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AIBU?

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Help me with a "Hell no!" reply, please.

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AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley · 06/07/2017 19:55

Seriously- someone left the gate open at Cheeky Fuckerland this week!

It's my birthday in 9 days. (Actually, it's my bday on Monday- but I'm celebrating in 9 days). I don't usually do anything, but it seems like an absolute age since we all got together, so I've organized a curry night at home. A few mates and their kids, music, etc.

I've got a whatsapp group (lazy, couldn't be arsed to send the same text 170 times😂), which the girl in question is a part of. It's been a bit of a riot on there (people suggesting silly themes, etc, all good fun). She hasn't said a word on it.

She pinged me privately and said "my five are excited about next Saturday- they love Aunty Radley's cooking", etc, etc. And then the clanger (I think)

"What time is (my DH) picking them up? It'll have to be before 3 because I've arranged to go out".

Um...HUH?

I said she must have got her wires crossed- she was invited WITH the DC, and I've askrd everyone to arrive at about 5.30-6! (This is why I mentioned the Whatsapp group btw- these details have been mentioned several times on there, with people joking that they'd be arriving by private jet 😂).

Answer: "They'll be fine coming to yours early. I'll bang their sleeping bags in the boot and DH can drop them off about 3pm on Sunday".

I haven't replied.

I don't want to be responsible for five other kids without their parent there! We have no room for them to sleep over either! My DC share a room in a two bedroomed apartment. It'll be a squeeze getting everyone in on Saturday night, but that's always part of the fun.

In a nutshell:

Am I being selfish? I want to let my hair down as much as I can that night- anyone who's read my other active thread will know it's been a stressful month, and I need it!

If IANBU, please help me craft a reply.

If IABU and completely selfish, help me somehow work out a sleepover arrangement? How practical is it to squeeze 7 kids into one roome? (DB will be sleeping over in the lounge, and he snores like a lawnmower on acid, so impossible to share a room with, much as I love him)

?????

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wictional · 15/07/2017 13:13

You haven't got a cheeky fucker problem, you've got a cheeky fucker's dp problem radley Grin

Hope tonight goes fantastically and without extra houseguests!

fuckingbigbowloffucksoup · 15/07/2017 13:15

Hope you enjoy your party tonight

And thanks for the new name Smile

frieda909 · 15/07/2017 13:41

What is wrong with her?! Shock

Does she really not understand that this is your birthday party not a free crèche service? I can't believe she's still going on about it.

Reconsider? Reconsider what? She was always invited to the party, she just isn't invited to drop off her kids and run. But it's nice to know she considers you a good enough friend to take her five kids for the night, but not good enough for her to actually attend your birthday party herself!

I hope you have a lovely party tonight! Cake

ThePlatypusAlwaysTriumphs · 15/07/2017 13:47

Been following this with bemusement! Cannot believe the cheek of this woman! Please tell me you did actually send that text to her?Grin. Hope you have a great party tonight.

NikiBabe · 15/07/2017 13:50

Did you have to post on facebook?! Oops.

Or even restrict her?

As soon as you read this post go on facebook recategorise her as an aquaintance and restrict all future posts to friends except acquaintances.

ohfourfoxache · 15/07/2017 13:51

I cannot believe she's sent another message Shock

What fucking planet is she on?

Completely agree that she's going to turn up tonight. And she'll be relying on you backing down.

I think you need to explicitly tell her that your friendship is over.

ProfessorBranestawm · 15/07/2017 14:00

Her relationship is in jeopardy because they can't shag tonight? Doesn't fill me with confidence for her relationship TBH

Triskaidekaphilia · 15/07/2017 14:30

How about just replying:
'I'll speak to you when YOU see sense and stop being so horrendously rude to me. Off to enjoy my birthday celebration not providing free childcare for entitled so called friends. Bye.'

Nearly10to9 · 15/07/2017 14:31

what time are you (not) expecting her?

Triskaidekaphilia · 15/07/2017 14:33

Or, this would've been better earlier, but start the reverse guilt trip. 'Oh the DCs are so upset that aunt shagzilla would rather attempt to dump her kids at ours and fuck her boyfriend than come and spend time with them'

Triskaidekaphilia · 15/07/2017 14:38

Oh I also suggest 'Glad you've seen his true colours early on. Don't worry not all men are only interested in sex...' etc. But maybe I'm a bit TOO passive aggressive Wink

DrinkFeckArseGirls · 15/07/2017 14:40

Is the wrokzilla thread still going? Could skmeone link? Can't find it ?

NoncommittalToSparkleMotion · 15/07/2017 14:46

Wow!

"My relationship is in jeopardy because of you." She's like a heroine in a Harlequin romance.

I don't think she'll turn up, though. Not if she needs a ride to get there.

...or will she?

Cue "I Would Do Anything For Love" playing in the background.

Yesbutnobutmaybe · 15/07/2017 14:55

I can't believe she had the brass neck to message you!!

BreakfastAtSquiffanys · 15/07/2017 15:01

Interesting that Cheeky Friend has had a week to make alternative arrangements for dumping her children but is still begging OP?
Looks like she has run out of other people to take advantage of

ProfessorBranestawm · 15/07/2017 15:16

I don't think she'll turn up, though. Not if she needs a ride to get there.

Totally sniggered at 'needs a ride'

GeekyWombat · 15/07/2017 15:21

Happy party day. Hope you have an amazing time and shagzilla stays well away. I can't believe the latest message - one kid topping and tailing is slightly different to five!

Fucksoup! Grin

Pretenditsaplan · 15/07/2017 15:29

I honeatly dont think she thought rad would stick to her guns and expects her to cave any minute now. Shes not allowed. Im currently in the library furiously watching pretty little liars so she can talk to me about it while my own child is at his cousins birthday party then its off to rads with a big stick to fend off cheeky fuckers.

KeiraKnightleyActsWithHerTeeth · 15/07/2017 15:33

OP did you actually send that to her?

milliemolliemou · 15/07/2017 15:34

Enjoy Rad but why the hell did you post the pic on FB of friend's DC top and tailing - presuming friends are taking DC home with them safely after DC sleeps at 9 and they go on celebrating. Red flag to your friend's bull.

Beware - she could just turn up with kids and then slink off. Keep her guarded at all times!

And try and enjoy.

KeiraKnightleyActsWithHerTeeth · 15/07/2017 15:37

I think you're in for a drop and situation. Are you planning to be in the garden?

AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley · 15/07/2017 15:54

Yup- I sent the text. 😅

Sorry for going quiet- up to ny D cups in curry atm!

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FrogTime · 15/07/2017 15:55

Wow, just rtft and just, wow!
Hope you have a great party later and that she stays well away!

SchadenfreudePersonified · 15/07/2017 15:59

up to ny D cups in curry atm!

Stealth boasting you rotter!

KeiraKnightleyActsWithHerTeeth · 15/07/2017 15:59

Haha well done on sending it. Wine