New recruit physically shakes in my presence

[user1498221998]

I think the new recruit in our office thinks I have an unquenchable sexual desire for him. Whenever he sees me he runs away. When I try to talk to him he visibly shakes in my presence. I asked him yesterday if he wanted a biscuit from the biscuit tin and he immediately informed me he was in the early stages of seeing someone. It was only a jammy dodger!!

I think I must give off a Mrs Robinson vibe. On a serious note would I be unreasonable to do something about this? Or am I doomed to years of him running away from me in fear of his life.

Help!

Oh

Maybe you look like someone he's had a bad experience with.

Not necessarily a girl who broke his heart, but a girl a few years above him at school who broke his legs. That kind of thing.

We should all be able to judge new people on their own merits, but if you have a striking resemblance to someone who has had a negative impact on his life, it's understandable why the poor boy is shaking so! Humans aren't rational creatures.

@Bob

AS = Advanced Search where you can see the poster's previous posts/threads. Much frowned upon to use it apparently but it's there to be utilised imo, especially with username1234567 type numbers as it's hard to link a name with a post.

He fancies you, and thinks you're onto him, so mentions a girlfriend.
Quaking with desire ! 😂
Or maybe someone has told him to beware, she may chew you up, and spit you out.
Are you a bit of a Tiger OP ? 🐯

Those user names drive me crazy.

Never knew it was frowned upon to use AS. Why?

Think he may fancy you, or perhaps he's not really had too much interaction with women. How's your personality? Is there a little Dom / Sub play line playing out unconsciously?

I don't believe her fancies her atall.. in fact quite the opposite...
if he keeps bringing up his girlfriend I'd say he feels your behaving inappropriately toward him... are you ?

@Petals Not sure why, but I've seen quite a few posters say it's 'bad form' and/or akin to troll hunting. Maybe it's if you AS every thread-starter or do it purely to link to other threads (which admittedly is what I did re: the dress)

Oh. I get it now. I was a bit slow. I missed that even though I'd RTFT.

I asked him yesterday if he wanted a biscuit from the biscuit tin and he immediately informed me he was in the early stages of seeing someone.

I think I'd have to say it wasn't a euphemism, I'm just offering you a biscuit.

It's a bit weird though, if it's an office biscuit tin, everyone helps themselves whenever, so why would you offer him a biscuit?

Is it weird though that his conversations revolve around his gf and who he has a crush on??

Isn't that the opposite of each other? Why talk about your gf and other girls you have crushes on

It's an amazingly common problem here on AIBU, apparently. Silent sandwich eaters, men who mention their gfs at every available opportunity and men who go to great lengths to avoid an op, but it still somehow appears that it's all because they desperately fancy the op despite all appearances to the contrary. Weird.

Gemini69 i also thought it was that poster too, infact i'm pretty sure it is with a name change

FWIW i don't think the collegue fancies you and it's the other way round

Also love that this poster also doesn't reply to comments asking if she has posted about this before, just ignores

I think it's OP with the crush...

*ChickaaaaannDipppaaaaassss

If he's shaking as much as you say he might have essential tremor.
I have it and it's a pain in the arse*

I do too and if someone was publicly mocking me for it, well they would be an utter knob. But thats neither here nor there, op does sound like a twat...

Also love that this poster also doesn't reply to comments asking if she has posted about this before, just ignores

Because comments like that are pathetic as well as being (rightly) against mumsnet rules.

I don't think it sounds like he thinks you fancy him. Sounds like it's him who fancies you something rotten and it gives him the shakes! Poor love!

I asked him yesterday if he wanted a biscuit from the biscuit tin and he immediately informed me he was in the early stages of seeing someone. It was only a jammy dodger!!

God this made me laugh!

*I asked him yesterday if he wanted a biscuit from the biscuit tin and he immediately informed me he was in the early stages of seeing someone. It was only a jammy dodger!!

God this made me laugh!*

I wonder what would happen if I offered him a kitkat?

Have you posted about this before?

HaudYerWheeshtBawbag look at the penultimate post from the OP. She said she is not replying to that question "Because comments like that are pathetic as well as being (rightly) against mumsnet rules.". I don't know if she's right about that, but she won't give that information.

It's never been against Mumsnet rules to ask someone if they've posted about something before, and it still isn't.

OP is clearly obsessed with this office new guy and cannot handle the rejection and the news he is happily dating....

in fact this thread is CREEPY

Op you do sound amazingly similar to someone who keeps posting like this over and over again.

What's the name for the kind of person who loves the idea of someone secretly fancying them and being desperate to leave their partner for them, but who would lose interest or run in terror if they did? I think someone said it on one of these threads. Something about father issues maybe? I was trying to remember it the other day.

Oh it's that poster?

Is this him OP?