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Help me with a "Hell no!" reply, please.

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AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley · 06/07/2017 19:55

Seriously- someone left the gate open at Cheeky Fuckerland this week!

It's my birthday in 9 days. (Actually, it's my bday on Monday- but I'm celebrating in 9 days). I don't usually do anything, but it seems like an absolute age since we all got together, so I've organized a curry night at home. A few mates and their kids, music, etc.

I've got a whatsapp group (lazy, couldn't be arsed to send the same text 170 times😂), which the girl in question is a part of. It's been a bit of a riot on there (people suggesting silly themes, etc, all good fun). She hasn't said a word on it.

She pinged me privately and said "my five are excited about next Saturday- they love Aunty Radley's cooking", etc, etc. And then the clanger (I think)

"What time is (my DH) picking them up? It'll have to be before 3 because I've arranged to go out".

Um...HUH?

I said she must have got her wires crossed- she was invited WITH the DC, and I've askrd everyone to arrive at about 5.30-6! (This is why I mentioned the Whatsapp group btw- these details have been mentioned several times on there, with people joking that they'd be arriving by private jet 😂).

Answer: "They'll be fine coming to yours early. I'll bang their sleeping bags in the boot and DH can drop them off about 3pm on Sunday".

I haven't replied.

I don't want to be responsible for five other kids without their parent there! We have no room for them to sleep over either! My DC share a room in a two bedroomed apartment. It'll be a squeeze getting everyone in on Saturday night, but that's always part of the fun.

In a nutshell:

Am I being selfish? I want to let my hair down as much as I can that night- anyone who's read my other active thread will know it's been a stressful month, and I need it!

If IANBU, please help me craft a reply.

If IABU and completely selfish, help me somehow work out a sleepover arrangement? How practical is it to squeeze 7 kids into one roome? (DB will be sleeping over in the lounge, and he snores like a lawnmower on acid, so impossible to share a room with, much as I love him)

?????

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Silverstreaks · 08/07/2017 11:13

Dammit! I thought it was tonight.

Ceto · 08/07/2017 11:57

YABU to hate oatcakes. Staffordshire oatcakes are the food of the gods.

Shockers · 08/07/2017 12:05

I want oatcakes for lunch now.

KeepServingTheDrinks · 08/07/2017 12:41

Damn. I also thought it was tonight. Not sure I can wait another week for the update.

You'll have to bring your party forward, Radley

rainbowduck · 08/07/2017 13:06

Keepserving I concur!

Willow2017 · 08/07/2017 13:20

revem
How on earth do you deduce that someone just 'mistook' a birthday meal/party as an invitation to dump your 5 kids on you for a sleep over when1) you dont have room for them and 2) you have family staying anyway.

Why the freak should you celebrate your own birthday bash babysitting someone else's kids who cant even be arsed to come to your birthday meal cos she has plans to get laid?

RTFT it's 7 pages of info on what the cheeky cow has actually said to op.

MimsyFluff · 08/07/2017 13:56

I haven't had an oatcake (you can buy very similar things on France markets!) for about a year haven't had one made for me for years the DC refuse to eat them! I blame DH and his hotdog habit not the Ddogs they're far to cute and he wouldn't be a "D"H if he went around stealing Ddogs and sticking them in bread!

NoncommittalToSparkleMotion · 08/07/2017 14:33

So she's planned her booty call a week in advance and didn't bother to ask you for childcare?

Her priorities are bass-ackwards.

SallyGinnamon · 08/07/2017 14:55

Will set a reminder for next Saturday. Please update!

JenziW · 08/07/2017 15:13

Yes to cheeky fucker thread idea! Also to mn diary. Well done op. Loving mn this week with Workzilla and partyzilla!

goodelfallover · 08/07/2017 16:18

I'm still lovin' the someone left the gate open at cheeky fuckers!

ladystarkers · 08/07/2017 16:29

How about, fuck right off..

AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley · 08/07/2017 16:49

I PROMISE I'll update.

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ZombieNightOwl · 08/07/2017 18:01

Please do! My life is so boring! Wink

ZombieNightOwl · 08/07/2017 18:01

Please do! My life is so boring! Wink

UnicornSparkles1 · 08/07/2017 18:19

This is hilarious. What a brazen cow your mate is!

Cuckingfunt1981 · 08/07/2017 18:26

I just can't understand why she thought I meant her kids could stay ? She is a cheeky fucker that's for sure

Cuckingfunt1981 · 08/07/2017 18:26

U not I

UnicornsShitGlitter · 08/07/2017 20:30

What was going through her head that she thought you would want to babysit her 5 kids and be kicked out of your own bed on your birthday!

littleliving · 08/07/2017 23:24

Amazed at why she thinks it's your problem? It's not YOUR fault she has 5 kids. It's not YOUR fault she told her DCs they were having a sleepover. It's not YOUR fault she sees you as a babysitter.
Same as the workzilla thread, none of this is the OPs faults, how can people be so entitled that they think other people should cater to their every whim and need!

theworldaccordingtome · 09/07/2017 12:05

Really shamelessly place marking now. I need to know whether she turns up!

theworldaccordingtome · 09/07/2017 12:05

Really shamelessly place marking now. I need to know whether she turns up!

justilou · 09/07/2017 15:25

Happy Birthday from Australia, @AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley - Couldn't get a flight as it's bloody buggery school holidays everywhere. Maybe next year...... sigh..... I really wanted that giant Toblerone. (And the vodka)

SistersOfPercy · 09/07/2017 16:55

As a fellow Stokie (Longton side of Stone too) I feel that in the spirit of MN reporting @PurpleGoose and I should be invited to give running commentary Grin

Hanab · 09/07/2017 21:10

Oh gosh!
This thread had me hooked! Can't wait to hear/ read what happens next!
Silently retreats back to my usual quiet self ..

Have a fab week ahead 🌷