walllpaper, curtains, accessories, and a bright pink floor. Tasteful it was not. A couple of friends did much the same as your friend - saw it and screwed up their noses at how garish it was. But DD LOVED it.

She's grown up now and still remembers that when she was 2 and 3 she had a teletubby room. She still recalls how much she loved it. Her current room is white, so I didn't ruin her sense of taste, either!

There's a lot of years for boring and tasteful. Let them have what they want while they are children.

I think there is a balance though.

Looking back in my childhood I don't think my dad really enjoyed decorating my room every couple of years..

I had all kind of character themes, Care Bears, my little pony and in my pre teens Groovy girl! Had boarders, wall colours, etc etc.

I find wall papering hard 🙈 So opt for simple block colour walls that I can wipe clean and repainted in patches. Wall stickers and framed posters, then matching bedding!

For the DCs I went for a couple of scarlet walls for vibrant colour, and a couple of white walls to maximise light and stop it being overpowering. It's a good base to update and match new bedding/ pictures to as they get older.

Neutrals can look nice. They can also look dull and bland especially if there's a lot of them repeating through the house. The DCs room is one of the last places I'd go neutral in unless the child was old enough to request it themselves.

Sorry for any confusion folks, my son has the marvel room, the picture is what my friend says kids should have.

Also thank you for making me feel much better x

I haven't got any pictures ATM as we are still waiting for a few things to arrive. But basically his room has

Marvel wallpaper on 1 wall, blue and red walls, he has matching coloured book shelves, 4 of the the wall mounted super hero lights (spider man head, hulks fist etc) on a plain painted red wall, coloured bunting across the ceilings, painted his wardrobes red and stencilled black spider webs on top. Ikea kallax storage units, but I've made the storage box fronts with super hero logos. And some pretty cool wall art & canvas. And a blue tent/reading area

What annoyed me the most was the fact she said how horrid it was in front of both children, my son is now abit worried about having other people see it, which isn't nice. I think I may start reducing contact, not because we have different tastes, but the fact she felt it was ok to tell a child his bedroom is awful, when he is obviously so smitten with it.

I will attach some of the pictures I saved from Pinterest for inspiration, because TBH I stole these clever people's ideas :P

You haven't "ruined" your" house. It's paint, ffs.

And Greggs, the great arbiters of style, are converting all their shops to grey. Says so much.

Te boys had the orange in Fenella's picture, for a few years, until it was so badly picked at that they didn't argue with a beige repaint with selling in mind.

Your sons room sounds fantastic, and your so called friend is a horrible cow. Who does that in front of a child who is delighted with their new room? Doesn't matter what the hell it looks like, you tell the kid it's AMAZING. And his sound like it is. You've clearly gone to a lot of effort.

God, I hate some of the people I read about on here!