To ask is this Hotel policy usual?

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Children under 12 not allowed to be alone in bedrooms. Small posh hotel recently refurbished. I can understand why they might not want toddlers running riot in the bedrooms but when DS is asleep and we're watching him on the baby monitor that's still not acceptable. Bedroom is up the stairs and we would be eating dinner in restaurant at foot of stairs, less than 5 seconds to get back to bedroom. It's in an isolated location with nothing nearby so can't imagine policy is for the security of children.
Their hotel, their rules - which we respect but first time I've heard this policy. Anyone else heard such a policy for kids under 12?

I think you'll find the holiday company - Mark warner I think - promoted their listening service for children alone Caiilleach

We have done this loads OP, never a problem in hotels we have stayed in.

I think you will find the police will take quite a dim view nowadays- particularly since the McCann incident.

A parent at my son's gym class was cautioned after leaving a sleeping baby in her locked car ( on a cold day) for two minutes while she dropped off her son.
She was taken to the police station under caution.

God this is painful...

how old is your child?!?!

The police would not be remotely interested! This is always a heated discussion on mumsnet but there are many many hotels in the U.K. and abroad that have baby listening services/provide monitors/have staff stationed on landings to listen out. I know of at least two ski companies who do this and there is never a shortage of bookings.

We all weigh up risks and set different thresholds.

On the subject of why kids are put to bed so early, we leave the house just after 7 in the morning and DS needs between 11 and 12 hours sleep a night so I'm not sure how I could do a later bedtime. We've kept him up late on holiday and it usually results in screaming and an early morning wake up so we don't bother any more.

Also I think if you don't leave the building you are not transgressing any laws. Not the same as maddy at all.

OP ill answer the question as to why there is such a discrepency.

That's because the uk is a low level regulation country where everyone is supposed to do what is best according to them.
I actually don't think that the rule in the hotel about no under 12yo in their own in the bedroom as anything to do with fire. That decision is basically left to you as a parent.
I suspect it has more to do with children left to scream and disturbing other clients, furniture damaged (let's say 10yo jumping up and down on the beds etc...) and so on.

The most disturbance I have ever had from other guests is loud sex not kids!

HOW OLD IS YOUR CHILD?

OP, How. Old. Is. Your. baby Child?

OP, how old is your child? (I'm only repeating the question asked by others to increase the chance you see it, if you're not a careful reader)

She was just asking whether the policy was usual, and wasn't saying she's not going to go along with it. Everyone is getting so worked up, waiting for her to say '2' so they can all tell her what a terrible parent she is.

Who the fuck would leave their baby or small child alone in a hotel room? I work away alot, stay in alot of hotels and based on experiences wouldn't even leave my phone in my room when I went to dinner let alone my baby. And all just to have food? Some people are just fucking idiots.

I stay in hotels a lot (often work away from home). I would love this policy even if just from a purely srlfish pov!

OP did say she was going to watch him on baby monitor whilst eating downstairs. She also said she respects the hotel's rule, but it is the first time she heard of such a rule.

Few people might know this rule because leaving a baby without a baby sitter doesn't normally come up, because most people wouldn't do it, hotel rule or not.

He's a tiny baby isn't he? In which case YABU. My 7 and 9 year olds would be fine together in a small hotel bedroom if we were just downstairs eating.

Fucking hell OP, are you being purposely obtuse?

How old is the bloody kid?

When our DS was younger we'd put him to bed in his buggy, walk him around until he was asleep and then have dinner with him asleep next to us in buggy. He's older now and used to staying up later for dinner, so would eat with us. In neither scenario would he ever be left on his own in a room.

XiCi who the hell are you to judge and name call. Learn some manners

I think the child is a baby or toddler. OP is taken aback by the strength of sentiment about leaving a baby or toddler, which is perhaps understandable.

I wouldn't leave mine under 12. It just doesn't sit right with me, especially in a big hotel but even in a small one. Neither the security or the fire risk are worth it.

I read a kindle or iPad or something whilst kids sleep.

I have left under-12s. But they weren't under 12 by much. I wouldn't leave toddlers or babies. I know people who do, it is a risk assessment every parent has to make for their family. This hotel has done their own and banned it. I would be annoyed at this rule if I went there with an 11 year old capable of travelling through London.

XiCi who the hell are you to judge and name call. Learn some manners

This is MN, people do swear on here!
And XiCI is right.

I'm imagining that the OP hasn't given the age of her child because it has nothing at all to do with the question she asked. I'm imagining that she knows that if she does tell the age then she will be opening herself up to a load of abuse.

Oh right, reading the OP again yes she alludes to baby monitor / difference between toddler awake and asleep.

I guess it's lucky toddlers are only abducted abroad then?