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would you stop on a hard shoulder for this?

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eeniemeenieminiemoe2014 · 24/06/2017 20:34

say you know the next services isnt for 8 miles on a motorway and your houdini of a toddler manages to undo her harness and stand up in her seat.. eould you stop on the hard shoulder? or carry on the 8 miles?

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JennyOnAPlate · 24/06/2017 20:35

Yes I would stop.


Grimbles · 24/06/2017 20:35

Stop, obviously!


ExplodingCarrots · 24/06/2017 20:36



RaspberryBeretHoopla · 24/06/2017 20:36

It depends on whether or not they will subsequently hurtle themselves out the door and into oncoming traffic or rather cuddle up and sit still.


YellowLawn · 24/06/2017 20:36

for a toddler out of car seat - yes!
that's an emergency.
keep it short.


InDubiousBattle · 24/06/2017 20:36

Stop! So unsafe to have a toddler roaming out of a seat for 8 miles.


HerOtherHalf · 24/06/2017 20:36



Phillipa12 · 24/06/2017 20:37

Have stopped when my toddler did the same!


macaronip1e · 24/06/2017 20:37

Yes, stop.


SilenceOfThePrams · 24/06/2017 20:37

I would (and have) stopped.

Wouldn't be able to concentrate for those 8 miles, would be worried child would bounce around or try to crawl into the front, accidentally open the doors or grab the wheel, plus the thought of her going through the windscreen if we crashed.

And I'd also want to reinforce absolutely the rule that we do not move without our belts on.


Grimbles · 24/06/2017 20:37

My son did this on the A12 as I was about to come to my exit. There was no layby/hardshoulder so I had to pull into the grass strip at the side of the slip road to sort him out.


RaspberryBeretHoopla · 24/06/2017 20:37

Well fuck. I answered incorrectly.


Coulddowithanap · 24/06/2017 20:38

Definitely stop


NameChange30 · 24/06/2017 20:38

Why do you even have to ask the question?! Surely it's obvious?

Did you and your DH/DP disagree about how to deal with it or something?


user1483387154 · 24/06/2017 20:39

Definitely stop


TupperwareTat · 24/06/2017 20:40



80sMum · 24/06/2017 20:41



NotMeNoNo · 24/06/2017 20:41

I'm not sure. So many vehicles get struck on the HS by wandering HGVs. Absolute minimum of time stopped and don't open the door on the side by the traffic. If she stayed in the back I might carry on to a safer place or exit.


handsfree · 24/06/2017 20:42

Yes, I would class that as an emergency.


Ifitquackslikeaduck · 24/06/2017 20:43

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eeniemeenieminiemoe2014 · 24/06/2017 20:46

I dont have a dp but she did it yesterday on the motorway and I didnt know if it counted as an emergency worthy of risking being hit by a car/truck. She subsquently leant over and undid her baby brother so I did stop as I couldnt concentrate at all :(

Sadly at 2.5 she has absolutely no understanding of the danger or consquences :(

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eeniemeenieminiemoe2014 · 24/06/2017 20:47

and her side is also traffic side and I have another car seat on the other side so I cant lean accross that way.

too scared to go in the car with her now!

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Hedgeh0g · 24/06/2017 20:52

Is she actually undoing the buckle? If so, velcro on the buckle can discourage them. If she's getting her arms out of the straps then try the besafe belt collector or the five point plus device. It must have been very scary!


NameChange30 · 24/06/2017 20:54

Couldn't concentrate - you don't say! Confused

Is there some kind of straightjacket device for securing unruly toddlers in the car?! only half joking


eeniemeenieminiemoe2014 · 24/06/2017 20:56

Yes she can undo both hers and her brothers buckle!

I was tempted by a straight jacket style device!

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