AIBU to not have dd dry at night in time for reception?

[Flapjack85]

Hello, I've been trying for a while to get dd (age 4) out of training pants overnight, she is completely toilet trained during the day since he age of 2 but is showing absolutely no signs of being ready not to wear anything at night. I've stopped her drinking after 4pm, I've woken her up in the night and out her in the toilet but she still has accidents. I really don't want her to start Primary School and still be wearing nappies at night, that makes me feel like I've let her down. Last night I decided maybe wearing nappies was making her rely on them instead of waking to wee so I put down the bed mats and let her go to bed not wearing a nappy, woke her up at 9 for a wee, two hours later she'd wet herself, changed her knickers and pads, we were up a further four times between 11 and 4am, is this normal? It seems an excessive amount of weeing in the night? Is it normal for children to start school still in nappies overnight? What can I do? Thanks in advance

Really don't stress. It's not something you can train and they don't need to be dry at night for school!
I would reduce stress and stay with the pull ups. Keep them until maybe a week of dry every night.

You can't train a child to be dry at night...you can encourage them by limiting drinks before bed but they'll either wee or not.

Both of mine were in pull ups at night until 5. I wouldn't bother removing the pull up until they've had at least a week where it's dry every day.

DS is not dry at night and he just turned 7 so we are back to the GP on Friday. I took him a year ago and they said it's not a problem, he won't be the only one in his class and bring him back in a year. School don't know and nor do his friends - it doesn't affect school at all. He's been dry in the day since he was 2. His 2 siblings (1 older, 1 younger) were both dry at night before they were 3.

My daughter was dry during the day before her 2nd birthday. She's now approaching 8 and still has a few wet nights a week. Totally normal for a lot of children, don't stress yourself (or her!) about it. Like most things with children, they will hit their milestones when they are ready.

Ds (6) is still in night time pull ups. The biggest thing for us has been dealing with his feelings of embarrassment which were preventing him from wanting to go on a beavers camp. We had a word with the leaders who were totally understanding and sympathetic - said it's more common than most people realise. They suggested some ways around things so he didnt have to let other kids know he wasnt dry at night. We've tried a few things too but now going to wait until he's 7 before taking him to the GP. He's been reliably daytime dry for years.

Dd is 7 not dry at night - Ds is 3 and is dry at night! Different kids, different times.

Try ditching squash, that impacts on both mine. Also reducing fluids across the day reduces the bladder size so increases chances of wetting as bladder can't cope.
I'd keep the nappies for as long as you can. Far less hassle. When you do ditch them get an 'umbrella sheet' much better than the disposable sheets that just unstick!!

My son was 8 and still has the occasional accident at 9. I took him to the GP as it was starting to bother him. He didn't want to go to sleepovers and left Beavers because he thought he had to go to a residential (he didn't realise it was voluntary and didn't tell me why he wanted to leave until later). I took him to the GP and she recommended the bed wetting alarm, where caterpillar clips are attached to pants and a wire leads to an alarm when the clip gets wet, and he was very motivated to try it. The alarm is REALLY loud, and initially quite scary. However, he wanted to persevere, and was dry in a week. At age 4/5 I wouldn't be worried at all.

My Dd in Drynites until Yr1 aged 6. She is my third so relaxed and assumed she would eventually be dry at night and so she is. Other dcs dry at 2.5 and 3.5. Your dd will get there just be patient.

My ds is going to be 6 end of August and going into year 2, he's no where near dry at night, he's been dry during day since before 3 years old . I worry about it but not sure I'd be able to train him to go, he can be soaked through and not wake up!

It's not unusual not to be dry at night at this age. Honestly. :-)

Night dryness has no impact on starting reception.

You are absolutely not BU. As some others have said - night time dryness is completly different to day time. Daytime dryness can be taught, night time dryness can't. It's controlled by a hormone. Please don't wake her at night and put her on the loo - if anything that will start conditioning her to wake up at night when her body will eventually naturally hold her bladder til morning.

Please don't worry - the vast majority of kids will still be in nappies at night in reception. My daughter is in yr 2 and lots of kids in her class still aren't dry at night.

Great that you are reassured. I guess we don't always talk about it IRL so can just presume what's happening for others and worry our kids aren't living up to it.
Eg. My friend told me the other week she was worried about ds 5 being wet at night and did I have any tips from my DC at night.
She'd presumed they must be dry. I had to tell her dd never showed any sign of dryness until suddenly becoming dry age 8 and ds has never been dry age 5. I hadn't mentioned it as I never saw it as a problem, but I wish I'd been more thoughtful and realised a friend might have needed to talk.