New recruit physically shakes in my presence

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I think the new recruit in our office thinks I have an unquenchable sexual desire for him. Whenever he sees me he runs away. When I try to talk to him he visibly shakes in my presence. I asked him yesterday if he wanted a biscuit from the biscuit tin and he immediately informed me he was in the early stages of seeing someone. It was only a jammy dodger!!

I think I must give off a Mrs Robinson vibe. On a serious note would I be unreasonable to do something about this? Or am I doomed to years of him running away from me in fear of his life.

Help!

Maybe he has a crush on you? I have a huge bit of a crush on my boss and I'm continually walking into doors/spilling food all over myself/saying ridiculous things in her presence.

Or maybe he's just a really anxious person. Is he like that with everyone or just you??

But why would he have told the OP he was in a relationship in response to her offering a biscuit then Witchend?

Or maybe he's just a really anxious person. Is he like that with everyone or just you??

She's already answered that. She said "He is not shy, he's fine with everyone else. His conversations revolve around him informing me he's in a relationship and commenting on who he has a crush on."

@IloveBanff

Oh yes she did sorry!

Maybe he fancies you and is trying to remind himself (by telling you) that he is in a relationship.

You're showing your age OP. Offering someone a jammy dodger is the new 'Netflix & chill'. OMG - is it really. I'm just going hot and cold reviewing all the people I have offered jammy dodgers to recently.

Seriously OP - couldn't you ask what was the matter, or why he keeps telling you he has a girlfriend - even just saying "Yes, you told me about your girlfriend yesterday."

OM double G - you're only 28. How old is he then?

I'm rather surprised at some people apparently finding this employee's nervousness and distress amusing.

Is there any chance he really fancies you and is trying to throw you off the scent rather clumsily by mentioning the GF?

Are you gorgeous?

What would happen if you offered him a fig roll, or a ginger nut? Could that be misconstrued?

I think his hearing is bad and he heard "Do you want a jammy dodger?" as "Do you want to be my lodger?"

Jammy Dodgers, though. They're pretty special, not your Rich Tea basic biscuits.

Don't, whatever you do, offer him chocolate hobnobs. He'll think you're proposing!

I also agree that he might be the one that fancies you and a bit of projection and denial might be going on. There was a study that showed that if someone finds another person attractive they are more likely to believe that that person is flirting with them and reciprocates the attraction whether this is the case or not. Because he's in a relationship he might be trying to supress his (and, in his eyes, your) desire.

Maybe he also likes it that you're the boss of him!

Either that or you come across as a dominating unquenchable sexpot. Please let us know which one it is.

is he about 17, I picture him as that

Don't interact with him in a social way. There's no need to offer him a biscuit - he can get one himself. Say a friendly hello and move along. If he's nervous around you, no need to continue his discomfort for your amusement. Unless you like making him nervous?

I shake when I'm nervous and it's SUPER embarrassing! There's no reason for it, it's certainly not sexual attraction -- I just shake like a leaf at times, particularly in new situations.

gwenneh This is different though, because he's only like it with the OP.

You sound like you have ten bob each way on yourself OP.

If she "had ten bob each way" on herself she'd think he was shaking with lust in her presence, not trying to verbally fend her off!

Deploy- sitting here sniggering at that. Wish I'd had the wit to think (and post it) before you.

Op come back. Tell us you're a gorgeous leggy blonde with a perky bum and good rack. Just so we have clarification on why he shakes in your presence and feels the need to mention his relationship status

His conversations revolve around him informing me he's in a relationship and commenting on who he has a crush on.

Do you reply by in turn informing him that you are in a relationhip (if you are) and who you have a crush on?

That seems the easiest way of (hopefully) solving the problem.

Other than that, I have no idea, only thing you could do would be to avoid him as much as possible.

If he doesn't have a crush on you and tries to remind himself he shouldn't, I'd assume he must be in some way traumatized. The shaking is really extreme for someone just having a suspicion you might be interested. (I have taken to routinely suspecting all single men who are friendly of wanting to hit on me because it happened so often in the past, but I don't usually shake when a man compliments me about something and I'm not sure whether he's hitting on me.)

Have you posted about this before? I'm sure I've read pretty much the exact same thread only a few months ago.

I think I'm reasonably attractive.

I've never had a man act scared because he thought I fancied him before.

Usually men just act normally with me when they aren't romantically interested. Or if they are interested they ask me out. Not had this before.

OP have you posted about this before.. and now changed your name to repost it.. it sounds very familiar ??