To not want to do yoga EVERY night.

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I'm a SAHM to 3 year old DD1 (almost 4) and 6 month old DD2 (who's teething).

DH has spent the last year getting fit and healthy. He's completely changed his attitude to diet and exercise and I'm very proud of him.

He's realised he's not very flexible and has got some apps to do yoga at night. He asked if I wanted to do it too and I said sure but I didn't realise it would be every single night.

He loves us 'doing' something together, rather than just staring at the tv so he gets disappointed when I say I don't want to do it. But I'm exhausted - DD1 is exhausting, she requires constant interaction or instruction or just an audiance. She NEVER sits still or stops talking. DD2 is teething so crying and not napping.

It's 9pm at the earliest and I'm just too exhausted - I'm almost ready for bed (DD2 is breastfed and feeds during the night and generally wakes for the day at 6am)

BUT, it's only 20 minutes, it's good for me and I do enjoy doing something with him.

Am I being pathetic to be so tired I can't mange 20 mins yoga?

YANBU - nice to do it together when you feel like it but it will soon get boring if you feel forced into it.

It is not at all pathetic to be exhausted with 2 little ones.

Could you agree to a set number of nights - say 2? And if you feel like joinging in at other times it will be a bonus.

I totally understand where you're coming from, but in my personal experience, the more yoga I did (sadly can't any more) the more energy and sense of general well-being I had. Maybe just do it every other day?

I can think of better things to do at 9pm for 20minutes when I'm knackered than bloody stretching.

I love yoga but enforced activity is no fun.

Its 20 minutes

Get on with it. Youll feel miles better

Touching message of support there from araiwa 😂😂

Yanbu to want to do nothing but you should still do it. You'll feel much better after it and you'll benefit in the long run!!

Its called tough love

Tell him you will admire his hot bod yoga-ing whilst you recline on the sofa.

Oh God - so the general consensus is I should suck it up and do it!!

I was hoping everyone would reply like scumpernickle (sorry, think I butcher your name - on iPhone and can't scroll back to check spelling).

In fairness, he's gone from being a bit overweight with a belly to having a 6-pack and gorgeous arms so I enjoy watching him!

Tell him you're off to do your Savasana on the bed :)

Hoping not to derail the post but what apps does he use?

enforced activity is no fun

^^ So much this. I love running but when DP tries to get me enthusiastic about going out when I'd planned to flop on the sofa I can feel myself going into stroppy teenager mode.

smudged its Daily Yoga. Think he's paid for a subscription but not sure which one.

So, you're on your knees with exhaustion and he's been able to implement a whole new healthy lifestyle?

Sounds like he could step up and do a bit more at home to me.

I agree, he needs to step up during the hours he is at home, so that the load is shared and you feel more read to embrace that 20 mins of yoga at 9pm.

Oh God - so the general consensus is I should suck it up and do it!!

Definitely not!

It sounds like he has worked really hard and you sound deservedly proud of him. That kind of dramatic change requires a lot of time. But - what is he doing to support you and the DC so that you can equally spend time on yourself doing something that you would choose, rather than of his choosing?

It's not pathetic but exercise generally increases your energy and helps you sleep better. If you feel blah and crap, a daily routine of some exercise may actually help.

Ha! Triple cross-post with Pineapple and Tentacle

Quite PineappleScrunchie. I'd tell him I'd do the yoga after he'd done an appropriate amount of wifework in exchange.

YANBU

I hate yoga.

I found that yoga gave me more energy and that I slept better after doing it at night. If 20 mins is too long could you start with a 6 min workout? Asana yoga is v brief.

When he's home he cooks, washes up, puts DD1 to bed (I do DD2) and gets up to DD1s night waking (which can be a lot)

At weekends he'll vacuum & mop, mow the lawn, do DIY. He also batch cooks and bakes sometimes. He would have to be asked to put on a wash but I get all that done during the week so it's not natural for him to check.

He also does everything connected to the garden.

He does have to be prodded to think more about the girls. Like to take DD1 with him when he's working in the garden.

I've accepted that at the moment I just can't have the same time as he does but I'm ok with that. He is supportive, I get my hair done and go to the shops at the weekend.

Given how much he does do then, I'd see the GP if you are that exhausted. You could be anaemic or have a thyroid issue, which wouldn't be unusual given the age of your baby.

wombling I think part of it is mental exhaustion. DD1 is very hard work!

Plus baby wakes to feed several times a night.

Might be worth a check up though.

Totally get why you wouldn't want to do this in your situation but I have to say that I would bloody love it if my husband wanted to do the same! Desperate for something like this to do together for years and he won't ever do it with me