Woman dyes her 2 year old daughters hair

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I just read this and wonder what on earth she is thinking at the age of 2, or am i just old fashioned???

uk.yahoo.com/style/mum-sparks-parenting-debate-dying-two-year-olds-hair-bright-pink-094908558.html

A mum has ignited a parenting debate on Instagram after dying her two-year-old daughter’s hair pink.

Charity Grace LeBlanc, a vlogger from the US, explained in a YouTube video tutorial of the transformation that her daughter Felicity (City for short) had been asking for pink hair for ages.

“I’m dying my two year old daughter’s hair PINK!,” the summary of the video reads. “She has been begging me for a long time so we finally just went ahead and did it! I used Manic Panic Hot Pink which is a direct dye and is safe for kids. It washed out in about three to four days.”

“I’m not lightening the hair because I don’t want to damage her hair, cause she’s still really little,” the mum said during the video clip.

“The dye I’m using is a semi-permanent dye, which will wash out,” she continued.

he mum also took to her Instagram to share a clip of the video and ask other parents if they’d consider dying their own children’s hair “City’s pink hair is now up on my YouTube channel! Link in bio! What do you guys think!? Would you let your daughter do this!?” she captioned the video.

And the post quickly sparked a debate about whether it was OK to dye a toddlers hair.

Some parents were totally against the idea.

“This is so irresponsible of you. Of course she’s going to want it. She’s a kid! She doesn’t know what she wants! And you, the parent should know better! She’s going to be bald by the age of 20,” one parent wrote.

“How can u do that to such a cute child I feel so bad for her,” added another.

“Adorable! but no I wouldn’t do it to my daughter,” another parent commented.

I don't have a problem with the dye per se. But none of my kids would have sat still long enough at 2 I don't think. I would have ended up with pink all over the place.

Chalks or spray would be a better option for a toddler imo.

Meh, not much different from nail varnish IMO.

Peircing a toddlers ears though...I could get judgey about that

Brushing her hair changes a 2yr old's appearance. So do face paints.

I think whatever is the objectionable principle needs to be articulated differently to become a compelling argument.

The hair part I have no problem with but calling her City is just a big fat no

I think it's cool - no harm done!

Brushing her hair??? Are you serious? I guess so does brushing her teeth and feeding her as she'd look completely different without those things...

This may be irrational, but I think I'd have more of a problem with it if she had dyed her hair a natural colour - as that would be too much of an "adult" thing to do, rather than just a silly thing to do. Does that make sense?
To me, pink (or blue, or purple) hair isn't the sort of thing I'd choose to look more "attractive", but seems sort of fun and childish.
Likewise, I feel a bit ick about young girls wearing loads of immaculately applied make up, but consider kids wearing glitter or mucking about with their mum's makeup themselves (and looking ridiculous in the process) as funny, and completely normal childish behaviour.

"brushing her hair" - a better analogy would be perhaps cutting/growing out a fringe, or allowing a child to have a say in how long their hair is, but I see your point. If we were really against altering our daughter's appearance for vain reasons, they would all have very short hair as that is the most practical hair style. Not that there is anything wrong with a "boy" haircut for a girl, but loads of us have dds with hair long enough to require brushing (which they often find painful). Is that bad parenting too?

Letting a child have long hair (or brushing it ) wouldn't cause them to be overly focused on their appearance in the same way as dying their hair bright pink, taking photos and getting comments from most people you meet would.

Lots of attention would be given to such a radical change..thus focusing a young child on their own appearance and the effect it has on others.

There's loads of time to experiment with make up and hair dye when they're older. But maybe I'm old fashioned..!

My own mother focused heavily on my and my sister's looks when we were growing up and it made me obsess about my appearance and be overly critical and anxious about it as I grew up. That's just my experience of course.

My toddler often begs for bunches, or plaits, or occasionally some quite weird hairstyle ("pineapple hair like when I was a baby mummy") I normally agree, and she does get comments from strangers on the street (especially when she has chosen her own outfit too - tutu skirt, bunny ears and wellies is her favourite at the moment), and in this way she is focused on her appearance, but only to an extent that she gets fun from altering her appearance in daft ways. I don't think I am encouraging her to obsess about her appearance though, and obviously I wouldn't say yes to everything. I have never died her hair, but don't see what the big deal is about a silly, temporary colour that the girl asked for.

As long as they are experimenting with their appearance to please themselves, rather than altering it to conform to a narrow interpretation of "beauty" I honestly don't think its unhealthy. Children are aware of their appearance from a young age - both boys and girls. That awareness doesn't have to be a bad thing, and it doesn't have to be about poor body image, conformity, peer pressure or obsession. It can be about fun and dress-up.

The vlogging aspect and lack of privacy for the girl is a different matter however - I don't think that is a sensible thing to do at all.

Teatowelfairy
Temp and semi doesn't damage the hair.
With pink especially it won't last long.

Omg my 2 year old son would love this, I'm going to get some of that dye

My 7 yo DD wants pink hair at the moment... But I wouldn't use her to promote my vlog (if I had one!)

Would I do it? Probably not at 2 because I wouldnt want the judginess tbh. But if I could get that dye for DD who is 6 and desperate for pink hair during the hols then I would.

Would I use my child as a desperate attempt to be an online "sleb" and garner more attention for myself? No. That is far worse than anything she did to her daughters hair.

At 2 the skin is so delicate my god I remember dying my hair at 15 with a temp colour and thinking I was dying. These dyes are harsh and I wouldn't put them on my kids. My ds2 dyed his hair blue with a temp due last summer tho 🙄

Thanks dantdm

A bit surprised by people who don't think a two-year-old could be a) articulate enough to ask for and b) interested in having pink hair.

My daughter has been speaking in full sentences since she was just two, which was a bit earlier than her peers, but not much.

By the time she was two and a half, she had started getting up at 6am to get herself dressed as she has very particular ideas about what she wants to wear (all pink and tutus, in total contrast to what I would dress her in).

I wouldn't make YouTube videos of my kids, but I truly can't see the issue with temporary hair colours. Kids love exploring aspects of "dressing up". And preschoolers don't even need to wait till the school holidays to give it a go.

As long as she's not bleaching the hair, it does no harm and doesn't matter. It's a fallacy that all colour is bad for hair: it isn't; only bleach is bad.

Also you can get conditioners (I think from the brand EVO and probably others) which have colour in them. They wash out completely within a couple of washes. I did this to my hair (with pink) and it looked like a dye job, but was gone within a few days. No damage done, of course, as it's purely conditioner.

I can't help feeling that if this was posted on mn on another day it would get a completely different reaction

Whats wrong with:

"Mummy i want pink hair".

"No sorry we dont dye hair until we are grown up".

No sorry we dont due hair till we are grown up

And if she asks why not, what's the answer? I can't think of a decent reason, personally.

A 2 year old needs to be given a reason?

It's not dying the hair though is it?

It's a vegetable based coloured rinse that'll wash out (but like hair chalk or Glitter spray)

Not sure what the problem is tbh.

Really we have children below the poverty line, starving and the only hot meal they have a day is school dinners. and your moaning about a toddler with pink hair?!?

Someone stop the world, I want to get off.

@Finally

Uh, sure, they're a person like anyone else, and I think it's fair and helpful to explain the reason behind rules. It helps kids make sense of the world.

I don't like seeing children with their hair dyed, the same way that I don't like seeing little girls with nail polish or makeup. It is encouraging an adult preoccupation with appearance, which with little girls in particular I think is damaging.

My DM was never into makeup or clothes and didn't talk about dieting etc around me because it can and does give children hang ups about their own appearance at a time in their lives when it shouldn't matter at all. At two I would have had no idea what hair dye was much less asked for it myself, but obviously her little girl has seen her mother having it done and wants to join in. You see so many articles with studies claiming that 5 year olds are worried about dieting etc and that must come from somewhere - most likely their mothers.

Let children be children, don't try to make them into little mini-me's which is exactly what this woman is doing in order to get likes and more followers. I wouldn't be surprised if some of these youtubers kids sue their parents in the future for pimping them out like this. It will be interesting to see how the children of this image obsessed generation grow up, because I think it will be an unhappier cohort than the current one who are already some of the unhappiest in the developed world.