To have a small drink whilst pregnant?

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I'm just about 20 weeks now. Baby fine. Lovely little boy.

DH and I going to the pub that sells food this evening. Would I be unreasonable to have 1, just 1, WKD with my food?

DH is extremely against it and starts protesting in full when I even mention drinking alcohol

I tried to take a sip of his Fruity Cider today and there was a lot of "Why would you do that?"

He thinks it's harmful and isn't worth a marginal risk.

I know it's my body but it is his baby too so I think he's entitled to express his feelings.

Surely 1. Something unit is okay with food?

It won't be a regular thing, it's just something I fancy.

I'm not a drinker - well it won't be hard for you not to them will it??

sparechange Thank you for uploading that for me!

Really helpful

Alcohol free kopperberg is your friend. Tastes just like the alcoholic stuff and comes argument free. If its the taste you're looking for, not 'having a drink' then you're sorted. Stick it in a glass with ice and you'd never know the difference.

sparechange - what's the book? Publication date etc?

Namechange No of course not, but my thinking is there's no evidence to suggest remaining 100% alcohol free is any better than having one unit every 6 weeks or something.

previous advice was 1-2 units, 1-2 times a week. Apparently they had to change this to zero as people don't understand units and we're having two large (250ml) glasses of wine. Who knows whether it's true but I'm sure a little would be ok. My rule was always that I didnt have enough to feel any effect from it (and it was just one unit). If I drink a unit quickly enough I'd have felt drunk which seemed like a bad idea.

Having said that, if you can't feel it a bit then what's the point?

*were having, not we're

A WKD with food? Are you 13?

I had an occasional drink during pregnancy. I'd have to try hard not to raise an eyebrow at wkd blue but it appears to be less potent than I expected.

I'd follow the NHS current advice rather than a random book...

www.nhs.uk/conditions/pregnancy-and-baby/pages/alcohol-medicines-drugs-pregnant.aspx

name Expecting Better, 2013 (I think, anyway).

There is so much hysteria around women's bodies and choices in pregnancy. The only way I keep my sanity is by assessing risks, reading the evidence and coming to conclusions that I'm satisfied with.

Apparently they had to change this to zero as people don't understand units - no they changed it because there is no guarantee that 1-2 units won't harm your baby.
But my all means go ahead and take the risk if you don't think your child's health is worth abstaining.

Pregnant and drinking wkd is very Jeremy Kyle.

reading the evidence - you mean a pregnancy book?! Not exactly what I would consider sturdy evidence.

Peng - what evidence exactly?

How can you tell if one is ok though?

Cos SCIENCE. There is no mystery, we know how much alcohol is needed to cause problems in pregnancy and its certainly not one. Why do people pretend we have no idea?

Pang can you link the evidence?

God I craved dry cider when I was pg with DS. I allowed myself one pint each weekend (divided into smaller glasses).

DS is a highly intelligent 25 year old now who, strangely, does not touch anything with alcohol in... he hates the taste and can detect the tiniest amount. Make of that what you will.

I guess it's a lemonade for me then

I would feel completely guilt free really, but I mainly started the thread to see if DH's reasoning was very accurate indeed.

It appears he's right and I suppose if he feels uncomfortable with me putting the unknown to my baby, I'll have to abstain

The Chief Medical Officers for the UK recommend that if you're pregnant or planning to become pregnant, the safest approach is not to drink alcohol at all to keep risks to your baby to a minimum. - from the NHS.

I would and have, quite happily. If DH really objected I would point out that I am an intelligent woman who gets to make her own choices with regards my body, tbh.

He's not right.

The NHS says a lot of what it does for political reasons, not medical. They know damn well that the odd drink does no harm, but they tell you none because they think you're all idiots.

I think a unit once or twice a week is fine. That was the advice anyway when I was pregnant and therefore many women did that with no ill effect. They change in advice due to the fact that apparently, some women drank more than the 1 to 2 units so they decided to recommend no alcohol at all. It wasn't due to any change in evidence.

If DH really objected I would point out that I am an intelligent woman who gets to make her own choices with regards my body, tbh. - and what about his say over the fact his child is growing inside you and consuming everything you are??