Help me with a "Hell no!" reply, please.

[AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley]

Seriously- someone left the gate open at Cheeky Fuckerland this week!

It's my birthday in 9 days. (Actually, it's my bday on Monday- but I'm celebrating in 9 days). I don't usually do anything, but it seems like an absolute age since we all got together, so I've organized a curry night at home. A few mates and their kids, music, etc.

I've got a whatsapp group (lazy, couldn't be arsed to send the same text 170 times😂), which the girl in question is a part of. It's been a bit of a riot on there (people suggesting silly themes, etc, all good fun). She hasn't said a word on it.

She pinged me privately and said "my five are excited about next Saturday- they love Aunty Radley's cooking", etc, etc. And then the clanger (I think)

"What time is (my DH) picking them up? It'll have to be before 3 because I've arranged to go out".

Um...HUH?

I said she must have got her wires crossed- she was invited WITH the DC, and I've askrd everyone to arrive at about 5.30-6! (This is why I mentioned the Whatsapp group btw- these details have been mentioned several times on there, with people joking that they'd be arriving by private jet 😂).

Answer: "They'll be fine coming to yours early. I'll bang their sleeping bags in the boot and DH can drop them off about 3pm on Sunday".

I haven't replied.

I don't want to be responsible for five other kids without their parent there! We have no room for them to sleep over either! My DC share a room in a two bedroomed apartment. It'll be a squeeze getting everyone in on Saturday night, but that's always part of the fun.

In a nutshell:

Am I being selfish? I want to let my hair down as much as I can that night- anyone who's read my other active thread will know it's been a stressful month, and I need it!

If IANBU, please help me craft a reply.

If IABU and completely selfish, help me somehow work out a sleepover arrangement? How practical is it to squeeze 7 kids into one roome? (DB will be sleeping over in the lounge, and he snores like a lawnmower on acid, so impossible to share a room with, much as I love him)

?????

What is an SH?

Self harm

I'm not disappointed you sent the bookmarks either, I wouldn't want to let the kids down either.

Well done for sending the bookmarks! It leaves your conscience clear and draws a clear line.

She's going to lose a lot of friends. A word of caution though - I did experience a situation with a similarish ex-friend (in that she behaved appallingly and slagged me off dramatically afterwards) where people spoke a lot about 'not taking sides' and I felt very let down because I felt she'd shown her true colours.

Of course, she went on to treat some of them very badly. But some people just like to be where the drama is. I learnt a lot about those people in the months that followed.

We were very young though and your real friends will do no such thing.

Onelast sorry you were treated so shittily! 🌺

Well done Rad! 🙌👏😂

OMG, Radley - she's a troll!!! I am so very glad that this information she is attempting to use against you isn't poisoning your self-confidence. I hope that this situation has in fact, helped enormously. You are finding out that not only do you have some truly fabulous friends in your life, but you have a whole community online who not only back you up, but think that you are our very own Wonder Woman.
Btw - I think you did exactly the right thing for her kids.

In light of that email this crafty masterpiece seems appropriate!

Coffee I need that meme for my wallpaper! 😂

You did the right thing with the bookmarks. Did you write anything?

don't be surprised if she doesn't hand them to the kids and claims you never sent them.

You did the right thing sending the book marks. What she does now is up to her.

Sounds like she's going to be very lonely by the end of her hatred campaign

Thanks, Rad, it was a long time ago though... :) taught me to avoid certain situations so I should probably thank them.

Gosh Radley she is desperate isnt she? I take it she took offence at being told to fuck off? 😀😀😀

Trying to get people to believe she is the injured party by this 'terrible person with secrets'. Pretty pathetic I hope everyone who got an email tells her how bloody awful she is behaving and to jog on.

Good for you for sticking to your principles, those poor kids, what a mother to be lumbered with.

Keep laughing at her ridiculous behaviour we are all behind you.

You now get to walk away knowing you're the bigger person. What a sad miserable woman.

I want to know what she said!! 😳

Wow...I can't believe people like this actually exist!! In what world is it normal to think it's okay to drop your 5 kids off at someone's ( not even a kids) birthday party and expect them to sleep over

Please OP, what did she say ?

Stalks post till OP answers

Aw shit.

Ok, I really hope this doesn't offend anyone- MNHQ, Please delete if you see fit?

"funny how she's settled for (DH). Maybe because the only girl she can get in the sack is her own mother"

BiATCH!

WHAAT? She's utterly deranged.

You understand why I thought it would offend? It doesn't bother me in the slightest (the comment)- but I know it may offend others...

What ?

Radley: I don't "know" you but you're worth so much more than this toxic individual. Her actions now show her true colours to everyone.

Well done for your stance, behaviour and general awesomeness. I've loved seeing your reactions and replies!

What a fucking cow

I mean, seriously? That's one of the most awful things I've read on here in a long time