Being latched onto abroad! NOW

[Poisongirl81]

Help! We don't want to appear rude but we are in Spain with my toddler and another couple have latched onto us for a week now...they have 3 dc and are different ages to ours 🙂 today we got up early to put towels down but they spotted us and so sad next to us...again! We can't move our towels now as it would be rude. We just want to chill and read but they talk all day mainly at us!

Ah right, got it now Pike.

You're never going to see them again so you can be a little rude without repercussions.

Tell her you just want to read and then headphones in and ignore.

I would absolutely hate this, I'm completely anti-social on holiday, just want to read my book. I really don't want to make new friends. And if you're reading it definitely sends out a vibe that you don't want to talk. My oh, on the other hand, is always willing to talk, I feel he's too polite lol.

Put earphones in. Say you are learning a language/listening to a book/ catching up on course work and that they will have to excuse you for the day.

This totally sucks.
Don't listen to the ship* people are giving you. Some people aren't as assertive as others, and some people can manipulate situations and people easier than others.
Obviously you've got yourself into a situation and you'd probably have done things differently given the chance.
But anyway... possible ways to salvage the last of your holiday...
Talk about something controversial like politics, then just go with the exact opposite of their views. If you give them the control of ending/cooling off the holiday friendship it releases you from the guilt of feeling rude.
Be honest. Say you're going to the beach or whatever to have a bit of family time before you go home. You can even do the whole "We've spent so much time getting to know you guys, we've hardly spent any quality time together!" And make out like it's your fault, not theirs, and you feel guilty for not spending more time with dd and oh.
Or... use kids club as it was intended... for a bit of grown ups time! Alone in your room.

Also be prepared for them wanting to exchange details when you leave and figure out how you're gunna deal with it before it happens!

Given your other threads OP, do you think it's possible this couple is actually trying to look out for you and protect you?

Why not tell them you're in Jehovah's Witnesses/the EDL/love Katie Hopkins and start excitedly talking about it - then watch them back away......

Hey update...we fucked them right off tonight. Ignored no pleasantaries....ingnored! I asserted myself.....told them no we are going to eat on our own tonight and go to bed early. They tried to corner us in the restaurant again we just walked past. Thanks for the help I feel way better.

Crikey OP, I've just read the thread. I really want to tell them to Fuck off for you!

I'm glad you've managed to put them off for tonight. Some people have no bloody idea do they? I wonder why they feel the need to latch onto other people, it's weird! Perhaps their relationship is so dull, they can't bear to be alone together.

Enjoy your evening

Well done for being assertive, that needed to be done. Sounds like they're an odd couple to be honest, latching on to you like that. Hopefully they've got the message now.

Well done op! Enjoy your night without them!

Villas aren't all that.

You have to cook. Or go out for every meal. And there's no kids club to keep small children occupied so you can read a book without worrying.

If you really can't bring yourself to say "no thanks" to a latcher-onner then by all means book one next time but it is a compromise not an outright-better option.

I do like villas or chalets when on holiday with our kids. That's because our two DDs are so damn fussy over their food and eating in hotel restaurants can be a nightmare. They also get over excited when on holiday. It's just nice to be able to buy what we want and eat what we want too.

It also means you can be as anti-social as you want! And discover other places to eat.

Well done OP. You finally did it on your ?last? night. Hope you enjoyed it and have learnt how to enjoy your holidays better. Do check out the Victoria Wood when you get home and have the time.

🎉🎉🎉

I wondered the same Chame

Good for you OP.
What does this have to do with other threads? Hope you are ok OP.

Do not give them your address so you can exchange Christmas cards.

No it doesn't sound like this couple sensed anything about op and her oh. They were too busy talking at them, only thinking of themselves.

Yes, I have a new found love for my dh's grumpy demeanour after reading this thread

Seconded! As have I. Hope it all improves from here on in, OP....

I don't understand how people can be so fucking stupid that they don't pick up on the signals.

Enjoy your last few days of your holiday.

Dp and I once had a holiday on our own where we literally talked to nobody all week other than staff in the hotel. It was bliss. We've never managed it since.

Ds is ridiculously sociable and has a habit of befriending the most unlikely people in minutes. I'll never forget once looking up from my book to see him paddling an inflatable crocodile around the hotel pool with the scariest looking lady I've ever seen.

We've made some great friends on holiday over the years. But Ive certainly never set out to do it - it's just happened.

No it doesn't sound like this couple sensed anything about op and her oh.

Maybe they didn't sense it, perhaps they heard it (along with the rest of the hotel) if I'm remembering OP's previous thread correctly.

One way and another it sounds like the holiday from hell

So it gets worse she has just plunked herself on the lounger next to me. Complains she is bored and likes to go out of the hotel do we fancy it tonight. I said no I like it here...they should go. She says no we are having such fun with us guys but almost making me feel guilty they can't go out.

I know the problem has been sorted, but you had the chance to make your pint here.

Her: Do you fancy going out tonight?

You: (pissed off, exasperated voice). No, I want to spend some time just with my damned husband.

We had an attempted limpet on a recent holiday in Vietnam. With plenty of empty beds all around the pool, they bubbled over and the husband announced "May we join you?" My wife immediately looked astounded at the very idea, and just said "No. Sorry, no". They buggered off, wind taken out of their sails, and sat somewhere else, I filed it away for future use.