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Being latched onto abroad! NOW

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Poisongirl81 · 29/06/2017 07:20

Help! We don't want to appear rude but we are in Spain with my toddler and another couple have latched onto us for a week now...they have 3 dc and are different ages to ours 🙂 today we got up early to put towels down but they spotted us and so sad next to us...again! We can't move our towels now as it would be rude. We just want to chill and read but they talk all day mainly at us!

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MargotLovedTom1 · 29/06/2017 15:05

OK OP, put up or shut up.

NemosKnickers · 29/06/2017 15:08

You're not going to say anything op?

Ok

ILoveDolly · 29/06/2017 15:09

Just tell them. It's something people don't always understand. Maybe sitting reading a book is their idea of hell.

Ecclesiastes · 29/06/2017 15:09

Honestly, the people suggesting you tell them to fuck off bluntly haven't got a clue about the real world

Depends what circles you move in. I've told plenty of people to fuck off over the years. Mealy mouthed politesse gets you nowhere in many situations.

Willow2017 · 29/06/2017 15:11

Just tell them "I am spending time with my oh while kids are at club. Thanks but no thanks we don't want company today. I am sure someone else will take photos for you in the pool."
"We are going to the beach later as a family, just us. We are on holiday to gave some quality time together maybe someone else will go with you."

Then disengage. They are too self absorbed to take hints. You need to be blunt so they get the message or you are going to be stuck with them for the rest of your holiday.

Lucysky2017 · 29/06/2017 15:13

I never have trouble saying no other people do though. My parents had this in Spain - our first ever time abroad or indeed first ever holiday when I was 10. A couple with a son latched on. In the end we just went to extreme lengths to avoid them - spying for when they were around, going elsewhere etc. I think some people just like to go on holiday to see other people (and we like to go on holiday to avoid other people!)

ILoveDolly · 29/06/2017 15:14

Yes and there are lots of ways to imply Fuck Off without actually saying it.
You need to be clear. If you can't get your message across politely then blunt will have to do

thisismadness77 · 29/06/2017 15:15

It's Janette and Dougie from Manchester!

Ecclesiastes · 29/06/2017 15:17

IME this is no different from a situation where some creepy bloke comes and sits next to you on a park bench and tries to hit on you. You don't simper and bat your eyelids and make polite conversation whilst dying inside and wishing he would leave you alone. You tell him, forcefully, where to go.

Poor OP's kids, not learning these lessons from their parents nice and early. They're being set up for a miserable life of people-pleasing and swallowing their anger and resentment. Shame.

cordeliavorkosigan · 29/06/2017 15:20

No problem with the straight truth: ... We have enjoyed talking to you but for the rest of our holiday, we want some time alone. We come on holiday to spend time just with each other. No thank you. We would like to be alone. Have a lovely day without us. ...
And repeat! And repeat. And repeat.
Easier said than done, though.
Are they (and you) British?
British people seem to be less direct than others in many circumstances.

LesisMiserable · 29/06/2017 15:22

This is where having a resting bitch face really comes into it's own, I've found

rainbowpie · 29/06/2017 15:25

Just show them this thread?

Deemail · 29/06/2017 15:35

I don't get why you couldn't have said we're having a family night tonight and all day tomorrow as we don't feel we've had enough quality time together on this holiday for some reason.
Is it really that hard to say what you'd like to do without feeling you'll offend?

Yogagirl123 · 29/06/2017 15:40

Haha, you and DH must be super nice to make friends for life so quickly, lol! I would say you will need to be blunt, they don't sound the sort that would take a hint! You never have to see them again after your hols do I wouldn't worry about upsetting them. Why not book a villa in future, you will have your privacy and be able to enjoy your family time together.

GahBuggerit · 29/06/2017 15:41

I can only come to the conclusion that you actually like them OP.

PrivatePike · 29/06/2017 15:51

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handslikecowstits · 29/06/2017 15:53

PrivatePike

Sorry to be one of those annoying posters, but a search shows that this has been a rotten holiday all around, and the OH sounds awful

Was just about to say: the OP has bigger fish to fry than this.

Therealslimshady1 · 29/06/2017 16:15

This thread is making me stressed!

I am suddenly so grateful I come across as aloof, and DH has his face like thunder if anyone tries this kind of shit Grin

sidesplittinglol · 29/06/2017 16:17

Haven't read the whole thread but why don't you just act annoying so they back off that way?

Decaffstilltastesweird · 29/06/2017 16:20

slimshady

Yes, I have a new found love for my dh's grumpy demeanour after reading this thread. I've been working on my own resting bitch face as well recently, but actually it's probably a blessing in disguise. Might go back to my natural scowl.

TheMerryWidow1 · 29/06/2017 16:24

my other half is banned from talking to people on holiday now as we had the same problem a few years ago with another couple! Just keep saying no thanks to everything they suggest, don't give an excuse why not though!!

Willow2017 · 29/06/2017 16:34

Last years holiday I had some lovely chats with a variety of people when we were all in the smoking area together. But they didnt try to follow me around! (nor I them Smile) I dont know why you would impose yourself on someone elses holiday.

Kids also played with other kids in the pool. We had a lilo and another families kids decided to play on it and got a bit rough. I had no choice but to put on my big girl pants and say to the dad that it wasnt a hotel lilo it was ours but that thier kids were welcome to play on it but to treat it a bit more gently please. No problems, everyone happy without fuss.

Sometimes you just have to bite the bullet and I am the shyest person going, I avoid confrontation whenever possible.Smile

Alittlepotofrosie · 29/06/2017 16:52

Stop being so pathetic! Just tell them!

AceholeRimmer · 29/06/2017 16:55

This is a nightmare... I would hate this. But me and DP have perfected the 'pleasantries and then activating the fuck off bubble' Grin But some people are so unaware of the vibes they get off other people.. this couple just don't get the hint. I bet they are the types to pop in on people unexpectedly and not get the hint that you're busy cooking tea/doing bedtimes etc. I would rather risk an atmosphere rather than them ruin my holiday..

notonmywatch123 · 29/06/2017 16:59

Never have I felt more anxious than when reading this thread!

You're clearly not going to say anything, not your style, not got the confidence etc - whatever, that's fine.

All I would say is next holiday BOOK A PRIVATE VILLA!!! The best bit is that from leaving the airport to returning to the airport you do not have to interact with anyone you don't want to and no one can attach themselves to you.
Really hope you've managed to enjoy your holiday in spite of these moronic people.

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