To wonder what our options are if the coil isn't working for us?

[SharkiraSharkira]

Since being with DP I have had several issues with my mirena coil when I had previously had a blissful 5 years of period and baby free awesomeness with it.

My new coil (the one I had fitted after getting together with DP) managed to 'migrate', causing me extreme pain and necessitating a removal of said coil and a very painful re-insertion of a new one. I have no medical confirmation of this but I strongly suspect that this is due to the fact that DP is *ahem rather well endowed and quite 'energetic' during sex, especially since I am now, only 3 months on, experiencing the very same kind of pain as before when my coil migrated

So it would seem that maybe the coil isn't suitable for DP and I due to previously mentioned issues. But what is my alternative?

Neither of us want a baby.
I don't want to take the pill (previous migraine issues).
I don't want the copper coil (probably will have the same issue/I have heavy periods).
We can't use condoms (DP genuinely can only use special order condoms off the internet that are EXTREMELY expensive. We did it for 3 months in between coils and was a real downer on our sex life).
Dp won't get the snip (nor would I ask him to) and sterilisation for me would mean a) a rather invasive op and b) I would still have periods for the next 20+ years.
I hate the idea of the implant and I worry about the injection giving me the same migraine issues as the pill.

Help!!!!

Aibu in thinking that the coil issues are down to DP? Aibu to not know what to do to avoid periods/babies without DP getting the snip? Arrrrrg!

I don't know a lot about them but I know you can get contraceptive patches. I think it lasts a week and then you just stick a new one on, that way if it doesn't agree with you, you can just take it off

Why won't he have the snip? My OH did. It's fantastic. No worries about anything and he was fine within a week or so.

No other suggestions from me either

I can't tolerate artificial hormones of birth control and I've already had two children, so my dh had the snip.

Neither of us regret it and he said it was a lot easier than he thought

Partially because he doesn't want to (know too many people who have had complications amongst other reasons). In addition, him getting the snip won't stop me having periods, which I hate.

Also because I want something that controls MY fertility, since I don't want to get pregnant by anyone, at all.

Problem is, periods are part of being a woman. Some birth control can stop it but not all of them. So you're probably best talking to a sexual health clinic for one that agrees with you, but i think the implant sounds like the best idea.. if you can bear it

The mirena contains progesterone - would a progesterone only pill work?
I'll get laughed at but I like natural cycles - basal temps and an app - all scientific but have a Google if it appeals - you do have to pay though.

Unfortunately being a woman does involve periods if you can't take hormonal contraception your options are cap/diaphragm and or condoms. There is a YouTube video of a girl putting a condom over arm so they do stretch. I don't really understand why you can't discuss your partner getting the snip?

Does he want children in the future? Depending on how long you've been together, a vasectomy is a bit bloody drastic TBH.

What is it you don't like about the implant? I have one, and I fucking HATE it, but plenty of women swear by them.

Women have to face far more risks than those associated with the snip if they get pregnant or are on hormonal contraception for a large proportion of their life.

Hmm, I'm not sure that would work Lumpy, my cycles have been very irregular to date so I'm not sure that would work.

Never tried a progesterone only pill, it might work?

Didn't know about the patch, that's a possibility? Does it stop periods?

We've been together almost 4 years. Neither of us want children.

I hated my implant, got it removed early as i was having periods every 2 weeks for 5 days at a time
Have you considered tracking your ovulation and not having sex the week you ovulate? I know someone who swears by it and did it this way for years, and when she wanted children she would just have sex in the ovulation week.

Oops just seen your update. I don't think anything is 100% guaranteed to stop periods?
I've had a couple of friends whose periods stopped with the implant

isn't the injection progesterone only not like the combined? tbh if you like minera i'd go for the implant - hormone is similar progesterone only too i think

Were you on the mini pill before because I was once told (don't know if it's true) that the mini pill, the implant and injection was basically all the same just different ways of taking it. So if it was the mini pill and that's what caused your migraine problems then you may have the same problems with the implant and injection. I would suggest going and discussing it with your doctor, they'd be able to tell you if it's movement is down to your husband's endowment

Arrg its just so frustrating because I really like having the coil, its effective, I don't have to think about it, I don't have to deal with periods or any horrible side effects. Literally the only down side is that DP apparently has a tendancy to push it out of place

Patch is combined contraception so oestrogen and progesterone. That wouldn't be an option if you had problems with migraines on the pill.

I was taking the combined pill before so not sure if the mini pill would have the same effect!

I really don't like the idea of the implant, hate being able to poke it and feel it in my arm [vomit emoticon]

I'm a bit skeptical that it is your partner's size pushing it out of place. You didn't have problems for 5y so why now?

I would definitely say get a scan to see if misplacement could be causing this pain or if there is something else going on.

I was going to suggest the implant but saw that you said you hate the idea. It must be less unpleasant to have than the coil though?

Mini pill is fine for migraines.

Ah sorry just read your problems have been done being with new partner.

I'm still a bit skeptical. I have literally never come across this problem in any of the literature or research.

I was going to suggest progesterone only pill. There are hormones in the Mirena in low doses.

Mini pill is progesterone only - the same hormone contained in the mirena coil!
The natural cycles app does take into account irregular cycles and basically gives you safe and unsafe days based on your basal temp and a scientific algorithm. It's as effective as pill.
Condoms out of the question?

Sorry just read that they are!