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To ask is this Hotel policy usual?

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IsThisStrangeOrNot · 27/06/2017 06:00

Children under 12 not allowed to be alone in bedrooms. Small posh hotel recently refurbished. I can understand why they might not want toddlers running riot in the bedrooms but when DS is asleep and we're watching him on the baby monitor that's still not acceptable. Bedroom is up the stairs and we would be eating dinner in restaurant at foot of stairs, less than 5 seconds to get back to bedroom. It's in an isolated location with nothing nearby so can't imagine policy is for the security of children.
Their hotel, their rules - which we respect but first time I've heard this policy. Anyone else heard such a policy for kids under 12?

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Kentnurse2015 · 27/06/2017 09:57

I think it's totally reasonable of the hotel to set a certain policy. Not happy? Don't stay there! I think I w is perfectly reasonable to be honest. We go away with young children and we adapt to make sure everyone is in bed at a reasonable time. I would never leave a small child alone in a hotel room and I'm amazed other people do!

paxillin · 27/06/2017 09:57

Baby monitor, baby listening... are we talking about a toddler here? Certainly can't leave him, hotel rule or not. Or is this a pre-teen, almost 12 and that's why the rule irks?

NotCitrus · 27/06/2017 09:58

An 11 year old is expected to navigate themselves to secondary school, often with a train and/or bus which may terminate unexpectedly, get diverted, and stations which may be evacuated at any time.

Expecting that same child to be OK watching some TV and to walk downstairs if an alarm goes off or they need anything doesn't sound unreasonable, especially if the parents are simply having dinner in the same building. I suppose some 10 year olds might not be and the hotel's insurers are just being extra cautious.

araiwa · 27/06/2017 09:58

i think if you need a policy to tell you not to leave a child alone in a hotel room you have bigger problems than the policy

SaucyJack · 27/06/2017 10:07

It's not just bedtime tho that it effects.

What if you wanted tea on the terrace at 4pm, but your kid wanted to go stay upstairs and watch a film?

I wouldn't go somewhere like that. Part of the fun for kids of being on holiday is having a little freedom to explore the venue without Mum and Dad following them everywhere.

paxillin · 27/06/2017 10:12

Part of the fun for kids of being on holiday is having a little freedom to explore the venue without Mum and Dad following them everywhere.

Totally agree. However, all the talk about baby this and baby that makes me think OP is indeed talking about a baby or toddler.

caffeinestream · 27/06/2017 10:14

Part of the fun for kids of being on holiday is having a little freedom to explore the venue without Mum and Dad following them everywhere.

Definitely, but I think if you want that kind of freedom, you pick a venue where it's possible - a villa, Air BnB, a private apartment/house, or a hotel with different policies.

I don't think you can expect to give your kids complete freedom in a hotel.

Coddiwomple · 27/06/2017 10:15

On a slightly different note, why are people so stressed about putting their children to bed so early in this country? It is so much more relaxing and family friendly to go on holiday in other countries where kids stay up later, sleep later in the morning.

Even during school terms, schools rarely start before that early even for breakfast clubs, childminders rarely accept children at 6:30am, why do they have to get up so early!

We take our kids for dinner when we stay in hotels occasionally, without disturbing any guests, I really don't get the fuss.

MissDuke · 27/06/2017 10:18

Given that op even owns/brought a baby monitor and went on to hire a babysitter, I would say the child is likely to be very young. I 100% agree with the hotel on this.

supermoon100 · 27/06/2017 10:30

Utter nonsense. I've asked for adjoining rooms before and have been given rooms at either end of a corridor. Quite a posh hotel too. We made do. The kids were fine and they were young.

Coddiwomple · 27/06/2017 10:35

As a guest, I am grateful for hotels not allowing children without supervision, the last thing I want is the hotel taken over by spoil brats running around screaming all over the place whilst their parents prefers to be at the bar on their own.

Why would you even want to leave your toddler alone in a room when you have diner? It's just sad.

WomblingThree · 27/06/2017 10:37

NotCitrus some 11 year olds. Not everyone lives in London or other big cities. My 11 year olds were expected to walk half a mile up the road to secondary school.

kel1234 · 27/06/2017 10:38

Sorry but no way in the world would I ever leave my children alone in a hotel room.

KatharinaRosalie · 27/06/2017 10:40

So what are we talking about? A toddler or 11-year old?

supermoon100 · 27/06/2017 10:46

I would leave a sleeping toddler in a hotel room. No problem. I would leave an 11 year old reading or watching TV no problem.

Cailleach666 · 27/06/2017 10:47

they might not want toddlers running riot in the bedrooms but when DS is asleep and we're watching him on the baby monitor

I think we can assume it is a baby. Not yet "running riot" and I can't imagine using a baby monitor with an older child.

So looks like a baby, not yet walking.

muckypup73 · 27/06/2017 10:48

I see op is still evading the question, But I guess she can really quote any age and we will never no, bu I figure a sense of shame, because the child is very very young, in fact to young to even contemplate being let alone in a very strange place.

QueenOfRubovia · 27/06/2017 10:48

Like many other pps, I wouldn't leave a child of any age alone in a hotel room. It wouldn't be a case of weighing up the risk, because even the tiniest risk is not worth taking (in this given situation). Not only because of the predictable risks, but the scenarios that are entirely unpredictable. Its an alien concept to me to leave my children alone in strange surroundings.

Coddiwomple · 27/06/2017 10:51

as above, baby monitor + babysitter, so I am thinking toddler.

Cailleach666 · 27/06/2017 10:52

How anyone could enjoy a fancy meal while their child is unsupervised in a hotel room is beyond me.

supermoon100 · 27/06/2017 10:52

I've been doing it for years but then maybe I'm a very bad parent although you wouldn't know it to look at my confident well adjusted kids! I would imagine taking your kids skiing is far more dangerous than leaving them alone in hotel rooms!

Cailleach666 · 27/06/2017 10:53

If I knew an unsupervised child was in the room next to me in a hotel I would report it to the management and police.

WhatToDoAboutThis2017 · 27/06/2017 10:57

OP is deliberately being evasive about the age of her child so I suspect it is a toddler.

supermoon100 · 27/06/2017 10:59

Blimey 666 thank goodness we've never stayed in the same hotel although who knows maybe we have and you just have had no scooby do what goes on in other people's bedrooms!

Cailleach666 · 27/06/2017 11:01

Perhaps if someone had alerted the management poor Maddie would be with us.

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