Help me with a "Hell no!" reply, please.

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Seriously- someone left the gate open at Cheeky Fuckerland this week!

It's my birthday in 9 days. (Actually, it's my bday on Monday- but I'm celebrating in 9 days). I don't usually do anything, but it seems like an absolute age since we all got together, so I've organized a curry night at home. A few mates and their kids, music, etc.

I've got a whatsapp group (lazy, couldn't be arsed to send the same text 170 times😂), which the girl in question is a part of. It's been a bit of a riot on there (people suggesting silly themes, etc, all good fun). She hasn't said a word on it.

She pinged me privately and said "my five are excited about next Saturday- they love Aunty Radley's cooking", etc, etc. And then the clanger (I think)

"What time is (my DH) picking them up? It'll have to be before 3 because I've arranged to go out".

Um...HUH?

I said she must have got her wires crossed- she was invited WITH the DC, and I've askrd everyone to arrive at about 5.30-6! (This is why I mentioned the Whatsapp group btw- these details have been mentioned several times on there, with people joking that they'd be arriving by private jet 😂).

Answer: "They'll be fine coming to yours early. I'll bang their sleeping bags in the boot and DH can drop them off about 3pm on Sunday".

I haven't replied.

I don't want to be responsible for five other kids without their parent there! We have no room for them to sleep over either! My DC share a room in a two bedroomed apartment. It'll be a squeeze getting everyone in on Saturday night, but that's always part of the fun.

In a nutshell:

Am I being selfish? I want to let my hair down as much as I can that night- anyone who's read my other active thread will know it's been a stressful month, and I need it!

If IANBU, please help me craft a reply.

If IABU and completely selfish, help me somehow work out a sleepover arrangement? How practical is it to squeeze 7 kids into one roome? (DB will be sleeping over in the lounge, and he snores like a lawnmower on acid, so impossible to share a room with, much as I love him)

?????

No updates? Or is the thread full?

I'd hazard a guess that the OP is enjoying her party and if an update happens it'll be in the morning.... though I hope she does pop in for a few minutes to give us an update before then

Happy party Day radley!!!! Hope she doesn't turn up!

I'm assuming she didn't turn up but do come back and let us know if she replied and how your party went. Have a good one

I placemarked a few days ago and radley you are a fucking legend! I wish i had half your charisma as im seen as a doormat (trying very hard not to be as been burned too many times, im too soft for my own good)

I don't understand why she told her kids about it when she knew she couldn't attend and the timings didn't work. Also I don't understand why the kids are so dramatically upset? These things happen and it's just life.

Cue passive aggressive Facebook memes. Have a great party.

Have been following this thread since the beginning and I bloody love it, and radley. A tiny horrible part of me hopes CF actually turned up, just so she could have her arse handed to her face to face. But mostly I hope rad is having an amazing time and a great party! Happy celebrations rad!

Have just RTFT. Hope you had a lovely time Rad and she didn't turn up. 😆

Well that's a mature text

I know she's out of order but you can get the message over without lowering yourself to that.

Judging from the harassment she has given op I suspect she wouldn't take another 'mature' txt any better than she did all the other explanations Op has given her. Sometimes you need to speak on thier terms to get the message across.

right did you think any of Shagzillas many rabid txts were 'mature'?

rightwhine so sue me, I have a juvenile sense of humour.

Hunky 😁 I wonder what it must feel like to be so entitled?!

It's not 'mature' to repeatedly beg someone to have your kids so you can shag silly all night.

Just RTFT

Hi radley waves Wednesdays just aren't the same anymore

Your ex friend is a cheeky fucker-good on you for telling her where to go! Hope you had fun

"My relarionship is now in jeopardy because of you!"

Good! I'd say it's a lucky escape for the other person.

How's the head this morning Radley? Presumably all the better for not having an additional 5 kids in your flat.

A belated happy birthday!

She didn't turn up.

I've just found a ping from last night saying that she was in a panix- she wanted to take the youngest to OOH with a temperature, and COULD I GO AND LOOK AFTER THE OTHER FOUR! I was too pissed to even find my phone last night, let alone answer in a coherent manner. I'll feel guilty if she really was sick, though.

Whine guilty as charged! In fact, I acknowledged I was immature on the post.

I have even less eyes than usual tonight, as I'm too hungover to see. 😀

Course she wasn't bloody sick - she was being an arse. She knew that you had plans, why couldn't she have asked her parents?

Sounds like you had a brilliant night I'm very jealous

Doesn't she understand that you were NOT AVAILABLE because you were having a life?

And I think the immature text was perfect. You had been perfectly mature and handled it well up until then, but she was not taking the hint...

Glad you had a great time.

The idea you'd have been capable on the night of your party to do that is just laughable. Does she not have ANYONE else to ask, or is that everyone she knew was at the party?

I swear by the end it's just become the principle of getting you to do it after you've said no, especially bearing in mind the text you sent (did she actually reply?).

So glad you had a fun time though. Hope the head is not too sore!

Why didn't she ask her "relationship" to mind the other four?
Since he's so important.