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Help me with a "Hell no!" reply, please.

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AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley · 06/07/2017 19:55

Seriously- someone left the gate open at Cheeky Fuckerland this week!

It's my birthday in 9 days. (Actually, it's my bday on Monday- but I'm celebrating in 9 days). I don't usually do anything, but it seems like an absolute age since we all got together, so I've organized a curry night at home. A few mates and their kids, music, etc.

I've got a whatsapp group (lazy, couldn't be arsed to send the same text 170 times😂), which the girl in question is a part of. It's been a bit of a riot on there (people suggesting silly themes, etc, all good fun). She hasn't said a word on it.

She pinged me privately and said "my five are excited about next Saturday- they love Aunty Radley's cooking", etc, etc. And then the clanger (I think)

"What time is (my DH) picking them up? It'll have to be before 3 because I've arranged to go out".

Um...HUH?

I said she must have got her wires crossed- she was invited WITH the DC, and I've askrd everyone to arrive at about 5.30-6! (This is why I mentioned the Whatsapp group btw- these details have been mentioned several times on there, with people joking that they'd be arriving by private jet 😂).

Answer: "They'll be fine coming to yours early. I'll bang their sleeping bags in the boot and DH can drop them off about 3pm on Sunday".

I haven't replied.

I don't want to be responsible for five other kids without their parent there! We have no room for them to sleep over either! My DC share a room in a two bedroomed apartment. It'll be a squeeze getting everyone in on Saturday night, but that's always part of the fun.

In a nutshell:

Am I being selfish? I want to let my hair down as much as I can that night- anyone who's read my other active thread will know it's been a stressful month, and I need it!

If IANBU, please help me craft a reply.

If IABU and completely selfish, help me somehow work out a sleepover arrangement? How practical is it to squeeze 7 kids into one roome? (DB will be sleeping over in the lounge, and he snores like a lawnmower on acid, so impossible to share a room with, much as I love him)

?????

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BarryTheKestrel · 07/07/2017 21:36
Shock

I don't think there are words for how completely out of order your 'friends' are. Both partyzilla and facepaintzilla.

I used to live in Stoke and if I had friends like you and pretend I probably wouldn't have left! You both sound great! Have a lovely birthday!

MimsyFluff · 07/07/2017 21:48

I used to live in Stafford then Stone many years ago feel old now wouldn't of left if I had a friend like you too!

PurpleGoose · 07/07/2017 21:49

I'm technically only sort of Stokie now too, moved out of Stoke and not a million miles from Stone now. Smile

fullofhope03 · 07/07/2017 22:02

Christ! Some people absolutely beggar belief!!! BeachyKeen had a great response. But whatever you choose to come back with , DON'T apologise ie say "Sorry, we seem to have got our wires crossed", etc etc. She's not confused, she's chancing her arm! So say something like - 'Just to clarify, It's my birthday and I invited all of you, no sleep overs. Have a look at WhatsApp and all will become clear . Hope you can make it, (Please let me know yay or nay) but if not, we'll arrange a family get together another time.' xx

ScissorBow · 07/07/2017 22:02

I'm not making jokes about bedwetting either but if she thought mentioning that fact made giving up your bed for him any more appealing she's way off track!!

fullofhope03 · 07/07/2017 22:04

Sor sorry OP - Forgot to say enjoy your birthday and the party xx

limon · 07/07/2017 22:18

😲

SugaredSocks · 07/07/2017 22:44

Good god the sense of entitlement some people have! Op you sound like an amazing friend (you had me at raggydolls) I've also just read your other post and I just want to say I think you are incredible. Flowers

TheMaddHugger · 07/07/2017 23:13

RolfNotRudolf
Sorry 'bout that, I am awkward and weird at the best of times

((((((Hugs))))))))

Help me with a "Hell no!" reply, please.
jaggythistle · 07/07/2017 23:39

"you had me at raggydolls" 😂😂

RevEm · 08/07/2017 00:14

Really sounds like crossed wires to me....set her straight politely is my advice.

UglyAcidGreenLegoTree · 08/07/2017 00:40

With respect @RevEm you're a tad too late to the (birthday) party.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 08/07/2017 00:47

Really sounds like crossed wires to me....set her straight politely is my advice.

🤔

😂😂😂

You need to RTFT mate.

Lynnm63 · 08/07/2017 02:17

Just found this thread and have read it all with my mouth open.
Happy Birthday not placemarking at all!

Lemonjellymoonstar · 08/07/2017 05:06

Been reading this thread since 3am ish. Amazing.
Happy birthday Radley!

andbabymakesthree · 08/07/2017 07:36

Send her a text/email argos reservation for a mattress protector or link hippychick to her.

AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley · 08/07/2017 08:02

I'm trying to put all of the Cheeky Fucker threads onto one thread atm. Personally, I think that MNHQ should give us our own Cheeky Fucker topic! 😂

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Cagliostro · 08/07/2017 08:28

This is amazing.

I am intrigued, as she clearly jumped at the chance to have free babysitting for shagfest, what her childcare plans were before you invited her Confused

MachineBee · 08/07/2017 08:48

I second your call for a Cheeky Fucker thread topic Radly Grin

Allthebestnamesareused · 08/07/2017 09:21

I think we should definitely have a Mumsnet diary page where we can put in significant dates:

17 July - will WORKzilla be dropping off kids at Fam's?
Party date - Will CF be dropping off kids at Radley's?

etc

AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley · 08/07/2017 09:56

HA! What an idea!

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Mollymutkin · 08/07/2017 10:19

I've just lost three hours of my Saturday morning. Is Shagzilla planning DC#6? Is there anyone to explain contraception to her?

TheMythOfFingerprints · 08/07/2017 10:41

Is the party today?
Because I'm excited.

Goldenphoenix · 08/07/2017 10:43

I'm excitedly awaiting updates this afternoon, the cheeky bint may just turn up! Have a great party OP

AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley · 08/07/2017 11:10

No- it's next Saturday!

All quiet on the HNF front...

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