Greedy friend

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This is very petty but has been annoying me a bit...

Recently went on hol with several others, it was good. One girl I'm particularly close friends with (at the risk of sounding horrible), can be really greedy with food.... and it's starting to annoy me. Just silly things e.g. We'd buy an expensive cake for everyone in the group, one person wouldn't have theirs but it would still be gone - she's eaten it on the sly. Or we'd order a few portions of crisps/chips/sharing dessert to share and unless you're completely on it, it's all gone (she's eaten it). I just found it a bit exhausting to keep monitoring it to ensure that I had some!

I would never mention this to her but how hard is it to share?!

Because I hate fat people, obviously. I have a store of them in my back garden. I use them to fuel the Aga.

Lots of fat bashing threads at the moment. Wonder if we've been mentioned on reddit

Yorick There was no mention of the friend being fat at all, just greedy so what that tells me is that you equate fat with greedy.

Re. the cake, I don't think it was intentional, I think she just saw one going spare and rationalised that it wouldn't be missed. Its not fair though.

PoorYorwick - no, not a name change fail - I was referring to my friend that I mentioned in my post (as TheFatofTheLand said - thank you)! OP's friend is female, my friend is male.

What is Reddit, please?

OP you are showing yourself to be much more nasty than your friend is greedy. Do your poor friend a favour and cut ties.

It is annoying. My husband tends to be a bit gutsy with the cereal. We have a delicious one that we get with loads of fruit. There is approximately 12 average bowlfuls in each box, and he puts a QUARTER of a boxful in his bowl So we have three boxes of said cereal, and it makes 12 bowlfuls for him (It make 36 for me!) I am literally only getting about 10% of the entire 3 boxes!

Pisses me off so much that I have taken to actually buying my own box and hiding it! When we run out, I don't tell him I have one hidden for me. Seems a bit weird to some maybe, but it's the only way I can guarantee I won't be deprived of the cereal because of my gutsy hubby! I have mentioned it to him, but he said he needs the amount he has, as anything less is not filling!

He isn't like it with anything else, just the cereal! Weird.

I think I'm like this

Obviously I try my best to curb it but if food is there I find it extremely hard to stop eating it. I would never eat all the prawns out of the curry but if there was a bag of sharing crisps or a cake and everyone had had a slice/appeared to have eaten their fill I would probably eat the rest...

I'm not overweight. BMI is about 21.

Why is it unfair OP? Surely better someone eats the cake than no one?

Fat bashing

Eh?

You can be greedy AND slim you know

My greedy friend is a size 8

I'm also quite greedy, and I'm a size 8

Evans, yeah I see. Sorry about that. I only skimmed the page and didn't pay a lot of attention to the names, so I missed the context.

Reddit is the cesspit of the internet, an absolute eyesore to behold, whose page layout and general audience belong somewhere in 2005's gutter.* On occasion they decide to migrate in droves over to certain websites to annoy everybody. There are so many threads at the moment about annoying fat/greedy people (GOD FORBID I MAKE THE CONNECTION IN THIS CONTINUING CONTEXT) that I wonder if they've found us. But on second thought, it seems unlikely. It's not their usual modus operandi. I do think we've popped up somewhere though.

*YES YES ALL RIGHT NOT ALL OF THEM. Some of them are intelligent and funny and informative. Most of them are twats. Or rather, most internet twats are there somewhere.

I have a family member like this. The problem is, that they don't seem to realise it's fine to want/need more food than others, but not to deprive others to get the amount you want. If there's a limited amount of something, you share that in a way that everyone gets an equal amount, or you get more if everyone actually wants less than you. If you're still hungry, you go and get more food. You don't eat faster, and twice as much, before anyone else gets a chance!

I love food but politeness/fear of embarrassment stops me from doing this when sharing. Surely if you know you're like this then you just buy your own food? She also acts like she isn't bothered by food e.g. I'll buy chips cos I'm hungry, she'll refuse anything but then eat my chips; I'll ask if she wants an ice cream, she'll say no but then say I've persuaded her

Excellent name, TheFatOf, I see what you did there.

AS me and you'll see what I did there - I've had this name for a couple of days, I didn't change it for this thread.

Ah, okay. Thanks Yorick (on both points).

This is why I don't like shared food. Far too stressful trying to work out socially acceptable amounts.

AS me and you'll see what I did there - I've had this name for a couple of days, I didn't change it for this thread.

A couple of days sounds exactly right to me. You keep on trucking.

Re: my username - It's the name of a Prodigy album. I've had a number of Prodigy-related usernames (Mindfields, VoodooPeople and WarriorsDance off the top of my head).

Some posters are so determined to find issues where there aren't any

You keep on trucking.

You keep on making incorrect assumptions, it's clearly your forte.

Ugh, I knew one of these. If we went out for dinner she couldn't even talk until the food arrived as she would be anxiously looking around for it. Then of course she'd scoff it down within seconds and be ready to leave.

If we tried to share she would monitor every mouthful and while not taking too much, would make sure no one else had extra. If you dare eat slowly while casually chatting it would drive her crazy.

She couldn't decide between chocolate bars so would just buy 3.

She had some ice cream at my house and couldn't believe there was some left two weeks later. After that she regularly checked my freezer in disbelief.

It's not about fat shaming. People can be overweight without that sort of behaviour. She was gross though. I don't feel bad about saying that as it turns out she was also a complete bitch.

I use them to fuel the aga

Fatoftheland is nowhere near as good as Music for a Jilted Generation imo

So, I am really greedy, love food, am have no portion control or ability to tell when I am full until about half an hour after eating. I am aware of it though (after lots of good natured comments from friends over the years, which I am grateful for, as it stopped it becoming 'an issue') and luckily for me I am still fairly slim although probably a stone overweight as I am short.

I would definitely never eat all the prawns or last bit of cake without asking. Although I hate sharing stuff as I can't relax as it's such hard work keeping an eye on what everyone else has had, to make sure I am not taking too much and I always end up hungry then. At home I sometimes buy food from my 'fun money' budget rather than household food money so I can snack without feeling guilty that DH might not have enough.

I hate people sharing my food - if I've ordered it, then I want to eat it! Don't have a problem with someone finishing leftover food though. I guess it's annoying if you never get the leftovers though, because the same person eats them all the time.

Fatoftheland is nowhere near as good as Music for a Jilted Generation imo

Good point (though being pedantic, it's 'the' not 'a').

BTW Yorrick - I changed to this name on Saturday. Does that pass your Reddit test? If not, my profile shows I've been here since January 2015.

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