WORKzilla 2

[famtastic]

Done a new thread as couldn't reply. Can't believe this is the 3rd thread lol.

I know I shouldn't laugh but ds vomiting like that was hilarious and so well times I've given him £10!

Neighbour sounds mentally unstable

If batty neighbour spent a little less time texting abuse to Famtastic, she might have plenty of time to organise care for her children.

Great to have you back Fam.

#I'm a believer and always was!

i stayed up till nearly 2am reading all this. i'm just in absolute shock and agree with what your dh has said.
i agree with pp - report to police since this is totally getting out of hand! especially since she has threatened with social services. how dare she?! how on earth did she think that she would be getting a "favour" out of you by behaving like this?! such a bad role model to her kids.

I am glad you have been reinstated Fam. MNHQ are a reasonable bunch really!

I read through these threads in amazement last night. I am so far the opposite of WORKzilla!

As a working parent, over the years I have had several SAHM friends offer to have my DS in the summer and I have always refused because I know I can't reciprocate. I have just had someone this morning begging me to let her have my son one day a week so he stops pestering her.

Back from nursery induction, yes I did post one of her txt about maybe reconsidering the Monday because of the vomit on her shoes. The others were more desperate than aggressive I can't say total word for word now but basically pleading that it was all a miss understanding and could we go back to our agreement of me helping before all the silliness. Also that she didn't want to ruin our friendship over all this silliness, and they really hope I would reconsider my decision.

So basically she's playing it all down to it being silly and making out I'm blowing it out of proportion I think?

But I almost caved and replied till dh told me what for and to delete them and forget it!

She was heard saying that I had insisted on doing her summer childcare for her, that she had a place all sorted and I told her that was silly as I live up the road they may as well come here. She felt cheeky and like it was too much to put on me but I insisted and she didn't want to offend me! So they agreed. Now I've cancelled and I won't txt her back and she's lost her childcare place!

Luckily the Mum who told me and plenty others don't believe it. But lots were lapping it up. She's quite clever really isn't she?!

Of course, she will always be the victim

report to police

Oh come ON.

I'd go with the flow tbh. People who understand she's batshit won't care! and the people who are lapping it up( ie people like her ) won't ever ask you for childcare. Win win

Clever? Hmm maybe...but MNers are cleverer...

So, MNers, what can we come up with?

But lots were lapping it up.

I bet they weren't and if they were, one of the lapper-uppers will have the kids from dawn til dusk for a couple of days without agreeing to it, tell the others and that's that. Families like this become really well known quickly. It is sad for their kids, because nobody even invites them for a playdate because you might as well adopt them as the parents will be a day late with the pick up.

Fem you are a I'm so pleased MNHQ saw sense and hope all the contentious posters on here haven't put you off posting on MN whenever you need or want to.

Lions You are getting some stick, (maybe you have an inkling how Fam feels now eh?) but people are genuinely wondering why you would do what you did.

You said "I'll repeat... I only troll hunted AFTER MNHQ mistakenly said the OP was trolling and I immediately stopped when they said they had made a mistake."

Let's break that down. You posted normally, then as soon as MNHQ accused Fem of trolling, then and only then did you start trollhunting.

What on earth was the point of doing that?

At that point of the thread, MNHQ had already said there was a troll.
So there was no need for you to start trollhunting as MN had already posted their conclusions and intentions.

Other posters, me included, are genuinely confused as to why you would see that, and only then start trollhunting. It makes no sense apart from self-congratulation and wanting to be seen to be "right"

It would really sincerely help MN in general if people who are obsessed with trollhunting just left their keyboards for some part of the day and engaged in reality. It's vile to watch, causes so many problems for innocent people (Fem is not the only one to have been wrongly accused) and derails threads. It's also against MN's guidelines.

Give us all a break, please, and just listen to the comments that have been posted on this thread about trollhunters.
Obviously if someone's asking for money or personal details or posting vile stuff, just report it to MN, no need to out yourself as a courageous warrior expressing outrage and indignation on everyone's behalf, just report and leave it to MN, who as they have proved in this case are open-minded and won't be browbeaten by people who think an OP has ulterior motives.

Fam we all have had experience of "friends" like that. I have one who is expert at dragging favours out of you. For instance she will talk about her holidays and all of the sudden will slide a "I will need you tent". It is phrased as a statement, not a question so you can't really say not. It is a gift really to be able to always put the other person on the spot. I really hope she will leave you alone.

OP I would make sure that a few people know the truth (you don't need to broadcast it), but then there will be a few who can rubbish her version of the story. Do you have a group of friends? If so, I would send them a brief message telling your side of things and expressing your dismay at her bad-mouthing you and spreading lies. She really is a piece of work. I don't call many people bitches these days, but she really is a total bitch. And what makes her even worse is that she's bad-mouthing to all and sundry, while STILL trying to guilt you into having her fucking DC all summer!!!!! She's a manipulative, nasty piece of work. You've done the right thing by blocking her.

They were lapping up the latest Batshit from the batshit woman. I know people like this and lap it up too. It doesn't mean I believe a word of it though.

Just reply 'no' and delete and block. What a lier

Yay glad you got this sorted with MNHQ fam it's been really good 3 threads and I enjoyed reading them and I do think it will help others faced with a difficult to say no to person.
I can understand how some people found it hard to believe as that woman is unbelievable! Who would think they could just rock up at 6.30am on the first day of the summer holidays after a vague promise of a favour?? But I do think your posts ring true despite the unbelievable things that happened. That perfectly time vomit! Some people thought your Dh too good to be true (little compliment for him there) but he sounds a bit like my Dh who is a no nonsense type too (and tall).
As for in the playground I think you will find a lot of rl support there as you did on here. No one would think what she asked is fair, they wouldn't want to do it either. This story will get about I'm pretty sure. Just make sure your side gets heard by talking to your gossipy friends.

Lots were lapping up that's not a surprise really. Some people love to believe the worst of people.

I'm not sure she will say anything to me at the school, as she won't want the other mothers listening, I'm quite calm where as she can't reason and just blows up. Plus if I had really insisted she would still of had to find cover for my August holiday, and also I'm away on the 18th ( brought forward yes) but she doesn't know this lol. So it would be quite an interesting chat. As if someone is your child care option you surely know what dates they are on holiday. Oh I think you are all running off on me I feel quite excited to give this little speech lol.

Fam - time is your friend - so just don't engage.

She will drain the playground Mums one by one and then they will see what's what.

Ignore. Ignore. Ignore - easier said than done when you have anxiety I know.

But this is why you must block her number (as upsetting as that will be for the MN massive, me included - but your duty of care is to yourself, not to us).

Ghost her walk straight past her in the street, no eye contact, don't hear her call your name, DON'T answer the door.

To you, she does not exist.

If you're not up to that , then grey rock if you MUST have interactions with her.

Everyone who is important knows the truth.

Everyone else will find out in their own sweet time.

TBH, when you first started posting I almost hid the thread as I thought you were gonna be one of those frustrating 'I hate confrontaaaaaaaaation' people - and then come back and whinge.

You've proved me wrong and I am impressed - it takes a lot to stand up to a steamrolling bully - and you did it, anxiety and all.

This is you fam, be proud.

Rubbing off on me not running

She also didn't tell anyone about the door step confrontation and just said oh I see she's not here to face me today.

I can't believe what rubbish she's telling people - cheeky so and so!

I'm glad you have such good back up from your DH!!

Glad to see you've been reinstated!!

Does she have a lot of arguments/fallings out with people at school?
What has your other friend (the one who has her children) said about all of this?

Thank you I'm pleased with myself. Yes I will get my side across but il just rubbish it as total nonsense, which it is! I agreed well I didn't even do that. I was asked the odd favour that is as far as it goes. She can invent all she likes! I am not in debt to her, am not a childminder or a doormat hooray 😁