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Greedy friend

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Mitemar · 28/06/2017 12:57

This is very petty but has been annoying me a bit...

Recently went on hol with several others, it was good. One girl I'm particularly close friends with (at the risk of sounding horrible), can be really greedy with food.... and it's starting to annoy me. Just silly things e.g. We'd buy an expensive cake for everyone in the group, one person wouldn't have theirs but it would still be gone - she's eaten it on the sly. Or we'd order a few portions of crisps/chips/sharing dessert to share and unless you're completely on it, it's all gone (she's eaten it). I just found it a bit exhausting to keep monitoring it to ensure that I had some!

I would never mention this to her but how hard is it to share?!

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Fluffypinkpyjamas · 28/06/2017 13:04

I would never mention this to her but how hard is it to share?!

That is why she does it, because she gets a away with it and nopbody says anything to her.

She needs to be called out on it. Re the cake, in front of people, hey greedy friend why is there no cake left, why did you eat blahs slice when you have already had yours? If you know it was her that ate it, ask her why she thinks it is acceptable to eat other peoples food.

I cannot abide greedy people. My BIL once decided to help to himself to 'seconds' it was in fact an entire meal clearly put aside for one of our DC. Fucking greedy twat ate the lot.

HappyFeetAgain · 28/06/2017 13:16

I can't stand greedy people. It's so selfish and inconsiderate to help yourself without even thinking of anyone else. Next time just tell her to leave some for everyone else.

Groupie123 · 28/06/2017 13:19

If she's a close friend you have to tell her. Some people really are thoughtless.

twittertwit · 28/06/2017 13:19

Is she selfish in other respects? If not, it sounds like an eating disorder of some sort

Coddiwomple · 28/06/2017 13:23

There's always one unfortunately One who will snap all the biscuits or cakes in the office, the flatmate who empty the fridges. If it's a friend, I would not order any portion to share and stick to individual ones. I would tell her she is out of order to eat one more than one slice of cake before everybody had a chance to have one!

It's not an eating disorder, she is just being rude and selfish.

19lottie82 · 28/06/2017 13:24

No, it doesn't sound like an eating disorder it sounds like she's greedy!

HotNatured · 28/06/2017 13:30

I love my best friend to bits but she is so greedy, if it's not glued down, she will eat it. When she comes to my house she LITERALLY eats me out of house and home, I have started to hide the stuff I know she looks for in my cupboards and fridge. It's one of those close friendships which is a bit like what's mine is hers and vice versa but it does get a bit ridiculous sometimes. She knows she's greedy and people often comment on her huge portions if we go out for dinner. Some people are extremely food driven and I think go into like a trance when there are certain food about. I have to admit I hate sharing food with others as I just want mine to myself, so I'm just as greedy as my friend, but I have a bit more self awareness

DrowningSeas · 28/06/2017 13:34

My mum is like this. It does my head in.

Icall her out now, you should definitely do that to your friend

Phosphorus · 28/06/2017 13:35

What is it with all the 'my friend/colleague/husband/kitten' is greedy and fat threads this week?

PoorYorick · 28/06/2017 13:36

Lots of fat bashing threads at the moment. Wonder if we've been mentioned on reddit?

Grilledaubergines · 28/06/2017 13:37

This is why sharing desserts/plates/platters are a rubbish idea. Order your own food and eat your own food.

EvansOvalPies · 28/06/2017 13:37

We have a friend who does this. If we get together for a takeaway, for instance, or go for a meal in a restaurant where everyone orders a dish and the dishes are all shared, he will take, for example, all the prawns from the dish that I have ordered, leaving just the vegetables. I call him out on it every single time, but he thinks I'm the one being rude.

If he wants loads of prawns only, why doesn't he order them himself? I don't understand it. He just helps himself to all the best bits of each plate and it really annoys me.

EvansOvalPies · 28/06/2017 13:39

Lots of fat bashing threads at the moment

Fat-bashing? My friend is not at all fat, and I don't think other posters mentioned anyone being overweight either. Just greedy. The two don't necessarily go hand-in-hand.

user1476869312 · 28/06/2017 13:40

Just wondering - are the rest of the friendship group the sort of women who competitively under-eat and make a lot of noise about how 'naughty' food is? If everyone's making a big deal out of not eating cake, then her choice to eat it is a) sensible and b) possibly borne out of exasperation at the twattiness.

danTDM · 28/06/2017 13:42

I had a friend when I was in my 20's who ALWAYS wanted to try my food when in a restaurant. Drove me crazy. I am not at all greedy, but my food is my food. Hands off.

user1495832265 · 28/06/2017 13:43

I'm with Phosporous and PoorYorick. Something afoot here.

sherbetpips · 28/06/2017 13:44

Depends really - it winds me up when everyone takes a little bit then leaves the rest but then if you take it you are greedy. If someone leaves food I will generally eat it, but I guess I will say 'is anyone having this'?

PoorYorick · 28/06/2017 13:44

Fat-bashing? My friend is not at all fat, and I don't think other posters mentioned anyone being overweight either. Just greedy. The two don't necessarily go hand-in-hand.

Was that a NC fail?

Anyway, ok. A lot of threads about fat people, weight loss, jealous bitter fat women, overeaters, and things in that general category. I'm wondering if we got mentioned on reddit somewhere.

hippopootamus · 28/06/2017 13:46

I'm greedy - it's why I don't do 'sharing' food as I'd want to eat more than my fair share!

HateSummer · 28/06/2017 13:47

As part of growing up, my mum always taught us to ask if anyone else wants something before having seconds and sharing if they did. Always. I teach my kids the same because it's just basic manners.

TheFatOfTheLand · 28/06/2017 13:48

It's like MN bingo - eating disorder and fat bashing already mentioned and it's only page 1

I was accused of fat shaming on another thread for saying it's not normal to eat 3 burgers and chips for lunch.

Nobody has said their greedy friends are fat, some posters have just made that assumption so they can jump on and whinge.

TheFatOfTheLand · 28/06/2017 13:50

Was that a NC fail?

No. @Evans was referring to their post about their friend. It's not only the OP who has greedy mates!

PoorYorick · 28/06/2017 13:51

Excellent name, TheFatOf, I see what you did there.

But I'm not the only person noticing a disproportionate number of threads about fat people, greedy people, weight loss competition, overeating, and related things. Something's amiss.

Coddiwomple · 28/06/2017 13:51

Lots of fat bashing threads at the moment

why do you translate "greedy" by "fat" exactly? You sound charming.

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Mitemar · 28/06/2017 13:54

She's overweight but that's not relevant. She'll leave one chip on a plate to make a point but still Hoover up the rest - I don't think it's intentional, sometimes it's like she's in a trance.

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