Who is BU - friend or the school?

[Momzombie]

DD starts high school in September. They have just been told what class they will be in. One of her friend's mums has gone ballistic because she apparently supplied the school with lists of children she would like her DD to be placed with as well as children her DD has issues with and did not want to be with. School have ignored these lists - she has been placed with none of her friends but 2 children from the blacklist!

She has complained but school have said they will not change the classes, that doing the classlists is a logistical challenge and they made it clear from the outset they could not guarantee children would be with friends (true). This mum is not backing down and wants me and others to contact the school to support her case.

Thing is, I'm happy with the class my DD has been given. I'm secretly glad she's not with this girl as she can be very difficult and I think it would be good for her to make new friends.

So, what do I do???? Arghhhh

She'll be marked as one of those parents already and that's not a good thing.

We have some parents like that. It's people like that who take up a huge amount of time for almost no reason. I resent it because it's time that could be spent on teaching, pastoral issues, offering extracurricular clubs, but no, we have phonecards justifying why we won't arrange the class or year group around one child.

OP - Give it a few months and she'll be no doubt complaining if her child gets sanctioned or told not to talk because it will be the other children's fault.

Keep well out of it.

MaisyPops different perspective, splitting a child up from a group who have persistently bullied them prevents problems and frees up time for other things.

granny Maisy wasn't saying that parents with legitimate problems are 'that parent'. It's just most teachers face ridiculous demands from a minority of parents on a regular basis.

Such as demanding that physiotherapy be carried out by me (the class teacher, not qualified to do such a thing) twice a day and in private because the class shouldn't know. Couldn't do it at home (as was recommended by the doctor) because she was busy looking after the horses.

Purple Just re-read and yes your idea to just see the teacher discretely before seems much more appropriate.

Also didn't realise that not everyone had been asked for a list.
When I went to secondary for our visit day back in 2001 each of us was introduced to the head of pastoral care and the head of y7, I was asked to write the names of three friends who I would like to be with (likely I would only be with one), I was also asked to write down if there was anyone that scared me or made me feel unsafe.
I assumed that the ops school ran a similar thing.

Hope it's sorting itself out op!

soapboxqueen
Thank you for seeing what I was actually saying.

Often bullying issues are passed up by primary and if not then a quiet and polite word early on to the school is perfectly fine. We know things are never perfect.

granny
I'm not talking about bullying. I'm talking about those parents who call up regularly asking for things to be said in meetings keeping kids apart, move seating etc around a falling out and then 2 weeks later they're mates again and now it's a different person who the child can't be near.

I have one child at the moment who on and off has various issues with over 50% of their class! It just changes week to week who they have an issue with.