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To wonder if the country will hold a minute's silence for this victim or

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JunefromAccounts · 28/06/2017 16:22

Does it not matter because it was a "domestic incident" and not a terrorist attack

Daily Mail link

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Sirzy · 28/06/2017 16:26

Why would we hold a minutes silence? One isn't held after every murder that takes place.

The recent silences have all been after big tragedies which aren't comparable to "normal" murders. All are awful of course but the scale of the recent events makes them different.


RhubardGin · 28/06/2017 16:29


BMW6 · 28/06/2017 16:30

Of course YABU. Public silences are held to commemorate MULTIPLE deaths.


Swallalala · 28/06/2017 16:30

Very sad story but it isn't an uncommon thing to happen, why would we have a minutes silence?


Reow · 28/06/2017 16:31

We would never speak again if there was a minute's silence for every murder.


Swallalala · 28/06/2017 16:31

...and also just because there's no minutes silence doesn't mean her death 'doesn't matter'


PotteringAlong · 28/06/2017 16:33

Of course her death matters. And of course we won't hold a national minutes silence for 1 murder.


PotteringAlong · 28/06/2017 16:34

A quick google tells me there were 574 murders in the uk in 2015. So what? A minutes silence every day and double up on the weekends?


LittleBooInABox · 28/06/2017 16:35

If we held a minutes silence for every victim of every murder, incident, and accident we'd get little else done.


MumIsRunningAMarathon · 28/06/2017 16:35

We held a minutes silence at work after the Grenfell Tower tragedy

That wasn't a 'terrorist attack' either


Covfefe · 28/06/2017 16:38

I think there was a silence for Joe Cox and she was just one person buy that was a terrorist attack.

I wouldn't expect a silence for a murder victim or even multiple murder victims like those who die in arson attacks etc.


Catminion · 28/06/2017 16:40

To be honest we have had so many at work (Civil Service) in the last couple of years they have lost their impact. We had one for Grenfell but as it was constantly on my mind in the preceding days it was pretty meaningless.


DaveTheDesigner · 28/06/2017 16:49

Appropriate for those that worked with her but not for the rest of the world. If you believe in a god, prey for their souls and leave it at that. The over-sentimentalisation of society is out of control.


DailyFailAreCunts · 28/06/2017 16:53

YABU for reading that rag.


RubbishRobotFromTheDawnOfTime · 28/06/2017 16:53

In M&S on Monday they held a minute's silence for the Finsbury Park attack, where nobody was killed. I thought that was unusual.


SheSaidHeSaid · 28/06/2017 16:54

Appropriate for those that worked with her but not for the rest of the world


Of course the whole country won't hold a minutes silence. I knew someone whose ex husband murdered her in her own home whilat thwir two young boys were upstairs and I didn't expect everyone to hold a minutes silence for her either.


UrsulaPandress · 28/06/2017 16:54

I agree that 'the minutes silence' is starting to lose any impact.

I remember clearly the one for the Twin Towers. I was at a work event and was standing on a balcony. Cars were pulling up at the roadside as the time approached.

These recent ones I have completely forgotten to take part.

Doesn't mean I don't care though.


SheSaidHeSaid · 28/06/2017 16:55

rubbish , do you mean the attack outside the mosque? Someone did die.


Loopytiles · 28/06/2017 16:56

A man was killed at finsbury park.

We had a minute's silence at work.

OP yanbu for highlighting the inadequacy of media/political/public attention on "domestic" murders and violent crime.


RubbishRobotFromTheDawnOfTime · 28/06/2017 16:58

SheSaid I believe that was due to a medical problem that had already already affected the person and caused them to collapse before the attack.

But even if the death had been a result of the attack - as people on this thread are saying, one death is unfortunately not unusual and it's hard to justify holding a minute's silence for one incident where one person died, but not other single murders.


SheSaidHeSaid · 28/06/2017 17:00

I do get that. My view is that minute silences tend to be for when numerous people are hurt or killed, in that case hurt as opposed to killed, as its a time to reflect, have in your thoughts or say a prayer for their speeds recovery.


SheSaidHeSaid · 28/06/2017 17:01

Not to say you shouldn't do that for any innocent person maimed or injured in an attack but, as others have said, we'd be forever in silence if it was for a one victim crime each time.


SasBel · 28/06/2017 17:01

2 women a week are killed by current or ex partners, should we hold a minutes silence in international women's day?


Goingtobeawesome · 28/06/2017 17:04

Rubbish, you've clearly not heard the news reports as the man died from multiple injuries. He had collapsed but the van killed him.

OP, what was your intention when you posted this thread? It's in danger of falling under goading.


TheFirstMrsDV · 28/06/2017 17:06

My DD died and my world was shattered.
There was no minutes silence
That doesn't mean she didn't matter
death is not a competition

But I think a minutes silence for domestic violence victims on IWD would be appropriate
Unfortunately that would attract the 'WHAT ABOUT MEN??????' comments

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