Being latched onto abroad! NOW

[Poisongirl81]

Help! We don't want to appear rude but we are in Spain with my toddler and another couple have latched onto us for a week now...they have 3 dc and are different ages to ours 🙂 today we got up early to put towels down but they spotted us and so sad next to us...again! We can't move our towels now as it would be rude. We just want to chill and read but they talk all day mainly at us!

Get up after them tomorrow. Wave hello at the pool and pointedly go and find beds elsewhere.

Tell them you're swingers and you fancy some good old-fashioned group sex with them.

They'll be on the next plane home.

Loopy they perched on ours for a bit and then sat on the floor they said they couldn't find any. In the end we gave them my daughter's to share as the mum was saying her back hurt sitting on the floor. We have already been invited to their house for a weekend when we get back. They are at the other end of the country thank God

It's a small complex so we can't just avoid them here really...last night we were having a quiet drink and they pulled up chairs all fucking night.

Exactly how PickAChew phrased t is perfect.

Collaborate - I am not sure they would be....🙄

You don't have to be rude and suck up a nasty atmosphere.

Take both parents to one side. Quietly confide that your family have had a tough time (don't elaborate, look haunted) and booked this holiday for peace, quiet & precious family time together.

Explain that, while you really like them, there are lots of times you'd like to be left alone - especially round the pool.

Arrange times you'd like to hang out - eating together. Our toddlers were always better eating in a group & it's never a particularly relaxing family time at that age so perhaps meet for lunch & dinner.

Apologise profusely and reiterate how lovely their children are (throw in a specific incident) but that you really really need some time alone.

Tadah!

But we don't want to meet for lunch either.. ..or dinner. We can't get a word in anyway they talk at us not have a conversation.

Sounds like my idea of a nightmare. Somehow DH and i are good at giving out ‘Fuck off’ vibes to people like this. We turn away, put in earphones and dark glasses and read. We ignore, ignore, ignore. I rather suspect you are too late for this now though. Needed to be done on the first day!

Crikey, sorry I think I would just tell them to eff off.

No-one spoils my hard earned holiday.

They will soon latch on to some other poor souls.

Just move your loungers, or pretend to be asleep. They'll get the message eventually and find someone else to annoy.

How long has this been going on? How far into your holiday are you?

You need to lean in and whisper. "I say old fruit, would you mind doing one?" They'll say, "Eh what?" and you whisper, "This holiday cost us £ X and we don't wish to spend it with you, sorry." They should just bugger off then. I have become much more direct over the years but it's paid dividends

We go back in a couple of days....been going on for about 6 days...getting gradually worse and more frequent each day.

Say you've been having relationship problems and your counsellor advised family time ALONE and this is why you booked the holiday. As much as you've really enjoyed their company, is it an absolute must now that your family has time together without other people there.

There are reading your politeness as friendship and it is just encouraging them! The only way you can get away from them is to be much more direct, even if that means "being rude" in your eyes. You are allowing them to spoil your enjoyment and to be blunt it's in your hands to set them straight - basically speak up or put up with it.
Please don't be polite all week and then come home moaning that they ruined your holiday!!!
You can pick up your staff and move sun beds - "we're just going to chill out over there, we want to spend some time on our own today, family time together is precious to us"
"I'm sorry but would you mind not joining us, we want a quiet evening just the 3 of us" etc

Why worry about being rude? You're not planning any sort of ongoing relationship with them. Move your towels to somewhere where there is no room beside you. If they do the perching on your sunbed thing, just say firmly "Would you mind not sitting on my sunbed, you did have places over there" and if they come and join you at meals say "Sorry, we'd rather have breakfast/lunch/dinner on our own". Smile pleasantly as you do it.

Ok today I am going to be assertive.. .and try and ignore. Just plucking up the courage to go down there.....got headphones.. glasses....and am very tired. I feel more sorry for oh he got up early to find a spot away from where we are normally. They spotted the kids goggles on them over the towels ffs.

Definitely move your loungers. And roll your eyes a lot.

I has a go at him about leaving any revealing evidence why not just put the towels.. ..he realises the error but we didn't think they would scour the pool looking for clues!

I can't move the lounger as it's so full there's no more room.

Yes, I think you need to be blunt. Appreciate this is easier for some folk than others. But please say something! Or go with the headphones option, look distracted, play on your phone. Let us know how you get on!

What Marmot said.

YABU for bagsying sunloungers with towels.

Thebakery has the best idea I think. Have a girlie chat, you know the type (haha) and say you've been having marriage problems and need to spend time as a family ALONE.