To wonder what our options are if the coil isn't working for us?

[SharkiraSharkira]

Since being with DP I have had several issues with my mirena coil when I had previously had a blissful 5 years of period and baby free awesomeness with it.

My new coil (the one I had fitted after getting together with DP) managed to 'migrate', causing me extreme pain and necessitating a removal of said coil and a very painful re-insertion of a new one. I have no medical confirmation of this but I strongly suspect that this is due to the fact that DP is *ahem rather well endowed and quite 'energetic' during sex, especially since I am now, only 3 months on, experiencing the very same kind of pain as before when my coil migrated

So it would seem that maybe the coil isn't suitable for DP and I due to previously mentioned issues. But what is my alternative?

Neither of us want a baby.
I don't want to take the pill (previous migraine issues).
I don't want the copper coil (probably will have the same issue/I have heavy periods).
We can't use condoms (DP genuinely can only use special order condoms off the internet that are EXTREMELY expensive. We did it for 3 months in between coils and was a real downer on our sex life).
Dp won't get the snip (nor would I ask him to) and sterilisation for me would mean a) a rather invasive op and b) I would still have periods for the next 20+ years.
I hate the idea of the implant and I worry about the injection giving me the same migraine issues as the pill.

Help!!!!

Aibu in thinking that the coil issues are down to DP? Aibu to not know what to do to avoid periods/babies without DP getting the snip? Arrrrrg!

Ring is also combined hormonal. Not an option if migraines with aura.

Some absolutely terrible advice here re: condoms. Yes they can stretch over an arm or blow up like a balloon, but if you actually want them to be of any use as far as birth control goes, they need to fit properly or it's extremely likely they'll break. They aren't made to be stretched or be pulled on. They should be snug, but still able to be easily and gently rolled on. If that's not happening, whether it's because the guy is big or small or narrow or whatever else, then the condoms effectiveness drops right off a cliff.

Think of it like clothing but with higher stakes. A large person could squeeze themselves into a small but stretchy piece of clothing, but the chances of the seams splitting and tearing are far far higher than if they just wear their right size.

I'm unsure why you have come on here. All the options open to you that have been suggested, you have dismissed. No coil, no to the implants, no the pill, no to periods, no to sterilisation, no to partner wearing condoms, no to partner getting the snip.

Not really much else you can do.

Except giving up PIV sex!

I got sterilised with the Essure procedure: no op!

It's been fab for me, such a relief.... well worth a look.

I've had absolutely no negative side effects or problems, btw.