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Original poster

Help me with a "Hell no!" reply, please.

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AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley · 06/07/2017 19:55

Seriously- someone left the gate open at Cheeky Fuckerland this week!

It's my birthday in 9 days. (Actually, it's my bday on Monday- but I'm celebrating in 9 days). I don't usually do anything, but it seems like an absolute age since we all got together, so I've organized a curry night at home. A few mates and their kids, music, etc.

I've got a whatsapp group (lazy, couldn't be arsed to send the same text 170 times😂), which the girl in question is a part of. It's been a bit of a riot on there (people suggesting silly themes, etc, all good fun). She hasn't said a word on it.

She pinged me privately and said "my five are excited about next Saturday- they love Aunty Radley's cooking", etc, etc. And then the clanger (I think)

"What time is (my DH) picking them up? It'll have to be before 3 because I've arranged to go out".

Um...HUH?

I said she must have got her wires crossed- she was invited WITH the DC, and I've askrd everyone to arrive at about 5.30-6! (This is why I mentioned the Whatsapp group btw- these details have been mentioned several times on there, with people joking that they'd be arriving by private jet 😂).

Answer: "They'll be fine coming to yours early. I'll bang their sleeping bags in the boot and DH can drop them off about 3pm on Sunday".

I haven't replied.

I don't want to be responsible for five other kids without their parent there! We have no room for them to sleep over either! My DC share a room in a two bedroomed apartment. It'll be a squeeze getting everyone in on Saturday night, but that's always part of the fun.

In a nutshell:

Am I being selfish? I want to let my hair down as much as I can that night- anyone who's read my other active thread will know it's been a stressful month, and I need it!

If IANBU, please help me craft a reply.

If IABU and completely selfish, help me somehow work out a sleepover arrangement? How practical is it to squeeze 7 kids into one roome? (DB will be sleeping over in the lounge, and he snores like a lawnmower on acid, so impossible to share a room with, much as I love him)

?????

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NellieFiveBellies · 06/07/2017 22:45

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Pantah630 · 06/07/2017 22:45

Ahhh I now have the Raghu Dolls theme tune running through my head. Great responses OP, think you pitched it just about right Grin

mydietstartsmonday · 06/07/2017 22:45

Well she is not really a friend is she. First you sit on your arse all day crocheting and you can sleep through his snores ummm, a few digs at you and your DP.

Pantah630 · 06/07/2017 22:46

Raggy Blush

iamUberA · 06/07/2017 22:47

Have seen op on the PLL thread so not a troll.
Can't believe the cheek of some people!

PossibiliTea · 06/07/2017 22:47

I still love raggy dolls don't you dare grow up!

TrueLove83 · 06/07/2017 22:47

I feel I've been way too easy going in my life!

Why haven't I turned out to be so entitled-where do these people come from?

OP you're a star!

YogaYogiChocoholic · 06/07/2017 22:48

Guarantee this thread will be picked up by then online 'papers' OP. Unless you want more hassle, I'd go down the thread delete root.

Hopefully she now knows she's overstepped the mark.....

thatdearoctopus · 06/07/2017 22:48

So she has a great Hmm suggestion for where you could sleep, but no mention of where your dh goes?
And surely if her kids are crying their eyes out, the simple solution would be for her to forego her shag-fest and bring them along to yours herself. And take them home again at the end.

Original poster
AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley · 06/07/2017 22:48

*waves at UberA"

In fact, Uber, this girl is WORKzilla's TWINCER! How did we not figure this out? 😂😂

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YogaYogiChocoholic · 06/07/2017 22:49

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thatdearoctopus · 06/07/2017 22:50

And yeah, watch out for your mates getting dragged in to agreeing to bring her kids along for her "so they don't miss out." You'll then find they're all set to stay the night anyway, and you'll feel too mean to kick them out and she'll have got her own way after all.

NoncommittalToSparkleMotion · 06/07/2017 22:50

Oh my fucking God.

I'd honestly thought I heard it all, now. But this?

Wow.

I can't say anything more. Just that you're well rid!

slinkysaluki · 06/07/2017 22:50

She's a selfish cow you are well rid 😨

iamUberA · 06/07/2017 22:50

Grinyou're right radley we should have seen this coming!
(Loving the name btw)

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AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley · 06/07/2017 22:52

Oh, and DH DOES snore, but he's well trained...one little snort, utters "sorry!" and rolls over!

DB, on the other hand. Imagine two rusty lawnmowers, a strimmer and a chainsaw. Now imagine they're getting it on. Image in your head yet? Imagine they're in the throes of extacy- and it's all taking place in a bucket, with a microphone pointing to the bucket, and the bass turned up. That's DB.

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pictish · 06/07/2017 22:53

Woooaahhh...if this is for real...and I'm sorry to doubt you OP but you can surely see how bizarre this is....she is one nippy sweetie!

She sounds intense, chippy as fuck and like hard bloody work. If I was getting texts from a friend like that I'd be agog and wonder if the person was quite alright. It is fairly safe to say that this sort of brass-neckery is rare in every day life.

I'm curious...does she have form for being self-entitled, argumentative or pushy? She sounds fucking awful. How are you even friends?

ohfourfoxache · 06/07/2017 22:55

Holy fucking shit Shock

I'm flabbergasted at her bloody cheek Shock

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AllRoadsLeadBackToRadley · 06/07/2017 22:55

pictish don't apologize for doubting at all! That's why I posted screenshots early on! I had to get them deleted though as I'd left a name unscribbled.

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MaureenDodd · 06/07/2017 22:58

Just to let you know, you're not alone! A few years ago now, but still shocks me about the sheer cheek of this woman:

I used to help another family when I wasn't working. I'd had a break down due to work stress and was on long term sick leave. I empathised with the mum trying to juggle working and school pick-up while her husband was working away for months at a time. So I offered to take her daughter, my DD's friend, home every now and again. I'd give her tea, no problem. It was supposed to be once or twice a week.

After a couple of months of this, adhoc child minding, the requests became daily. Then a few weeks later the pick up got later and later. Husband was now retired from original job and although working was more 9-5 and home regularly so no reason for her to be late or struggling as he was often around.

One evening it was almost 9pm and no sign from her. I called husband to check all was ok. He knew nothing of his DD being at mine and had assumed she was down at the stables with her mum!!!

Cheeky bitch had been finishing work and then using me so she could bugger off to play with her fucking horse!! 6 fucking months this had gone on for. I was really good mates with the husband and he was mortified.

Since then I've realised what an utter piece of work she is with stunts she's pulled on other people. She is also queen of passive aggressive Facebook updates and very woe-is-me and the world is out to get her Hmm

CheerfulYank · 06/07/2017 22:59

This is insane! Shock

I loooovee it! :o It always boggles my mind that anyone can be so cheeky.

Remember the thread where the friend insisted on bringing her 6 year old along on a "girls' trip"?

IAmCrazyMostOfTheTime · 06/07/2017 23:00

Delurking to say well done for standing up your so called friend. I'm glad the others on your group are aware of the situation and hopefully are unlikely to be dragged into any babysitting duties. I'm in bed supposedly going to sleep but can't tear myself away ... what with this thread and WORKzilla I've lost hours, if not days this week on mumsnet Grin

RudeDog · 06/07/2017 23:03

I can't watch TV anymore because the drama on MN is soooooo much better WinkGrin

MaureenDodd · 06/07/2017 23:05

I forgot to add to my story - I was also a single mum at the time - so she was dumping on a fellow knackered and stressed mum!

Hellagoodhair · 06/07/2017 23:05

The mind boggles! Where do these people come from?! How do they become so scarily entitled?!

Happy Birthday Radley !