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New recruit physically shakes in my presence

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user1498221998 · 01/07/2017 12:06

I think the new recruit in our office thinks I have an unquenchable sexual desire for him. Whenever he sees me he runs away. When I try to talk to him he visibly shakes in my presence. I asked him yesterday if he wanted a biscuit from the biscuit tin and he immediately informed me he was in the early stages of seeing someone. It was only a jammy dodger!!

I think I must give off a Mrs Robinson vibe. On a serious note would I be unreasonable to do something about this? Or am I doomed to years of him running away from me in fear of his life.

Help!

OP posts:

BigChocFrenzy · 01/07/2017 14:02

Someone has been scaring him with porkies about you

Original poster

user1498221998 · 01/07/2017 14:04

BigChoc this could well be true.

The questions now is what to do about it!

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IloveBanff · 01/07/2017 14:12

Well, if he replies to a non-related comment/question with information about his relationship status, ask him why he's doing that. It's ridiculous. As for the shaking, ask him if he's feeling alright and see what he says.

Hereforthefun · 01/07/2017 14:17

ThatsNotMyMarmot
You sound like you have ten bob each way on yourself OP.

I've never heard this what does it mean?

PratStick · 01/07/2017 14:20

think his hearing is bad and he heard "Do you want a jammy dodger?" as "Do you want to be my lodger?"

"Do you want me to touch your todger?"

WorraLiberty · 01/07/2017 14:25

Following a bit of a theme now aren't you OP?

You do seem to get an awful lot of attention.

Original poster

user1498221998 · 01/07/2017 14:25

Maybe I should have offered him a plain digestive?

He was really friendly the first two days. So it's something that happened in the first two days that's caused this reaction.

Bless him.

OP posts:

Northernparent68 · 01/07/2017 14:30

Put the poor lad out of his misery, get some one to talk to him to see if there's a problem

BabyShock · 01/07/2017 14:53

Maybe he fancies you.

LyingWitchInTheWardrobe2726 · 01/07/2017 14:56

yy Worra. That ten bob comment is starting to make sense.

WomblingThree · 01/07/2017 15:10

Me too ilovesooty. I can't see it being so amusing if a male boss was making a young woman uncomfortable. Or a female boss making another woman uncomfortable come to that.

It seems that young men in the workplace are fair game for piss-taking by older women. No doubt I'll be told to "lighten up" or something, but I think it's a point that needs making.

MrBobDobalina · 01/07/2017 15:16

"Do you want me to touch your todger"?

"Do you want to roger?"

Italiangreyhound · 01/07/2017 15:33

user1498221998, stop offering him biscuits, they are a known aphrodisiac!

I agree with "ilovesooty* "I don't see how he has a high opinion of himself. That could also be inferred on the OP's part by her interpretation."

IloveBanff I cannot speak for ilovesooty but regarding "How do you work that out? The OP hasn't said that she thinks he fancies her, but that he thinks she fancies him and he wants to make it clear that he's not interested. How could anyone infer that she has a high opinion of herself from that?" I OP has made it something sexual. Assuming that he must fear her because he thinks she is sexually attracted to him.

She started out with the Mrs Robinson vibe but is only a few years older. Maybe he knew a really mean girl in college who looked like the OP! Maybe he is sexually attracted to her and can't keep away. maybe he has a biscuit allergy.

I agree again with sooty why is it funny if it is a bloke who feels uncomfortable.

Just be normal with him, talk about work.

LeannePerrins · 01/07/2017 15:49

Have you worn a stunning figure-hugging dress to the office recently?

IloveBanff · 01/07/2017 15:56

Italiangreyhound I believe the OP came to the conclusion she did because he keeps telling her that he's in a relationship, even when just offered a biscuit, so it's not simply a matter of being nervous if he feels the need to say that several times.

Italiangreyhound · 01/07/2017 16:03

IloveBanff maybe he has nothing else to talk about!

If the OP hasn't made any jokes, actions that could be misconstrued then I am guessing with others that a nasty colleague has put the idea in his head. Either as a joke or to be mean.

AGirlCalledJohnny · 01/07/2017 16:09

"Do you want to touch my todger?"

OP, unfortunately those user78789755678bazillion names don't inspire confidence. Stick to your own Rich Tea and stop harassing the "recruits"

MusicForTheJiltedGeneration · 01/07/2017 16:22

Have you worn a stunning figure-hugging dress to the office recently?

Ooooh - I 'get' it now!

VestalVirgin · 01/07/2017 16:24

I can't see it being so amusing if a male boss was making a young woman uncomfortable. Or a female boss making another woman uncomfortable come to that.

But OP isn't making him uncomfortable. He just is uncomfortable without her doing anything to cause it, apparently.

Perhaps he has an abusive girlfriend who told him she'd kill him if he got involved with OP?

I mean, someone could have told him some story about OP, but even then, I'd not expect him to shake just because of something he heard.

The shaking is what makes this rather weird.

OP, do you have a colleague you can trust and who could ask the young man about it?

CosmoClock · 01/07/2017 16:25

You're only 28?
I thoguht you were about 48

For god's sake, if he's working he must be at least 18 and I'm guessing he's a bit older, and if you think he can tell by looking at you that you're 28 and not say 24, you're wrong!

There is no MrsRobinson vibe off a 28 year old.

WorraLiberty · 01/07/2017 16:30

There's another random user number who has posted a thread similar to this, at least 3 times that I have seen.

Each time, once the OP has elaborated, it becomes alarmingly clear that she is the one with the crush, and the supposed 'office admirer' is very much trying to keep her at arm's length.

Mind you last I heard, she was leaving that job and considering inviting him out, only to stand him up?

Not sure if this is the same user number though, to be fair.

TheNaze73 · 01/07/2017 16:33

So in reality OP, you are infactuated with a young colleague?

MusicForTheJiltedGeneration · 01/07/2017 16:45

Mind you last I heard, she was leaving that job and considering inviting him out, only to stand him up?

I think that might be a different usernumber.

This one was has lost lots of weight and was planning to wear a figure-hugging number to her fat friend's wedding.

(Yes, I AS'd after the figure-hugging comment)

CosmoClock · 01/07/2017 16:46

oh yes, I remember a thread about a poster's male colleague who mentioned his girlfriend out of nowhere!

Same poster ye think?

MrBobDobalina · 01/07/2017 16:56

What is ASing?

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