Help me with a "Hell no!" reply, please.

[AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley]

Seriously- someone left the gate open at Cheeky Fuckerland this week!

It's my birthday in 9 days. (Actually, it's my bday on Monday- but I'm celebrating in 9 days). I don't usually do anything, but it seems like an absolute age since we all got together, so I've organized a curry night at home. A few mates and their kids, music, etc.

I've got a whatsapp group (lazy, couldn't be arsed to send the same text 170 times😂), which the girl in question is a part of. It's been a bit of a riot on there (people suggesting silly themes, etc, all good fun). She hasn't said a word on it.

She pinged me privately and said "my five are excited about next Saturday- they love Aunty Radley's cooking", etc, etc. And then the clanger (I think)

"What time is (my DH) picking them up? It'll have to be before 3 because I've arranged to go out".

Um...HUH?

I said she must have got her wires crossed- she was invited WITH the DC, and I've askrd everyone to arrive at about 5.30-6! (This is why I mentioned the Whatsapp group btw- these details have been mentioned several times on there, with people joking that they'd be arriving by private jet 😂).

Answer: "They'll be fine coming to yours early. I'll bang their sleeping bags in the boot and DH can drop them off about 3pm on Sunday".

I haven't replied.

I don't want to be responsible for five other kids without their parent there! We have no room for them to sleep over either! My DC share a room in a two bedroomed apartment. It'll be a squeeze getting everyone in on Saturday night, but that's always part of the fun.

In a nutshell:

Am I being selfish? I want to let my hair down as much as I can that night- anyone who's read my other active thread will know it's been a stressful month, and I need it!

If IANBU, please help me craft a reply.

If IABU and completely selfish, help me somehow work out a sleepover arrangement? How practical is it to squeeze 7 kids into one roome? (DB will be sleeping over in the lounge, and he snores like a lawnmower on acid, so impossible to share a room with, much as I love him)

?????

Yeah come on Pretends let's have your Shazilla story.

Radley last night my van was nicked with four grands worth of tools, a new chimney liner and the contents of our freezer in it. Your fault!

THAt is fairly fair though in regards to Tom Hanks allroads

Great *Madhugger - when MN seek nominations for MNHQ Chief of Thread Police I'll be sure to put your name forward

Shiz fuck a moose! Are you ok?

SHAGzilla - fucks sakes!

Radley I think your posts are deeply offensive and excluding - all this stealth boasting about having a party and a birthday and having an oven (even if it is broke ) - and none of us are invited - I'm sure we could all come along too, we'd be no trouble at all and I'm sure your husband would be fine with sleeping in the porch or something?

Yeah Rad I'm fine. I lied about the van. I'm a liar. That's your fault too!

Rolf my heart jumped when I read the first few words of your post- I just posted on my other thread about offending people with my humor!

I've just pinged Pretend to let her know she's needed 😂

I am glad you have dealt with her so directly.

My zilla story is a woman I vaguely knew by sight who demanded I invite everyone in the neighborhood to a party I was organizing. I told her I had already invited 80 people and inviting roughly 400 strangers to party in my new house wasn't going to work for me. My neighbor who was with me said afterwards 'Well that was awkward'. I replied 'No, it really wasn't'. If the woman had said 'I'm finding it lonely in my new build on a half completed street, do you mind if I come to your party to meet some neighbors' I'd have been happy to invite her, but she proved herself to be pushy, and I don't like that.

Rolf
Sorry
Anyway hope you're doing a selection of curries because my kids like mild and I prefer spicy, and DH is veggie but will also eat fish, and MIL's partner (we'll have to bring them along or they'll feel left out) is gluten free, and I don't like raw onions or raw tomatoes and I may be 5:2 fasting that day - but apart from that we'll eat anything.

Oh fuck...

I've just realized I wad actually in the middle of doing her a favor when all this kicked off.

She demanded asked for teacher gifts for the kids. Ironically, I was so determined to demand payment before I handed them over!

Should I mail them directly to the kids, do you think? It's not their fault, is it?

Oops, I'm Rolf you're Radley

what do you mean 'teacher gifts'? she wants you to make gifts for the kids to give their teachers? or to make her kids gifts?

either way, get payment first!

If she's already paid you I'd send the gifts yes, but otherwise get her to pay first

Wow I would say no that is not the arrangement, the time is 5:30pm, and the arrangement is that you are invited, I am not looking after kids on my own, I am not a babysitting service. My goodness, we have liftzilla, partyzilla, workzilla. Mumsnet is rife with examples of absolute piss taking.

I would refuse to do it now

Teacher gifts- she asked for three bookmarks. I'm actually not arsed about losing the £15- that's not the issue. I was only going to get the £15 off of her because I'm that sick of her taking the piss.

I literally just this minute temembered- Friday is my Weaving In Ends day (and beer evening after THAT mammoth task!) and I've just found them in my "to do" pile.

If she's paid, do them.

You know, I think mumsnet has proven Aliens have landed.

I want to hear the facepaintzilla story!

If she's not paid for them. Then don't do it. Do something else on your todo list

What ever happened with the cafe thief thread?

Thank you. The only thing I had a problem wit NOT handing them over was the kids. And, if I've devestated them into bedwetting already, how muxh more damage can I do?

Disclaimer- I am NOT slating bedwetting. My 10yo still does occasionally- as, in fact, did I- regularly until I was at least nineteen!

If she hasnt mentioned neither would i.Not your circus,not your monkeys.

That's tricky but if she hasn't paid I'm not sure I would. At some point partyzilla needs to take responsibility for her children and her part in their disappointments. The fact is she's doing the damage.